#abuse psa

[afracturedsoulisme]

Using scare tactics on your child is wrong and abusive

I don't care if it's verbal I don't care if it's physical. It's wrong end of story. No child should be afraid of their parents. Not ever

[planetplaytionpsa]

planetplaytion PSA — abuse, minor posting nsfw/kink art, attempted false imprisonment, stalking & more

I want to come right out and say that I am not affiliated with the original poster in any way shape or form, but I do want to spread this around. Seeing as I am also somebody who is aware of the behavior of Zack's actions being an older ex friend in a group with him. Its gross and disgusting. Dont support him.

Read here:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1q7aJ7MRvNPtgLkgooqkY-dPlyRs2Ce-w40qyvUHkEqE/mobilebasic

[psawasteland-blog]

“If you could see yourself, would you stop yourself?” (Abuse PSA from thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk)

[closet-keys]

PSA: Anger is not abusive. 

Experiencing emotions is never abusive. You have the right to experience any emotion you feel. 

Experiencing emotions is never an excuse for being abusive. You do not have the right to behave abusively just because you’re angry. 

If someone confronts you on something you did that scared or hurt them, apologize and make amends for your behavior, not your emotions. Blaming your emotions is avoiding responsibility for your actions. Often abusers blame their behavior on being emotional or “out of control” and then instead of improving their behavior, they act as if it’s everyone’s job to not make them angry so it doesn’t happen again, using it as just another tool of controlling their partners/children. 

If someone confronts you on your feelings or tries to tell you that you can’t experience certain emotions, it’s likely that they are abusive or behaving abusively in that moment.   Often abusers do not like their partners/children to experience anger. Abusers use survivors’ genuine emotions as ways to twist situations and make themselves into victims, which then, again, allows them to escape culpability. And they often convince survivors that experiencing any negative emotions makes the survivor selfish and worthless and that it’s something to atone for, which contributes to the difficulty survivors have in telling anyone and in being believed. 

Telling a survivor that they should “move past anger” or that they shouldn’t be angry is abuse apologism. 

Telling an abuser that they just have “anger management” problems or that they need to spend more time understanding their emotions or otherwise ignoring the underlying control, entitlement, and violence involved in the relationship is also abuse apologism. 

Pay attention to abusers’ behavior and beliefs. Take these things seriously. 

Pay attention to survivors’ emotions and experiences. Take these things seriously. 

[yawn-sters]

Stop Bringing Up People's Abusive Pasts To Make Your Point 2k15

[clownfluid]

please note that there is a vast difference between staying suspiciously-neutral in a situation that might involve abuse because you do not have all the receipts to verify the claims or press accusations VS being well aware that actual abuse is occurring and ignoring it for the sake of it being ‘none of your business.’

but also keep in mind that there are many situations in which even though you are aware of the abuse occurring there is nothing you can personally do but try your best to avoid the attacker and comfort the wounded. you can’t always outright confront or actively defend someone without risking everyone involved getting more hurt. seek professional help if someone you know is in danger.