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every star trek series since the 1960s: Earth in the first half of the 21st century was chaotic, plagued by social and economic inequality, the disastrous effects of pollution, and a devastating nuclear war
me rewatching star trek in the year 2019:
okay so when do vulcans show up and teach us how to do communism
April 5, 2063 apparently
me, waiting outside for vulcans to arrive in 2063:
Updated Library For Kinksters
I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the updateâŠ
Aftercare
Aftercare 101
Aftercare For Dominants
Coping With Emotional Subdrop
Dom Drop
How To Make A Sub Drop Kit
Online Aftercare
sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare
Subdrop and Aftercare
Subspace and Aftercare
Consent
Consent & BDSM
Guide to Consent
Doms, Daddies & Masters
7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom
12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive
25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles
30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman
45 Things A Girl Wants, But Wonât Ask For
50 Rules for Daddies
100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess
101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)
Alternative Names For âDaddyâ
Alternative Domme Titles
Aspects Of Control
Asserting Ownership - Rules
Daddy Up!
Defining A Daddy Dom
Dominants Need Training Also
Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles
Help For New Doms
How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive
How To Be A Good Dominant
How to Find a Submissive
Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man
New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom
Observations On Doms By A Submissive
So you want to be a Dom?
So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her
Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know
The Dom Commandments
Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind
What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissiveâs Perspective
What does the title Daddy mean?
What is a Daddy Dom?
What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?
What It Means To Be A Dominant
What Makes A Good Dominant
Littles, Subs & Slaves
6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant
7 Common Types of Submissives
10 Tips For Living With A Sadist
10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive
11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant
26 Baby Girl Jobs
50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy
A Bottomâs Responsibility
A Dominantâs Advice To His Submissive
A Man Who Knows YouâŠ
A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom
Acid Test For Subs
Ask A Million And One Questions
Attraction to DD/lg: A Littleâs Perspective
Baby girl or little? A brief introduction
Care and feeding of Daddies
Characteristics Of A Good Daddy
Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner
Feminist Submissive
Finding Your Dominant
Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By
Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls
How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.
âHow do I find Daddy?â A guide to help you safely find the Daddy youâre looking for.
How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?
How To Find A Dom
How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom
I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy
Novice Submissives
Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK
Signs Of A Fake âDominantâ
Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.
Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts
Submissive Pride
Submissive Traits - Intelligence
Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me
What is a Little?
When newbie subs, with asinine âdoms,â need to run away.
Why I call him Daddy
Your Rights As A Submissive
Long Distance Relationships
10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship
How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope
Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans
The Long Distance D/s Relationship
Mental Health
BDSM practitioners âhealthier and less neuroticâ than âvanillaâ peers
Body image & BDSM
How to Get Over Feeling Sad
Is BDSM normal?
Love your Vulva â a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!
Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship
Meditation And Mindfulness
On Cutting
Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories
Things to Do When Youâre Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction
Tips for Recovering from Codependency
What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)
Why Do I Feel Unloveable?
Relationships
10 Habits of Happy Couples
10 Top Communication Mistakes
10 Types of Emotional Manipulators
12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget
50 Best Ways To Say âI Love Youâ
BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End
BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways
Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective
Communication Is Key
Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships
Daddy Doms and their little girls
Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More
Date Night In A Jar
DD/lg In Public
D/s and Domestication
Factors That Make A Relationship
Finding Love When You Least Expect It
Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests
How To Be Present In Your Relationships
How To Build A Healthy Relationship
How To Get What You Want In A Relationship
How To Know When Youâve Found âThe Oneâ
How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship
Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship
Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait
Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore
Searching for a D/s partner?
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships
Stop Arguments Before They Start
The Rewards of a Submissive
Types Of Relationship Insecurity
Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship
What Is Real Love?
When He Doesnât Call
Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
Safety
Another life ruined because of the morality police
Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!
Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldnât
Limits in BDSM
What is Emotional Abuse?
Self Improvement
10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life
10 Steps To Self Care
10 Ways To Be Happy
10 Truths To Live By
Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive
How to be Yourself
How To Deal With Your Enemies
How To Ignore Haters
How to Recognize a Toxic Friend
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
Slut Shaming Explained
Tips for Healing a Broken Heart
What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?
Sex
50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
Basics of Breath Play
D/s or Kinky Sex?
Fetishes Explained
How To Make A Girl Squirt
How To Tell Your Son About Sex
Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality
Sensual Biting
Sex: Myths & Stereotypes
Sex: Practical Details
Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control
So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women
Squirting Educational Video
Squirting Notes
Toys
Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs
BDSM on a budget
Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)
Training
10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs
30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten
40 Very Important DD/lg Facts
Age Play: A Short Guide
BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play
DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)
Etiquette in BDSM Part 1
Etiquette in BDSM Part 2
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind
Glossary of BDSM Terms
Guide To Blood Play
Guide To Bruising
Guide To Talking Dirty
Guide To Wax Play
How Do I Get Started In BDSM?
How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest
How To Make A Comfort Box
Introduction To BDSM
Newbieâs Guide To Vaginal Fisting
Punishments in BDSM Relationships
Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships
Some Thoughts On Rules
The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility
The Need For Rules and Discipline
Topping from the bottom
Canât reblog this enough.
Not the way I figured it would turn out, but I learned something here.
Keystone species!!!!
Nature⊠Far more important to the planet than us humansâŠ
Will always reblog thisâŠâŠ
This dog taking herself sledding will make your entire week đ
Link for these papers?
https://www.washingtonpost.com/graphics/2019/investigations/afghanistan-papers/afghanistan-war-confidential-documents/?
For nearly two decades of war in Afghanistan, U.S. leaders have sounded a constant refrain: We are making progress. They were not, documents
âOne possible future for the private houseâ 1934.
6 Red Flags From Submissives That Turn Off Dominants
By Kayla Lords
We talk an awful lot about predatory, abusive, poser, wannabe Dominants and their red flags. But that makes it sound like every submissive is a perfect angel simply waiting for the right Dominant to appear. Uhhh, not quite.
The vast majority of submissives Iâve met have been good people who are like everyone else â trying to navigate desires, kinks, and life to find the right partner. But that doesnât mean weâre all perfect or we get it all right.
Some submissives can be predatory. Just ask all the women who slide into John Brownstoneâs DMs and promise they can make him forget me. Others arenât actually submissive, theyâre playing a game or enjoying a fantasy. And some just donât know any better or think manipulation is the only way to get what they want.
In this list, weâre not talking exclusively about the motivation behind the action. Weâre simply pointing out a few red flags to show Dominants arenât the only ones who can behave badly.
Begging/Demanding to Be Dominated
âTell me what to do, Daddy!â
âIâm yours, Mistress. Iâll do anything!â
Just like you donât want a Dominant telling you what to do before youâve even had an introduction, most good, solid Dominants donât want the first submissive who throws themselves at their feet. Frankly, regardless of your motivation for doing it, it shows a serious lack of understanding about consent. Worse, it reeks of desperation. The person who pounces on that is likely full of red flag behavior, too.
Constantly Moving the Goal Post
Pardon the sports metaphor (Iâm not exactly sporty or athletic). We all get to have our limits, boundaries, expectations, and needs in a D/s relationship. But some submissives will tell a Dominant they need to see this, experience that, feel this emotion before theyâre ready to submit. The Dom jumps through hoops to accomplish it, only to find that the rules have changed again. Now they need to do something else before you submit.
Iâm not at all saying that a submissive canât change their mind. Of course you can. But if every goal achieved only brings more requirements, it may be time to take a look at what you really want. At best youâre really unsure and need more time, but at worst, youâre fucking with someoneâs feelings and manipulating them.
Refusing to Do Anything You Said You Would Do
Before you pull out the pitchforks, this isnât about boundaries or consent. Youâve had the conversations and negotiated with your Dominant. The parameters have been set. Youâve agreed to certain things. And now, when itâs time to act on it, you refuse. Worse, youâre not talking to your Dominant about whatâs going on.
Are you scared? Thatâs normal. Talk to your Dominant.
Are you having second thoughts? Also completely normal. Talk to your Dominant.
Have you changed your mind about D/s or this specific partner? It happens. Talk to them. (See the pattern?)
When you donât talk about whatâs going on, you wind up manipulating the emotions of the other person. It also makes people angry and relationships get wrecked. If itâs fear, bad tapes, or anything else, talk about it!
Having Zero LimitsâŠor Saying Youâll Do Anything
Any smart and/or experienced Dominant who hears a submissive say that have no limits is going to do one of a few things.
Theyâre turning the other way and finding someone who has a sense of self-preservation.
They might (if youâre lucky) take you under their wing and teach you how wrong you are about that.
If they happen to be devious, sadistic, or have a twisted sense of humor (thatâs every Dominant I know and respect), theyâll ask you to prove it. âShave your headâ or âCut off a fingerâ or âRemove all of your clothes and walk through this restaurant naked.â
When you come across the poser, wannabe, fake, predator, or abuser with your âIâll do anythingâ attitude, you put yourself in danger. Everyone has limits, even if youâre not quite sure what they are yet or how to discuss them.
Not Paying Attention to What a Dominant is Looking For
A lot of us meet each other online. It doesnât matter whether itâs on Twitter, through Fetlife, or in a dating app. Which means we all have profiles of some sort. In that profile most people tell you exactly what you need to know about them.
âLove my slave. Not looking.â
âLooking for a service submissive.â
Next thing these Doms know, someone slides into their DMs offering themselves. This submissive isnât a good fit and doesnât want what the Dominant wants. But they saw âDominantâ or âMistressâ or âSirâ and figured one Dominant is like another.
Just like we hate being treated as if all subs want the same thing, the same is true with Dominants. If youâre going to send out the same tired message to everyone with a big D title, donât be surprised if youâre ignored or blocked. Youâve sent a clear signal that youâre not interested in doing the most basic work to form a D/s relationship â reading a profile.
Not Wanting to Participate in the Relationship
Slightly different from not doing anything youâll say youâll do (see above), this is about expecting the Dominant to do all the work. Yes, some D/s dynamics mean that a Dominant âtakes careâ of their submissive. Not every Dom wants that level of responsibility and unless they can be with you every moment of the day, itâs not realistic all the time.
Even when it is a possibility, youâre still a part of the relationship. You have a responsibility to help make it work. If youâre not willing to talk, do your part, or be an active participant at the very beginning, it means you wonât be there long-term â especially when things get tough or when the D/s ebbs and flows naturally.
If you expect a Dominant to make all the decisions and all you have to do is show up and look nice,you may be surprised when they refuse. Yes, Doms want some level of control. But not every Dom wants a doormat or someone they can micromanage. Most want a partner who wants to build something with them.
Not every submissive behaves well. Even submissives exhibit red flags that Dominants will and should avoid.
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I found this article and thought many would find it interesting. We often talk about fake doms, but rarely do I see anything about fake subs. There are fakes on both sides of the slash and I think we should be aware of the red flags of both.
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Iâm glad this came back around. Good information!
I failed as a sub last night.
This is really hard to write about.
I didnât break a rule. I didnât willfully misbehave. I wasnât inappropriate or bad. But I failed as a sub.
Iâm Daddyâs sub and little. That means that he owns me. And that means that my number one job in serving him is to make sure that his property (me) is happy, healthy, well-maintained and well taken care of.
Last night I did not do that.
Daddy and I had a great night. He took me out for hotdogs at my favorite place and then he took me to the Disney Store and Build-A-Bear. We were celebrating that Iâd been a good girl and gotten a whole monthâs worth of stickers. It was all so great!
Then we went home and Daddy ordered me to get on my knees and take his cock out.
Now normally, thatâs my favorite place to be. But I wasnât in the headspace for sex. Like, I really wasnât in the headspace for sex. But Iâve been having a weird relationship with sex lately (more on that later) and I thought if I just got down to business that the headspace would come.
It didnât.
The thing you have to understand is that my slave heart so badly wants to serve and please him. It brings me peace and it brings me joy. But what I did last night was let my desire to please him supersede my duty to serve him. And it created a bit of a mess.
I did not want to have sex. I did not want to do anything sexual. I was not in the headspace for it. I was literally fighting back tears - and still, I didnât say anything.
He even asked me at one point. Green? he said. And I nodded. Even though my brain was screaming, no, no, no, RED!
Now, because of my past sexual trauma going forward with sex when I was in the headspace I was in could have been incredibly damaging. It could have triggered me really badly - or even retraumatized me.Â
But I so badly wanted to please him. I was so afraid of disappointing him. We only get to see each other a couple times per week and I didnât want to be a downer. I didnât want to take this away from him.
So you know what I did instead?
I took away the power Iâd given him to make decisions for me. By not telling him what was going on, by not communicating to him what I was feeling and where my head was at, I not only silenced my voice but I took away his ability to care for my needs. Without even asking him.
I effectively neutralized our dynamic in that moment. Like I said before, I let my desire to please him supersede my duty to serve him.
I should have spoken up. I should have used my safeword. I should have told him what I was feeling and where my head was at.
But I didnât.
Thankfully, Daddy knows me and he stopped play and went straight to cuddles and storytime and aftercare instead. But what if he hadnât?Â
Things could have been terrible. I could have harmed myself and that definitely would have harmed him. I wasnât thinking about my needs or his needs or even his wants.Â
He wants me happy. He wants me healthy. He wants me taken care of and safe and protected and in a good headspace. He needs me that way.
His needs and wants supersede my wants. And that means that, yes, his desire to see me happy and healthy and safe and protected come before my desire to please him.Â
I failed as a sub last night. By not speaking up, by not openly communicating with my Dom, by holding back when I should have said something, by not using my safeword⊠I failed.
Now, why am I talking about this when itâs so hard to write?
Because we see so much on here about mistakes Dom(me)s have made and ways theyâve fucked up and I think itâs important to remember that a D/s relationship - like any relationship - is a two-way street and that anybody in the dynamic can make mistakes and do damage.
Luckily, play stopped before damage was done but I need to reflect on myself and my choices and figure out why I didnât speak up. Why I didnât safeword. And why I let my prime directive to keep his property healthy, happy, and whole fall by the wayside - and allowed it to, instead, be supplanted by my desire to please him.Â
Iâll learn from this. Weâll both learn from this. And Iâm sure this post will lead to conversation (as it should).Â
But in the meantime, I just need to make sure Iâm remembering my prime directive and making that the center of everything I do - even if that means (especially if that means) I need to tap out.
I owe him that.
Powerful and important.
Because science
You donât have to be perfect to be a good D/Lg Daddy. Good thing because nobodyâs prefect! Â
But that right there?
Being kinkier than youâd expect someone to be whoâs also kind, caring, and compassionate?Â
That right there is a perfect roadmap!
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THIS IS SO IMPORTANT
Reblogging because I care about you guys
Important
Rohypnol has an INCREDIBLY salty taste to it. Itâs disgusting. And it also isnât a drug that acts immediately! The minute you notice the salty taste, you have about 5-10 minutes to get somewhere safe or call an ambulance, and it CAN be fought if youâre aware of it. It will make you woozy, it will make you so dizzy you canât stand upright, it will certainly make you unable to walk properly, but if you struggle to remain conscious you can get about 20 extra minutes of consciousness from the drug before it will knock you out completely. If youâre in a public place, and the person who drugged you is trying to take you somewhere private, start. a. fight. Insist as LOUDLY and as VIOLENTLY as you can that you refuse to go anywhere with them. Odds are theyâre trying to make as little of a scene as possible as they drag you away, and if youâre putting up a fight and very clearly âdrunkâ, eyes will turn on them and theyâll either need to let you go, or cause a serious scene, which they donât want. Donât just act like youâre just protesting being taken home, though. Fight like your life depends on it even if they arenât assaulting you. Cause. A. Scene. Thatâs the last thing they want.Â
Everyone should reblog this!
Very useful.
Be aware! These are very useful tips. Fight. Do not be a victim. Be a warrior. Always!
Help to all that need it
Knowledge is power.
Sir, how would you use a girl in desperate need, drunk and alone
I walk up to her and grab her by her arm. I notice the slight shake and head dip. You canât focus your eyes on anything. You are dressed like a filthy little fuck toy. So I take my coat off. Smile and walk you to my car. This party isnât a place for what you need. There arenât the proper supplies here. I see all the other men who wanted to use you and your friends arenât good enough for you as you walk out with me. The car stops. I get out and come to the door and open it. I pick you up and carry you through the doorway. I take you to the kitchen and sit you on the counter. Your filthy. I need you wiped off. I take a rag and wash your face. I remove my jacket that was keeping you warm. Time for the bedroom. Time for the proper supplies. First I give you an ibeprouphen(sp?) and a big bottle of water. I tuck you under the covers and put a bucket by the side of the bed. I check to see if I can charge your phone so when you wake up You arenât without it. I lay out my smallest sweatpants and T-shirt so you can wear something else if you feel the clothes you are in have a layer of drunk mess on it. I sleep on the couch and rub my cock to all the other little sluts I know who consent to my dominance without being under the influence of alcohol. A real man takes care of a women in need. Your friends shouldnât of let you leave with me. They donât deserve you if they wonât always protect you. The way you were dressed doesnât mean you are a slut.(But I do appreciate the view.) Even if you know I am a dominate and I know you are kinda interested in trying some bdsm for once, if you didnât consent sober you donât get the experience because we are not in a committed relationship. Protect. Real men protect.
Nothing a woman gives is worth it unless she gives it out of her own free will.
First C in CNC is the sexiest.
Sexiest thing Iâve ever read.
Nailed it.
There we go.
I was really hoping it would take that turn. đ„°
Consent is sexiest.
h o n e s t l y.//
Always be yourself
Amen
