It was mid to late 2014. I had went to a party at one of our mutual friends place. Her name was Marissa, we still maintained the same circle of friends over the years just never with them at the same time, other then the one time we were and did not really say too much to each other just small talk. This time was slightly different because although we did not say much to each other. We actually spoke less. I wore a black Jimi Hendrix tee shirt that she had gotten for me during our time together. I think it was just coincidence. I did not plan that. I remarked to a friend in front of her that complimented me on the shirt that she had gotten it for me years ago. She did not say anything.
Till the time i left that was the only interaction. As i was leaving she was noticeably drunk and once she found out that my brother and i were leaving she said “Nooooo, dont leave :(.” to my brother and i. I walked over and she hugged me tightly. It was nice i hugged her back and kinda pet her side and enjoyed her embrace for the first time in years. I took in the experience and then chalked it up to her being drunk said my goodbyes as the hug turned awkwardly long and she gave my brother a similar one. That was what i would consider the start of our new found friendship. That was over 2 years after the break up possibly around Easter.
I did not see her again for quite some time and did not really think about it. i was still blocked on facebook and really thought nothing had changed. After Super smash bros 4 released on the Wii U my brother held a tournament. She and Marissa showed up. I did not have any words with her. This was in November of 2014. The only interaction we had was as she was leaving i was surprised to hear her say “bye Stephen” That made me smile hearing her say my name again was pleasant and took me off guard.
She had avoided contact with me by pretty extreme measures over the past 2 and half years at this point, but the last two times we were in the same room although not much of an interaction and i did attempt to keep my distance to respect what i had to come except as what she wanted. She was cordial with me. I once again thought noting of it. Just excepted the goodbye and kept playing games.
About a week or two later she added me back on FB it was some time in Nov 2014. This was an absolute shock to me. I did not just think this was her being polite or drunk. She had intentions of developing a friendship with me. I was very glad to see that. I sent her the first message later that month, fb has it on Nov 27th. I asked her if she wanted to catch up. She told me she had to work and then i went back to school so was no longer in town to set up a meeting. We made inconsistent small talk for about 5 months before we actually got to meet one on one and reconnect.
During that 5 month period of small talk we did exchange one message between each other that filled my heart and made me feel sort of relief and joy.
March 17th 2015 she started the conversation
Her “We should catch up.I kinda just wanna tell you about all the things that have happened to me in the last like 4 years and I wanna know what's been happening with you too”
Me “ Wow, i am really happy to hear that. I would love to.”
That was the entire exchange. I was so grateful to hear her say what i put in bold. Just an amazing feeling. At this point in my life i am busy with School, my beautiful current girl friend of a little less than a year and a half (as i wright this we have been together for over 2 and a half years) that am in love with and i am training for a bodybuilding show. So after this brief exchange we went back to inconsistent small talk till may.
We met up in May 2015 six months after we reconnected on facebook. I wanted to meet up with her badly but it was not one of my priorities which is why it took so long to make it happen. We went for a walk around a lake and in this time I got the chance to tell her that i was sorry for the way our relationship went and that i did love her. I told her that she deserved better. After i got my closure we changed to more current topics and worked on becoming friends and filling in the gaps. We still hang out a few times a week since then and are slowly moving through the process of filling each other in on what happened over the past 4 years since we split.
I consider her a great friend of mine and to make matters even better my gf loves her and they get along great and have their own unique friendship. She was and is an amazing girl that will always have a place in my heart. I love deeply and that will never change.
P.s My memory is phenomenal
