#abuse ---

[lilacbreastedroller]

im in this fb group for adhd adults & someone just posted that their male partner being dominant in kink play and saying "i don't care what you want" etc. "triggers their RSD" (rejection sensitive dysphoria, an outsized strong emotional reaction to negativity and rejection that adhd ppl experience) and theyre like "i like it but my adhd doesnt" and ummmm??? that's not adhd dude

and there's nobody in the comments questioning it. someone is suggesting getting hypnotized before subbing so it doesn't trigger rsd.

im want to die scoob

[tista-bie]

like, idk. it feels like if a shitty person liked you then like. that actually counts against you, really. like. you attracted someone who was a piece of shit. go you.

except i only think this about me because my brain is a swirling cesspool of self-loathing

[legislacerator]

look there's a lot i could say about the posts basically vagueing me i discovered after seeing some weird shit in the vris/rezi tag, but all i'm actually gonna say is this:

accusing ppl like me -- who have been very open about being a survivor of abuse -- of "condoning abuse" because they like a problematic fictional character you hate is really fucked up. i have expanded on my experiences numerous times on this blog and this isn't even the first time someone has implied a lot of fucked up and callous things about my character over fucking homestuck. i don't really give a shit about your feelings about homestuck so much as i care about you openly making assumptions about me as a person in such a callous way

i'm a survivor. you'd have to be living under a god damn rock to be only a few degrees of separation from the circles i'm in and not be very aware that i'm a survivor of a lot of abuse, most of which was from other women and esp. my partners.

i literally do not give a shit how you feel about me or my taste in fucking webcomic characters, i am done with other survivors implying i glorify/condone/jack off to abusive characters and abuse. you don't fucking know me and you know god damn well it's not that black and white.

hate homestuck, hate vriska, hate me, you do you but don't act justified in implying and accusing me of "condoning abuse" in public spaces when you are 1) fudging the context 2) know god damn well i am a survivor and 3) don't know me at all.

[stay-unsatisfied]

I'm so bad at twitter that, not only did I vague my abuser without knowing she'd followed me for years and get harassed like hell for it, last night, months later, I accidentally find out how to read DM's and she'd been sending me shit begging for me to delete it and thanking me for finally doing it (not even knowing that she'd ever asked). like if I knew how to use that shitty app I maybe wouldn't have had fake legal charges for every crime against humanity threatened against me. I'm becoming an anprim over this etc etc

[misdreavs]

why do people still have a hard time grasping like... even if it’s fictional, it has impact in the real world. step out of your fandom comfort zone and see how “ships” and supporting certain media influences things in the real world. i have seen and read so many cases with abusive people using abusive ships to groom unsuspecting ppl. normalizing adult/child ships gives pedophiles a fallback for their unhealthy attraction to minors. i’m not spewing fiction! this shit happens!

[corruptbot]

also unrelated but since i’m overly anxious today now i’m mildly worried because from what i just heard her say, my sister is now letting her 5 year old son visit with his father alone, the same father that punched my sister and held a gun to her head while she was pregnant and i get she thinks forgiving people is important but i’m not so sure letting her son visit him unsupervised is a good idea yet because they’ve only got back in contact with him for a year at most and i don’t trust that he’s “”changed”” just yet

[paranoiias]

that's quite the "oblivious" friend you've got there (oblivious because I don't know what else to call that, ignorance maybe?). All you can really do is point out things to her and hope she realizes, if you haven't convinced her by now. Which sucks.

my qp said she probably just doesn’t wanna believe he’d do anything wrong but both of us have expressed our concerns about this ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I’ll try though, thank you