i mean, i don't think it's ENTIRELY bc of the SAM. i think it has a lot to do with people's general treatment of bi women/lesbians as well. bisexuals are supposed to "pick a side" & are "either gay or straight", whereas people wld do absolutely anything to shoehorn men into lesbianism. this is just the natural conclusion to the previous discourse about how "lesbian" doesn't actually mean "woman exclusively attracted to women" & actually just means wlw/sapphic. 1
2. HOWEVER i do think that the SAM played a huge part in normalizing "bi lesbians". ALSO, DISCLAIMER, but trans women are women and when i say that lesbianism is exclusive attraction to women by women, trans women are included. i would rather die than have TERFs think i agree w them
I’m not 100% in disagreement with you BUT you need to understand the “pick a side” shit bisexuals face and even “bihet” wasn’t EVER actually saying you can be straight and bi, gay and bi. It was saying bisexuals are *fake* and that we are really gay or straight and in denial/being greedy/too horny to stick to one gender. The same way “shoehorning men into lesbianism” has the end goal of somehow confirming lesbians are ACTUALLY also just straight, they’re just confused about it. The end game isn’t lesbians being bisexual. Or them somehow being bi and lesbians at the same time.
The split attraction model is the primary factor at saying you can be bisexual and a lesbian at the same time, even though those are overlapping and YET mutually exclusive terms.
Of course homophobia and biphobia have been attempting to chip at both bisexuality and lesbianism as words and concepts this entire time but the Split Attraction Model brought this into the LGBT community. That is to say, it made this biphobia and lesbophobia ACCEPTABLE rhetoric within the community and has gone so far as to make any lesbian or bisexual who objects to it a bigot.
And that is ENTIRELY on the ace community. Especially since criticizing the SAM then becomes “aphobia” and means LGBT people get excluded from the community for espousing “hate against our own” and infighting and whatever else they wanna lob at us just for saying “Uh, that’s not what either bisexual or lesbian means.”
Concepts like “have sex with someone you aren’t sexually attracted to,” “LGBT PDA is gross and triggers panic in me,” “LGBT identities are all about sex,” and “[x] cishets are oppressed by the mean LGBT people” are all ideas that existed before and separately from the ace community.
But all are now accepted and tolerable ideas within the LGBT community BECAUSE of the ace community. They infected our community with this shit.
“Bisexual lesbian” wasn’t anything other than an insult before aces decided to push the SAM as the norm. And now it’s STILL an insult but one we’re told we’re bigots if we don’t accept.
