The Toxic Friends that You Will Have To be Aware Of
Friendship is beautiful. Over time, I personally focus more on the quality compared to the quantity. Life is complicated already, so I have no interests in adding more unnecessary negativity into my world. However, dealing with many types of personalities, knowing different characters, and learning from the failure of your past friendship are probably the most significant method to make you a better person.
The 3 types of toxic friend that you will have to cut out from your life:
1. The two-faced one
It’s the easiest type to recognize. When they spend time talking to you, they are talking about someone else. From them you usually get the newest gossips and the newest updates about everyone’s life. But once you are not around, they start talking about you to other people. The worst version of this, is, when they pretend to listen to you when you have doubts about some important thing, and you believe them so much, that you even ask them for advice. 3 months later, BAM! Everyone seems to know about your problem already, and with, the improvised version, making you feel so stupid to invest a good deal of time talking to them about that.
2. The super negative one
This is the type of people who are unhappy with themselves and what they can see, hear, and focus on, is just negativity. When you talk about your latest obsession to go on trip, they pointed out how scary it might be. When you talk about how you think you might find the man of your dream, they said it’s way too fast and you’d better re-consider it again. They keep complaining about everything, from the queue line which is too long, the deadline for final project which is too early, or the today’s weather, which is, way too hot. Spending too much time with these people will either, make you an unhappy person too, or, throw you into a frustration,” Why can’t they just say something nice once in a while?”
3. The bad influence
Generally, they are just not a good people to hang out with. Do you start to take a bad habit after spending some time with them? It can be anything, actually, depends on how you live your life and the definition of bad for you. For me, it’s when I start to take a habit that is actually not my thing, make me terribly uncomfortable, or when I start treat people in a way they shouldn’t be treated. Examples can be: when you start lying to your parents, when you spend too much money in a luxurious lifestyle that actually you cannot afford, when you start doing immoral things, when you start skipping classes for nothing, or when you start being rude to other people.
The most important thing is not to block them out of your life (because these people are everywhere, you just have to be selective with whom you’ll open up to, spend more time with the people who are supportive, and help to make the better version of you!), but let’s just, at least, not to be one of them.
