i don't think i've talked about in on the dash in forever since i barely wrote in jay's modern verse before, but: a reminder that they were outed against their will after his fwb relationship with another player from a different club was discovered (and photographs were taken/circulated of them kissing). it was really traumatic for jay, but he "owned it" by acknowledging he was bisexual (in a press conference with the other player; they confirmed that they had been together, but then he distanced himself from jay + began to be really aggressive towards jay on the field during games) but he was not open about being nonbinary, for fear that he wouldn't be able to play if he didn't solely identify as a man. he's very proud, outwardly, and does a lot of charity work and tries to be a "role model" to show that gay/bisexual men can be footballers, but he still has a lot of fear about being out, and anxiety in general about the media (that any relationships he has going forward being exposed before he + his partner are ready for it).