People who are anti-kink at pride, I beg of you to read academic journals discussing the queer beauty of intercommunication, trust and growth through BDSM practices. How the passing of knowledge is queered from patriarchal, heirarchal, heternormative ways to an egalitarian and non-gendered manner that inherently gives agency to those in the minority. Kink when done right is QUEER: Saying "Fuck white cishets trying to harm and colonize my body, I LIKE pain and will experience it on my own terms." Or "Fuck white cishets trying to harm and colonize my body, I will use that pain to nurture, educate, and help others take agency where the government and society has tried to take it away from us." Most importantly it says "Fuck anyone who tries to shame and hide us." Queer liberation was also part of the wider feminist sexual liberation movement which brought access to birth control, sex education, and abortion.
Look up Robyn Henderson-Espinoza's "Decolonial Erotics: Power Bottoms, Topping from Bottom Space, and the Emergence of Queer Sexual Theology."