Ask Guidelines & Things to Know
Hello everybody! Welcome to supportivespaceforsurvivors. This is a trauma advice blog. We function primarily by asking questions submitted to us via the ask box. Because of that, we would appreciate if you would read the following ask guidelines before sending any asks. You can also read these policies on the Carrd. The Carrd also has a short informational blurb about each moderator.
We are not crisis support. Please refrain from sending asks requesting for us to talk you out of harming yourself. Here is an extensive, organized list of alternatives to self harm.
We are not professionals or a substitute for professional advice. We aren't able to diagnose anyone through this blog. Because we aren't professionals and can't diagnose, sometimes we will recommend you consult a professional if you are able.
Please specify in your ask what you'd like to see in your response. For example, specify if you want validation, advice, resources, or simply an acknowledgement of your vent.
Please list applicable trigger warnings at the beginning of your ask. This helps our mods avoid triggering asks, or prepare themselves before interacting with an ask if they can handle the content when appropriately warned beforehand. This ensures that we can respond to your ask as efficiently as possible.
Please avoid using the term "narcissist" or its derivatives, like narcissistic, to describe your abuse. We want this to be a safe space for everyone, including those with stigmatized mental illnesses. We don't believe people with stigmatized mental illnesses, especially cluster b disorders like NPD or BPD, are inherently more dangerous or likely to be abusive. Using the term narcissistic is abelist. A further explanation about the abelist nature of the term "narcissist" is here.
We won't publish inflammatory asks. This is a queer-friendly space, including towards a-spec folx. We aren't going to publish asks that are clearly meant to start drama or discourse.
Please remember the mods are human.This blog is run entirely by volunteers. We want to get to all our asks as efficiently as we can. At the same time, there might be some days where no mods feel up to answering asks.
You can request a specific mod answer your ask if you'd like, but please don't ask for a specific mod not to answer it. This includes stating any mod except one can answer your ask. We ask for you to do it this way because having people ask a certain mod not to answer their ask can feel very exclusionary and be upsetting.
A note about our tagging system: We use the terms "tw r" and "tw sa" as a way to lessen the chances of our blog or its posts getting deleted by tumblr's algorithm.
