#ace spec things

[imsosocold]

I’m sexy in a non sexual way.

[a-kinda-nerdy-girl]

Really recommend Jaden Animations newest video on YouTube. As someone who identifies as acespec, it was very relatable (for example i just now realized people who have celebrity crushes are serious when they comment about their sexual attraction to said crushes-yes I'm ace and dumb and unapologetic about that lol)

[rinari7]

@danakatherinejaneway replied to your post: I don’t look at people and think, “I want... :

idk if you wanted any kind of response to this post but I found asexuality.org a useful resource when I was trying to figure out if i was ace so I just thought I’d mention it

Responses are very helpful. :) I did head there and their FAQ did help me to put myself somewhere in a nebulous area of grayace/demi and possibly mostly aegosexual (at least I think, but you can’t ever entirely “prove” a negative so in absence of other evidence that’s what works for me for now). So thank you!

@ciara-jane replied to your post: I don’t look at people and think, “I want... :

Echoing the commenter above for sure. I am ace myself and there’s nothing odd about it, though it’s difficult to make others understand sometimes…

I didn’t mean that there was anything inherently odd about it; I used “odd” in the sense of “not the norm” or “not something most people can relate to.” I mean, it never really clicked with me until sometime last year that most people apparently don’t think this way, or rather they do look at a person and think “yes, bed, please!” I mean, I’d read it in adult romance books before and thought it weird, but I just assumed, “okay, it’s for effect, to make it clear she’s attracted to him or whatever,” and I didn’t take it seriously because I assumed it was an exaggeration of fiction. (I kind of shake my head at how naive I was back then.) And yeah, my ex didn’t quite get it, thought to be fair I didn’t even really get it at the time, either, and he wasn’t ugly about it, just “this is a problem, then, because I want more.”

[imsosocold]

 I wish I could do things like lounge around in my underwear without it being seen as sexual. 

[amarveloustune]

Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)

Yes