#16 personalites

[introvertchill]

Hi I'm intj, and I was wondering if you have any tips for making friends? Intj tips or introvert in general! Thanks

Hello fellow INTJ(sorry this took so long to answer, I just finished my exams)

Making friends - to me - is a difficult process as people tend to find me a bit distant and I’m not good at comforting others or expressing emotion.After asking a few extroverts the general idea I got from them was “just talk to them” which is quite unhelpful. Making friends is really about finding the right people, though I know little about the specifics. My closest friends are NTs, we share similar interests which makes them easier to converse with and it helped us develop our relationship into friendship. Not everyone is the same but it is my understanding that INTJs want to have deep discussions on topics that others may find difficult to approach. Going from an MBTI standpoint, we Ns tend to gravitate towards fellow intuitives, already reducing the population of possible friends to 26%. There are different types of INTJs, some prefer other Ts, some prefer Fs and some have little preference for one or the other. Your preferences have a large part in making friends as you have a better relationship if you enjoy each other’s company.

So overall I’d suggest finding someone that interests you, find some common ground and a way to present your interest in them. Extroverts tend to overlook the effort it takes for many introverts to stay in contact and be assertive in making plans etc but introverts will probably notice and appreciate this. I find that making friends is easier in a school environment when you are forced to interact.

I wish you the best of luck.- Admin Evie (INTJ)

[introvertchill]

Since I saw here lately a lot of asks about INFJs and I am sure I've seen somewhere conparison of differences between INFJs and INFPs. The thing is I noticed something interesting that I don't quite understand. It was about infj not getting drained through online socialaizing as much as irl couse they "absorb" emotions only when face to face ineraction while infps always mirror emotions nomatter in which enviornment. Is it true? And how does it affect a person? Could you explain?

Hello Fellow Introvert, 

Though I am an INFP, I can attest to the INFJs absorbing emotions as I have known one my whole life and I am friends with others. INFJs are sponges. When it comes to emotions they do get drained because they are physically with the person and can feel all of their emotions and take them on as their own. So if a person is stressed and feels it, they take it on as their stress. Online they can’t grasp the full amount because they can’t see their expressions and body language of the other person so it is like an enigma. It’s still emotional for them, just not nearly as much as if the person was right there in front of them and able to give them a vibe. 

On the flip side, INFPs are have the ability to mirror emotion. So if a person writes to us or we read something even in a fictional book, we literally can feel what a character in that book is feeling and we mirror it. Though not as in depth as INFJs, but we still feel it pretty bad and it can actually pain us and drain us. For example, and I know this sounds weird, but if there is a show on, and I know the part coming is embarrassing to the character having seen the episode before, I literally turn my head and I can’t watch due to the embarrassment I feel for that character. I know again it sounds weird but I have been that way my whole life. We don’t TAKE ON the emotions as our own like INFJs do, we channel and FEEL what the other person is feeling at that time. It’s the craziest and I will sit there and talk to my INFJs mom and friend about it and they can’t relate but they find it intriguing. Mind you, not every INFP is the same though. We are all different in our own little ways.I hope that gives you some insight on that particular question. I only answer based off of what I have felt.  Feel free to message us!Best Love <3

Admin Autumn (INFP)

[introvertchill]

We should do a discord server or something, it'd be cool if all the introverts here talk in one space. And I know that maybe -very likely- it will take us some time to actually talk, but I think that when we get to talk and be friends, it'd be very nice

That’s actually a really cool idea! I tried to start a Google Community with the same thoughts in mind, but I kinda got heavy into work and moved lol But I love the idea. That way people can be more interactive (when they feel more free to of course) and post their thoughts and content too :) Thank you for your thoughts Anon!

Best

-Admin Autumn (INFP)

[introvertchill]

so I just saw an advertisement about getting a job in ikea and their catchphrase was "you'll never work alone" and I have to say its the worst catchphrase ever

I agree.It should be more along the lines of “work together or hide in the children’s egg chairs until your left alone”.I dislike working in groups, I am that person in class that stares at their book or out the window until everyone has sat in groups. My teachers have learnt to just let me work alone.

- Admin Evie (INTJ)

[introvertchill]

Hello! ^^ So I did the MBTI test last year and I was an INTJ and a few weeks ago I took it again (because curious) and apparently I'm an INFP-T. And now I'm so confused? Can you explain a little what could it mean? Thank you :)

Firstly, I have heard of people’s types changing before, this could be for a number of reasons but I think the most common is understanding yourself more.Also, it is important to add that the Myers Briggs system is flawed, not every single person can fit into a category but as humans we like to categorise everything so that fact can be forgotten.Lastly, the tests are not accurate, they are a suggestion to start you off. They tend not to consider the cognitive functions which is the deeper meaning behind the four letters you are given.

The two types you mentioned are quite different from my experience and research. Their functions are:INTJ: Ni-Te-Fi-SeINFP: Fi-Ne-Si-TePeople will usually develop their first function in early years of their life. For example, when I had learned to speak at the age of two I would finish my ENFP mother’s sentences as she took to long to finish them herself (short attention span). This is suggesting my Ni was developing from an early age.My INFP cousin is the same age as me and it was apparently obvious that he felt very deeply at a young age which suggests that his Fi was developing. It was evident from an early age that we were quite different. For example, he was always more sensitive and I was always more calculating. The others develop over time and you should read all about them if you want to know your type and if/why your’s changed.I know that my cousin and myself have always been different which is why I currently struggle to understand how someone’s type can change drastically. This leads me to believe that some people either didn’t do a lot of research before or they can’t fit into one of the 16 categories. It could also mean that you didn’t understand yourself enough to get an accurate answer which I have seen happen before.

In conclusion, you should do research to confirm your type then figure out if you have changed over the last year. If you are struggling to put yourself in to one category then that doesn’t matter, not everyone will.

It would be interesting to hear your findings and feel free to ask more questions if need be.

- Admin Evie (INTJ)

[introvertchill]

How long does it take for an introvert to be fully comfortable around somebody?

Well thank you for the question.

Really it depends on the person, and how often the introvert talks and spends time with them. Even if the introvert talks to them in a group setting or one on one can make a difference in how comfortable they are around somebody. Also the conversations they have can really gage how comfortable they are with eachother. Is it deep conversation or still on the light side? Is it awkward or one sided conversations?Sometimes there are just some people introverts will instantly click with and some that may take a bit longer to fully gain that trust. There aren’t many people that I personally feel COMPLETELY comfortable with, but the ones that I do are family members, and friends that are like family to me. I do feel comfortable around a lot of my other friends too, but not to the point I can be my full crazy self. Sometimes I feel like I don’t show my whole self to anyone. Which is ok, no one has to know every detail about you.There will be people that can take only hours or days to be comfortable around and others that can take years and years to build up that full comfort. It really comes down to how long it takes the introvert to be their full self around somebody. So if it is hard for an introvert to be open and show different sides of themselves, then it can take them a long time to finally get to that level of comfort. I hope this answers your question and helps in anyway.

(Admin Blue- ISFJ)

[introvertchill]

Hello there! I recently took the personality test and it revealed I have an INFP-T personality but in having trouble what it exactly means. Any help or advice you can give me?

Hello! INFP is your type, the letters stand for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, and Percieving. There’s all sorts of in depth profiles for each type that you can find around the internet (I’ll post some links at the bottom.) 

Now the -T is a little bit more tricky. The possibilities are T, and A, T standing for turbulent, and A standing for assertive. Not all tests will give you this, but I know that the one at 16 Personalities does. This letter relates to self confidence and how you respond to stress.

A turbulent individual is going to be more sensitive to stress and probably not cope with it quite as well as an assertive individual. An INFP-A will come across more “chill,” and an INFP-T more emotional.

Like all other parts of MBTI, these shouldn’t be thought of as good or bad things, just indicators of where we need to focus on for self growth.

Here’s those links for some type descriptions:

http://www.personalitypage.com/INFP.html

https://www.16personalities.com/infp-personality

https://www.truity.com/personality-type/INFP

-ISTP Dan

[introvertchill]

I just found out that I am INFJ-T. What does that mean?

Hello, my fellow INFJ! Sorry it’s taken me so long. I’m still learning about mbti, so I wasn’t sure I could answer very well. 

INFJ is a personality type (which I suppose you know). INFJ’s are very rare, making up only about %1 of the population. Infj’s find it pretty easy to make connections with people, so people tend to think we’re introverts. But we most definitely are not. We need a lot of time to recharge (my ESFP sister says that I need a year alone in my room for every week I’m around people).  Infj’s tend to be excellent listeners, and tend to get a little frustrated when people don’t extend us the same courtesy (at least I do). There’s a lot more to our personality, but I don’t want to overwhelm you. You can look on pinterest and stuff to learn more, Hope this helps!

Admin Kate (resident INFJ)