#about transphobia

[the-transgenda-agenda]

General reminder that transphobes don’t actually care about pronouns and that basically all negative discourse surrounding pronouns is just filler non-arguments designed to waste your time and exhaust you. Same goes for anything regarding “making up new words” as a “reason” against trans people. All of that bullshit is just to exhaust and piss you off. No transphobe actually gives a fuck about pronouns, and if they do, they’re probably not worth talking to. It’s just an excuse to be disrespectful and pretend that there is a “logical” reason to not respect trans people. Language changes and evolves over time. Pretending that it doesn’t makes you look like an idiot.

[styrofauxm]

There is no reason to be bothered by inclusive language. You’re just being transphobic.

If you don’t want to say ”people with uteruses,” say ”people.” Problem solved.

[corvidiscourse]

Fun fact! “I make jokes about objects and random things being my gender but xenogenders are harmful to the community!!!” is actually just code for “Nonbinary identities are only palatable to me when they are cisheteronormative or a joke.”

[the-consistent-anti]

Times when it's acceptable to misgender a trans person;

When they've specifically asked you to because they're closeted, especially if they're in the presence of unaccepting family members who could threaten them with abuse if they were outed.

Times when it's NOT acceptable to misgender a trans person;

As a joke.

To win an argument or make a point.

Because you think they deserve it.

Because you don't think it's a big deal and/or you're pretty sure they'll forgive you for it this time.

Any other circumstance.

[the-consistent-anti]

I was born into a religious purity cult that pushes an extreme gender binary. I had femininity forced onto me from the literal day I was born. It took me awhile to realize I was only wearing dresses to church because given the choice, I didn't want to wear dresses. I grew my hair long simply because I knew cutting it short would make me stand out. I felt bad that I couldn't wear make up. I shaved my body hair simply because I knew I had to. I was forced under such extreme pressure to perform femininity for the people around me who only approve of women if they hold themselves to that standard. I still have nightmares where I have to shave my legs and live with painful, itchy skin all the time, and where my hair is long again and I have to just accept it.

That's why it's so fucking disheartening to me when I get onto this stupid fucking website and find trans women declaring that people are universally rewarded for performing masculinity, that masculinity is always dangerous and reinforcing the partiarchy and could never possibly be something radical or freeing, and they push the very obvious rad/fem idea of a forced binary dividing men and women into "TMA" or "TME" as if no other axis of oppression exists.

It's obviously not most trans women. Most trans women understand that it can go the other way; That some people had femininity forced onto them the same way they were forced to perform masculinity. I know someone who said she wished she had the ability to be feminine when she was young, because being allowed to live as a femboy would have saved her from a lot of trauma. SHE GETS IT BECAUSE SHE LIVED IT TOO.

I've finally freed myself from the internalized idea that I can't be a real woman if I don't perform femininity well enough. I cut my hair short and I wear pants all the time and I don't shave and I'm so much happier for it. I now identify as transmasc nonbinary, and I'm so fucking grateful to the trans community at large for teaching me that I'm not less valid for being masculine. Being yourself really is the solution.

And now we have a fucking terf psy-op coming from the very targets of that ideology, telling us our experience isn't really valid and that afab people have "afab privilege" as if that's not literally something pushed by honest-to-god misogynistic MRAs.

Seriously. Knock it off.

[the-consistent-anti]

So fucking funny that someone told me that I of all people could have access to male privilege in any context just because I talk about transandrophobia a lot.

First of all, I didn't even know I was transmasc when this bullshit started. I just have like, compassion and don't like seeing people get torn apart due to bigotry. Ever heard of it? I would be just as outraged if the trans community at large became massively transmisogynistic too, and I know that because there actually is a lot of really bad transmisogyny even in the trans community. I thought for awhile that I was just a really passionate cis ally.

Second, even though I know I'm transmasc now, I'm still not out to anyone irl except for a few very close family members. I'm not on T, I don't do any kind of voice training, and I have big tits and wide hips with thicc thighs to match. I get called ma'am wherever I go. Even though I have short hair and dress in men's clothes, everyone thinks I'm just a regular cis woman, maybe a very dedicated tomboy. I don't even look trans, I just look butch.

And third, ALL OF MY LEGAL DOCUMENTS VERY CLEARLY STATE THAT I AM FEMALE. Again, I'm terrified of anyone irl knowing that I'm trans, so I'm completely closeted. I haven't even told my very understanding doctor yet, or any therapists. Anyone who would need to look at my documents for any reason would clearly see my birth name and the "F" in the field for my sex, and that's been true literally since the day I was born. Does it bother me? Yeah, of course it does. Is it still true? FUCKING YES!!!

Also a secret fourth thing; I AM NOT A MAN. Like, I'm sorry, but I was under the impression that even in your flawed view, only men can have male privilege. I'm not a trans man, nor am I a cis man. I'm not really a woman either, but that doesn't mean the only other possible category is man. That's enbyphobic.

So no, I don't benefit from male privilege. If I did, I would see it in the sense that things for me are easier than they used to be, like people would listen to me talk longer and take me more seriously because they think I'm a man. That hasn't happened to me even once. I have never noticed an easing of my oppression because people think I'm a man. Like I said, I get "ma'am"d wherever I go.

So yeah. How could I possibly know not all transmascs benefit from male privilege??? The answer may shock you.

[the-consistent-anti]

I didn't want to reblog any posts about it because it's distressing to me, but yeah guys, please don't support the Harry Potter reboot. JKR is a dogshit writer now, so it's probably going to be bad anyway, and the reboot only exists because older merch is supporting trans people and trans-friendly people who worked on the original movie series, meaning they're trying to erase that by replacing the cast and crew with transphobes. It's likely being used as fodder to feed JKR's bullshit "charity" that actually just lobbies to destroy the rights of trans people too.

It's still really harrowing to me that a series which got popular off the backs of liberal queer people is being bulldozed over just to support a transphobic and antisemitic agenda. They're trying to destroy why the series even appealed to people in the first place, and it kills me that the series is going to continue to be popular simply because we can't get the word out without some harpy assholes feeding JKR's persecution complex ON BEHALF OF TRANS PEOPLE. FFS.

The way most people talk about Harry Potter may be appalling to me, but at least whoever is reading this? Don't watch the reboot. Don't support it with money. It's not worth it.

[the-consistent-anti]

baddael? What’s that? Trans “inclusive” radfems?

Baddaelism was a movement that formed on tumblr in 2014 based on a false assumption that the word "baddael" in old English being a slur for trans women, which later evolved into our modern word "bad," meant that transmisogyny was the worst form of oppression that all other oppression stemmed from.

Nowadays, they are more often referred to as TIRFs, Trans-Inclusive-Radical-Feminists, though I don't think any TIRF would call themselves a radfem, unlike TERFs. It's all the same bullshit as radfeminism but based on actual gender instead of sex, so trans men are treated like evil cis men and trans women are treated like helpless victims who can never escape their own inferiority. The truth is far more nuanced than that.