#abuse tw?

[toothyblowjob]

thinkin about the fact that my mom would be completely disgusted with the way i look now.

it's something that's made me sad in the past, bc she was *very* proud of my appearance when i was little, but tbh... it's kind of freeing? like, i didn't live up to your expectations, you'd probably think i'm hideous, and i'm happy with it. i feel like my own person rather than your fucking plaything.

[arielmagicesi]

am I crazy or is this idea of “the mean girl from high school who becomes a teacher specifically so she can have fun abusing kids” like, total bullshit... have even a single one of you been in any childcare or teaching position ever, at any point. It is not a fun, cool power trip where you get to prance about abusing kids (the most fun activity ever, apparently?). I don’t think anyone’s ever become a teacher because they think it’ll be an easy, well-paying, flower-lined path directly to lording your power over innocent babies. Some people, unfortunately, do have personalities where they are arrogant, selfish, or cruel, and that comes out in their teaching, but that’s not WHY they became teachers. If they wanted to lord their power over people and that’s their only criterion for a job, there are better-paying, easier jobs for this goal.

Most likely, they have a passion for their subject and thought that teaching would just be an opportunity for them to share their passion with curious minds who are just like them, and then they had a rude awakening when they realized that teaching involves classroom management and engaging students from all different walks of life, and they got mad that the students didn’t all immediately love Chaucer or whatever, so they started employing the most obvious form of foolproof classroom management, which is acting like an insane dictator. Or they got a degree in history or something and realized that there weren’t many jobs they could use it for, so they went into teaching, but teaching is hard and they’re not naturally good with kids so they got exhausted real fast and take it out on the kids and never learned good classroom management techniques or emotional regulation for themselves.

It’s definitely possible that there are sociopaths out there who decided that teaching would be a great way to be a serial killer or whatever, but I highly doubt that Mrs. Hernandez from fifth grade who was so mean to you when you wanted to chat with your friends during class was that. She was probably just inexperienced, tired, or had a normal human kind of unpleasant personality, not a ridiculous monster.

CAVEAT IN CASE SOMEBODY INTERPRETS THIS WILDLY BADLY: I’m not excusing treating students badly. I’m explaining it. Teachers have a huge responsibility, and part of that responsibility is figuring out how to deal with the shitty parts of the job so that you are capable of teaching the students in an emotionally safe environment and not going off on them and scaring them.

[hermit-m00n]

breaking from my recent hyperfixation on good omens to talk about lore olympus for a hot minute 

i keep on thinking about Minthe. i keep thinking about how part of me feels bad for her because of how other people treat her and the internalized opinions she has of herself, and how her whole situation is tragic in and of itself. 

but what she did to hades wasn’t something that could or should be redeemed. and i think that only made it more sad. 

but you know, it also got me thinking. minthe is a complex character with very understandable reasons for being the way that she is but this does not absolve her from being abusive. 

but just because a character is complex doesn’t make them a good person or even one who is deserving of pity or forgiveness because no matter what you’ve had happen to you, the way you deal with your feelings is your responsibility and no one elses.

hades is not responsible for minthe’s happiness. minthe does not need anyone. she needs to do herself a favor and get a therapist and learn to be happy for herself instead of relying on others to coddle her whenever she lashes out about something. 

i know this isn’t really going to realistically happen but i would like to see her character arc and have her grow as a person? but i don’t want people to forget that her abuse towards hades didnt happen. she deserves to have to carry that with her. 

by the way, i do not stan minthe. i just think about her character a lot 

[shesahershey]

Well, my boyfriend's mom shoved him into a shelf, yelled at him, said no one gave a shit about his PTSD, then drove off by herself...

[gay-djgrooves]

An old character planning sketch, which I went against in the end. Don’t worry, Snatcher/Snakeheart isn’t gonna be so cruel in this AU (much)

[loghainmactir]

last week i learnt that my dad threw a draft stopper and yelled at mum once and i feel really mad like how dare he. it was years ago but he hasn’t stopped being a piece of shit to her behind her back (they’re seperated now) and it makes me so MAD

[beauty-grace-outer-space]

Pardon my rant post, but I need to vent. Some triggery stuff under the cut. 

For context, my grandmother is bipolar. I believe she also has narcissistic personality disorder. I think my father may also have narcissistic personality disorder. 

Nearly 3 years ago now, my grandmother and I were talking when she told me she was having trouble affording her anti-depressants. I offered to pay for them, and to schedule an appointment with a psychiatrist to get her dosage confirmed and her prescription renewed. I told her I’d take care of everything.

A few days later, when I called to tell her I had an appointment scheduled for her, she told me not to bother and that she’d decided to kill herself months prior and had actually been storing up her pills to do so. She told me my grandfather knew, and they were making arrangements for him to go on without her. She kept me on the phone for over an hour, in hysterics and hyperventilating, begging her not to die. 

I got my mom and my aunt involved (since I was pretty young and had no idea what to do) and we were able to get her to meet us at a nearby place; we had paramedics waiting to evaluate her. 

Despite 4 nurses and 2 doctors saying she was a danger to herself and should be kept for a mandatory 72 hour hold, she was released less than 5 hours later by a county representative. 

Thus began months of emotional and verbal abuse. She told me she hoped no one would ever love me, because I don’t deserve it. She told me that “the way I am” must be “the result of my warped upbringing” and that she hoped my friends “saw who I really was”. Etc. etc. 

In the midst of this, I found out that when she had called me and told me she was going to commit suicide, she was already back on her pills. I can only assume she wanted an emotional response, but never thought I’d actually try to get help involved. 

Four months later, she decided we were going to pretend it never happened. She went back to being a loving, cheerful grandmother-- though still making snide comments here and there. 

But our relationship has changed forever. I don’t trust her, and I see when she’s being manipulative. She decides who to call-- of me and my cousins-- based on who’s most likely to give her the reaction she wants. 

Two months ago she had a series of small heart attacks. Upon her release from the hospital, she and my grandfather temporarily moved into my aunt’s house while my family and I set to work trying to clean and declutter her home. She’s an extreme hoarder, so this has been quite the task. 

This weekend was the last weekend of cleaning. She and my grandfather came and sat with neighbors while we worked 11 hours a day cleaning, and I overheard her making comments. 

“I don’t have a single person I’d call family.”

“No one cares about me.” 

“I guess we’ll just go to a shelter.” 

“My ‘family’ never does anything for me.” 

Things like that. For two days. 

I was already worn thin from the cleaning, the fact that in taking care of things for her I haven’t seen a single friend in over 3 months, the fact that I haven’t had a weekend, or a bit of free time in 3 months. And then I hear her being manipulative, lying about us, about me... 

That’s how Saturday and Sunday went. Then comes Monday. 

My father has always had problematic tendencies. When he was younger (20s and 30s) he punched holes in the walls when he was mad. When his father died when I was 4, he disappeared without a word to my mother for a week. When he gets mad he throws things, he kicks things... just... a whole host of things that I have only realized with a lot of therapy are not ok. 

For the past several years, he picks fights with me over political differences. I have begged him repeatedly not to bring up these topics because we don’t agree and no matter what I do, he ends up yelling at me how stupid I am. 

If i walk away or stay silent, I’m too stupid to form an opinion.

If I try to have a calm discussion, he pushes until I’m no longer calm, and then tells me that I don’t have opinions, I have emotions, and this is why no one can have a conversation with me. 

If I tell him I don’t want to talk about it, he continues to do so anyway.

He’ll push me to the point of tears, yelling at me that I’m stupid or uninformed, but if someone else enters the room, he switches topics mid sentence. All cheer.  

It hit a point where my mom had to light into him to get him to back off by saying, “You have to stop treating my kid like this.” 

He realized he was being an asshole, and actually apologized, and things... calmed down for a while. The only conversations we’ve really had are, “You should find a nice Christian boy and get married”. Which... yeah right. 

Monday night, he picked a fight with me at a restaurant, yelled at me all the way home about how I don’t listen and only hear what I want to hear, and then once we got home, acted like nothing was wrong. All smiles and cheer in front of my mom.  

I went to my room in tears, and he followed me and knocked on my door. I ignored him. He knocked again. I ignored him. He came in anyway and proceeded to tell me that I’m emotional and misinformed and if I would just listen to him, we’d agree. 

I told him we don’t agree and I do listen, but I’m not going to agree because of the things he was saying. 

He asked for examples and I gave him some from the “conversation” we had just had. 

His response was: “I don’t know where you make this crap up in your delusional little head. I NEVER said that, I’ve never said anything like that!” 

And it pushed me over the edge so I just sat on my bed staring at my comforter and sobbing, “I don’t want to talk about it. Please just leave me alone.” 

He finally huffed out, “FINE!” and left my room. 

My therapist phrased it well when she said it was a “torrent of emotional assault”.

I’m exhausted, and that’s why I’ve been sad/vague posting. I’m so worn out. I’m so tired. I just want to cry for three days. 

I don’t know what I was hoping to achieve with this post. I just... needed to rant. 

[positive-lesbian-vibes]

You know some hetero bullshit I’ve never understood is their weird thing with age differences ? Like straight girls either won’t date a guy who’s even a year younger, or they date men 10-15+ years older. I knew a girl who wouldn’t date a guy cause he was 5 MONTHS YOUNGER, and another girl who was 16 and dated a guy who was 26. S2g I can’t

my friend who is 20 is really into this 26 yr old and im like.... there are some situations where i supposed that could be normal like if both of u are in the same phase of ur life but like this man is an adult w a full time job and she is in college and im like,,,,,,,,,,,,,, fantasies are 100% okay but any 26 year old adult man with a real job and like insurance and who pays taxes who fucks with a college student is Suspicious as Hell like just because “its legal” doesnt mean its all fine and dandy 18 year olds can date 40 year olds “legally” but that doesnt mean everything is good and healthy in that relationship like

i feel really bad for straight women in these situations bc its normalized for women to date men much older than them which is almost always unhealthy because of power imbalances and coercion and like,,,, healthy relationships are demonized for straight people which is so fucking horrifying

i really hope that 16 year old girl got out of that relationship, that man is absolutely a predator and is taking advantage of her.

ladies, as much as lesbians are better than men, be wary of significantly older women coming on to you. people 5-10 years older than you have no business with you if you are in high school or even college (in most cases) and they are likely hitting on you because they are a predator. i know how much you feel like you are mature for your age and how you think you can handle it, how grown up you feel. I understand. I was there too. but know that people who are that much older than you who are seeking relationships with you are people who are looking to take advantage of your youth and naivety (whether you believe you are naive or not). there is a reason they aren’t dating people their own age.

please please please be safe, it is so much healthier to explore with people your own age, i promise you.