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[glitchmarrow]

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[anon-radfem-posts]

that open poll about being dysphoric and nothing helps sounds exacty like something I would have written 15+ years ago. There is always and underlying "please tell me I am just trans and this is the only right option for me" in things like this. You desperately list everything possible that people could tell you in regards to your dysphoria so everyone knows YOUR dysphoria is just a part of you, just natural. Different to all the others for whom it isn't natural. And I really get it. I still think it's a mental disorder to fixate so heavily on your body. It's not normal, no matter what your fixation is on. It's always caused by a society that disconects us from our bodies, that makes us believe our body and "Us" is something different. There is no obvious trauma needed, the trauma is a society that has told people for generations that they aren't their body and their body is something fixable. Women will always be hit harder by this. I had to laugh out loud when I read the bit about cat calling because cat calling is such a superficial thing. Misogyny is much more... you dying because medical science and crash tests aren't made with the female body in mind. Misogyny is being mutilated and forced to give birth. Even if you never experienced anything close to these things, this is the foundation of what our current society is and has been for a long long time. I think any woman at any time could develop sex dysphoria and it would be 100% logical. Not natural, but logical. There is no need to over explain your dysphoria. To be a woman in a society that disconects all people and especially women from their bodies is more than enough reason. Other women experience this but in different ways like anorexia. I sometimes feel like there isn't even much logic to why someone develops which kind of disconnect. There probably is in most cases but in a lot of them, there just isn't. It's a logical reaction to the society we live in as women. I also think that because we live in a society that is that way and because there is little to no effort to fix that and/or to actually help dysphoric women, transitioning might sometimes be the most logical option. If that mental disconnect is so intense for you, if you feel like it's something that's a part of you, you might be too far gone for help that's available in the current system we have. If transition brings actual relief for something that we can't actually help someone with right now, it is what it is. I never judge women who transition. Yea sure someday patriarchy is gone and women are liberated or someday we will have the means to help women with this. But it's such an overwhelming issue in such an overwhelming world that's built to create dysphoria and alienation from the body. So I can't blame women who seek solutions that make them feel better in THIS world state they happen to be born into. I have to say though, no transitioned woman I have ever met got rid of her dysphoria completely and I always despaired over that when I was dyphoric. I personally didn't have the money or the means in my country to medically transition. I can't tell you why but I am not dysphoric anymore. I was for way over 25 years of my life but through some of the things I did or experienced, it just stopped. I am my body and that's just that. I don't think about my body much. I have no advice though, so that's a bit useless. Sorry. I hope things get better for you with transition or without.

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