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[the-sunshine-club]

how to love myself?

Honestly, just know yourself. 

That means taking time for yourself, by yourself, to sit down and really analyze who you are and how you react to things as impartially as you can manage. Ignore the “god I’m so annoying” insecurities and really look and how others react when you speak. Reflect on the thoughts you have about others and yourself, and if you don’t like them, make a change.

This isn’t an easy process. I’ve had to go through it multiple times because I keep catching myself slipping up and getting back into the habit of having default nasty thought, so it requires upkeep. 

But if you learn yourself inside and out, which means knowing your best qualities as well as your worst, you can start changing into someone you want to be day by day. You’ll learn to love yourself just for how hard you’re trying, and for how much work you’ve put into getting there, and then you’ll love yourself for succeeding when you look back and see how much you’ve improved.

[the-sunshine-club]

do you have a polyvore for this club? it would be cool to make some positivity sets for it!

We don’t! I don’t think it’s the type of thing we’re likely to make, either, at least for now we’re pretty content on tumblr and facebook!

[the-sunshine-club]

I find it interesting that this project promotes self love, acceptance, and inclusions, and yet you have to apply and be accepted to be a true member. Doesn’t that seem counterintuitive? It elevates this to an elite clique and removes levels of acceptance.

I find it interesting that you don’t view the people running this club as real life humans with limits and their own lives! I also find it interesting that you don’t think we have a right to a space with people we and others feel safe with.

Running the Sunshine Club is a lot of work. There’s a lot of projects going on, and a lot of people to oversee, and a lot of questions to answer, and posts to give attention to, etc. 

“But then why don’t you just let in everyone who applies within a certain amount so it’s all equal?” You might ask. Well, it’s very simple! We don’t want rude people in this club. We don’t want bigots in this club. We don’t want predators in this club, or abusers, or toxic people. Those are the only people we don’t accept when they apply.

If you think the Sunshine Club is an elitist clique just because we want to make our members-- and ourselves-- feel safe and comfortable then you’re probably part of the reason we have to vet Facebook members.

I hope this answers your question!

[the-sunshine-club]

I'd like to take more selfies but I always end up thinking I look terrible! I don't know if it's good for my confidence or not! What do you think ?

Fake it until you make it! 

Take all the selfies!!! Tell yourself you look stunning in them, because you do. Learning to love your body is a journey, and a lot of the first steps include doing things that might make you uncomfortable, like appreciating pictures of yourself more. 

But you’ll get there. And then you’ll have a ton of pictures to look back on when you’re older!

[the-sunshine-club]

How often do guys select new members?

Not too often, to be honest. We’re wary of the blog getting too big for us to properly handle, so every time we select new members there is always the chance that’s the final bunch.

Typically though we wait for the group to settle after a new batch and see how things are going, then decide if we want to open it up to new members then. So I guess a few months, to make sure that this is a size we can handle being added to.

[the-sunshine-club]

what do we do as Polly Pals?

Just chat! It’s basically just a concept we came up with so you could friend friends more easily in the club, since the groupchat can be dead silent or overflowing with people depending on your luck, so it can be a bit hard for more genuine chatter!

[the-sunshine-club]

how does the club being facebook-based effect the club on tumblr ? I didn’t really understand that and I don’t have one I just thought that was where the club originated from ?

The club originated on tumblr, but it was always intended to have most of it’s content on facebook!

Overall, it doesn’t really affect how the club interacts with tumblr, since tumblr has it’s own limitations that are irrelevant to facebook. There’s just some extra things happening on the facebook page that don’t happen on tumblr! But we do our best to keep most of the club available to everyone whether they have a facebook or not.

[the-sunshine-club]

Hello nice people 😋 I was just wondering if you've shortlisted the people who are gonna get added to the group. I applied but am not sure if the slots are assigned or if you're still waiting for entries. If it's the latter, then oh well, ignore this ask❤️ *fingers crossed* If it's the former, then oh well, ignore this. I'll try again next time 😋 Thanks! Have a nice day! Lots of awkward virtual hugs and love 🦑

Hello! Currently we are still going through those who have applied for entry, so if you applied. We have a rough idea of who’s accepted and who’s not but we’re doing some final checking and discussing, etc, before we release the official list.