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Sub/Dom Drop

What goes UP must come down. Basic scientific principle. However, when it comes to Dom and Subs what does this mean? First, there is a state of mind that we refer to as Subspace and Domspace. This is when our mental state is altered by endorphins which flood the brain through deliverance of pain and pleasure. Adrenaline also floods the bloodstream . All of these brain chemicals dumping into your bodies create the feeling of being of an amazing HIGH! it feels amazing! However this feeling cannot last. After sessions are done, the chemicals will slowly leave the body and this is when sub/drop will occur. This can happen immediately or even over the next few days. The length of time of when drop happens honestly depends on many factors. Length of time of the interaction, the intensity, how well you prepared and took care of yourself before the acts, after care and so much more. When the body and brain begins to come back to the normal state , drop can happen and drop is very personal. No two people will experience the same affects. For me it is an emotional and sometimes physical ride that isn’t fun. I get very very cold. And when drop starts it feels like the bottom of my emotional stability has been pulled out from under me.

Drop can happen at any time from immediately after play is over to days later. Being prepared is important. There isn’t a one size fits all way to lessen the effects of drop or prevent it all together. Only over time will you determine what you need and want. Having an aftercare kit ready and protocols in place which will start immediately after play is over and can continue for days later is one way to be prepared.

Snacks, water, coloring books , stuffy. Whatever you need to help you soothe yourself. I have stuffies in my car, on the couch and in my bedroom. I can grab one at a moment's notice to hug tight or stroke. This helps me. But the best thing is his and her voice. Being able to talk isn’t always possible, so having a video saved helps me. Something I can pop up and watch and listen to. You will develop what YOU need. Cuddling, shower, bath, food. Lots of sleep, watching movies, playing games. What makes you feel better?? What soothes you?

Something is very important that we all need to know. Each session is different. Each time we sexually play or impact play is different. The intensity of the FLIGHT and DROP greatly differ depending on so many outside factors. Your emotional state at the beginning, how much sleep you have had, what you’ve eaten, how hydrated you are, if it is your special time of the month and so much more. Just because you have never dropped doesn’t mean you won’t. The worst thing to happen after a session or time together is to be left alone. Aftercare is so needed. If you are with someone who doesn’t believe in aftercare, then they shouldn’t be getting play time. Aftercare helps lessen drop. You are worthy of being cared for after play. BOTH sides of the slash need care. And again, that is personal. Discussing what you need after a scene/play is very important and should be discussed during the vetting of a potential partner. If what you need for aftercare isn't something the person you are vetting believes in or cannot give, this is something to be very aware of. You are important and your needs are valid. Poor or lacking aftercare and be damaging to your emotional stability. Drop can be extremely harsh and the aftercare can lessen the impact of drop. Both sides of the slash can experience the amazing high as well as the lows of drop. Take care of each other.