Reflections after a decade of dating as an ffa
There are like, 5 (ok 6) universal truths I have learned as an ffa/feedist over the years:
Throw other ppls opinions in the garbage//also no one cares if you date very fat ppl and if they do care they probably don’t deserve to be in your life
There are so many cool hot fat ppl in the world. Don’t settle for that one really hot really fat dude who has shitty politics and hates women. There are lots of really hot fat dudes who have good politics and are committed to unpacking misogyny (don’t let dudes treat you like shit just because they weigh 600 lbs @@@@@@ me all through my 20’s)
Find really good friends who are also feedists because they are the ones who truly know what’s up
Be comfortable being alone and being by yourself. Finding partners who are into this kink and share your interests is really fucking hard and rare but worth it. But in order to get here ya gotta be real good with being by yourself and at peace with yourself
Unlearn anti fat bias but also (!!!) don’t let the mainstream, pearl clutching, morality obsessed fat lib movement make you feel like you are broken for being a feedist
Being a feedist is cool as fuck. It’s even cooler when you live it out in person. Keep going, enjoy the fuckin ride
no notes, extremely relatable and great advice. sometimes you gotta experience to learn BUT if you can take any of this to heart pls pls do!





















