#abt ryan

[ryd-n]

unpopular opinion: ryden shouldn't be mentionted to ryan, but it isn't wrong to ask brendon about it. he's popular now and quite open about personal stuff. of course, people shouldn't be invasive, but what's wrong with just asking him about his relationships? he also said it's cute when people ship ryden. however, ryan's case looks different since he's not popular at all. until he becomes famous, we should focus on him instead of band that he's not in; opposed to brendon, who never left panic.

i get where you’re coming from, but the thing is a lot of people (as you can see on instagram, most of all) don’t know the boundaries. like you said, it’s fine to ask him about his relationships (note that I didn’t say Ryan but just his relationships in general) in a mature and respectful way, not in the “where’s ryan???? miLK fic haha What HappEnD in CapE towN” way, you know? 

yeah, brendon’s popular, and he’s open, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we gotta pry and ask for more and more each time he lets us in a little. he’s still a married adult, with a life that he doesn’t have to share with us and we should be content with what he does share. and obviously, i’m not married or old enough to say for sure (and i think it depends on the people) but your past relationships aren’t necessarily a topic you want to linger on, especially if you’re happily married? idk if you get my stance but ig that’s just what i think. 

as for brendon saying ryden’s cute, i think it was in a “haha y’all are delusional that’s cute” way. and i believe that was from that Bad Bad interview from paper magazine, too, so I’m not gonna stay on that for too long. yeah, it doesn’t bother him that we do it, but i still think we shouldn’t bring it up to him. he probably sees it enough as it is. 

it tears my heart apart every time i go through ryan’s instagram and see all the horrible comments immature people leave on every single one of his posts. this fandom’s already caused him enough pain and i agree that none of that shit should be on any of his social media - which is possibly why he’s stopped using it that much. 

so, if you wanna ask brendon about his relationships, go ahead. just don’t focus it on ryden. he’s already said he was never in a relationship with ryan, and i doubt we’re gonna get more than that. 

[ryd-n]

It gives me really bad secondhand embarrassment that ryden fan accounts on Instagram follow Ryan and his friends , I feel like if you have bden in your pfp or a Ryden picture or anything pre split you shouldn’t follow ze or anyone bc they obviously can see your account and I feel like ze probably just doesn’t want to be associated with the fan base in that way? Idk I think I would personally feel overshadowed by panic idc I were her ?? Do you understand what saying

yeah, i absolutely understand what you’re saying, although i might not feel as strongly about it. of course, it’s best to follow them on your private accounts, but if you as a ryden/presplit acc are just following them and not spamming the comments and shit with stuff about ryden, it’s fine. either way, there isn’t much we can do apart from cringing, right? 

i think one thing i feel often when i see people with fandom accs following z/allie harvard/ryan’s other friends is that i feel bad for them bc it must feel like “oh theyre only following me for ryan content” yk? 

but i also think they’re mature enough to overlook that and are aware enough to know that it’s not ryan’s fault who likes him, etc. 

but again, as long as you’re respectful, i’m sure they’re okay with it.