I love my cousin and listen to whatever he says with a healthy dose of scepticism considering that he is prone to compulsive lying, but there is a line. When I get a call at 11:43 (a time he knows I’m normally asleep by), and he starts bawling after he asks “how do you deal with a dad that always hits you?” That is the line.
Now, I can believe that my uncle is hitting him. Part of why my mom and I moved was because he was abusive and had anger issues. My mom tried to get his girlfriend to leave him, but she wouldn’t. He was a good man according to her. The day he was beating her (WHILE she was pregnant), and then he punched my grama while we were trying to get him to get away from her, that was the day I stopped saying he was my favorite uncle. Hell, at that point, I stopped loving him for a time. I was disgusted at being related to him, but I thought he changed.
My cousin is someone you have to be very wary with when it comes to believing. He swears up and down thst he’s YouTube famous, and that he’s really good friends with people like Markiplier and Jackscepticeye and all those other YT gamers. But when I found out he was watching not just porn but incest teen hentai and so I told my grama, who then told his therapist, his response was to say that our other uncle was the one who showed it to him and that he was the one constantly trying to force him to watch it. My uncle almost lost his kids over a lie my cousin told to not get in trouble. I know this was a lie because my uncle doesn’t even know what anime is, much less hentai. And I’m sure he watches porn, but he can’t stand my cousin. He wouldn’t give him pointers on what videos to watch, even if it killed him because he literally cannot stand him. I was the only one who ever got the civil version of my cousin. Everyone else in the family, he calls to cuss out and to annoy.
Again, healthy skepticism. But I am truly worried. He says the abuse has been going on for the past three years. Initially I thought he was just exaggerating the corporal punishment he received, but kicking your child for annoying you, beating with a belt because they didn’t throw out the trash at nearly midnight, punching him for wanting to go out with a friend... The punishment must match the crime, and in this case, it most certainly does not!
My boy doesn’t deserve this. I know he can be annoying and a pain in the butt st times, but he deserves to feel safe in his own home. He shouldn’t be calling someone at 11:43 at night to ask how to deal with an abusive father, and he shouldn’t be brought to tears because he feels lost and helpless.
Told him to tell his therapist at his next appt, but either way, I might have to make a call too. But since all I have to tell them is now this post I’m saving about what he said, I really don’t have anything for them except a tip so they’ll go and check on his home again. I don’t know what to do, but I need to do something. Obviously the adults who are supposed to take care of him aren’t doing it. Either this therapist needs to help, or my grama is going to hate me because I end up being the reason all the cousins get lost... (they’re 5 kids in total in thst house. They’re all going to end up suffering if he’s telling the truth. And he most likely is). But I can’t let them suffer like that if it’s true...
