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[loveforficts]

If there's something I've learned this last week is that there's so many people that feel like us

SO many

And they just have no idea they're not alone

I'm actually kind of floored

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REQUESTS OPEN!!

Imma open requests up for a little!!! For once I feel like writing!!!! Yay!!!! I actually slept good last night for once in like two months and feel semi-energized!!!!

So requests are open for:

B.A.P (I know they ain’t a group no more but I never really got to stan them while they were a group and I’m going through it right now)

Seventeen

BTS

I will be taking requests for

Texts

Snaps

One-shots/Scenarios

And that’s all! I’m also free to talk today if anyone wants to talk about whatever. I feel like I haven’t talked to y’all in a while. Let me know what’s up!!!

Alright request away!!

Eevee

[loveforficts]

WAIT WAIT WAIT

Is there really a part of the community who has a problem with people whose f/o’s are villains?

Oho boy I’m in fucking trouble LMFAO

[loveforficts]

Hey Hey! I have a question. How do you Interact with your Romantic F/Os? Like what small things do you do to interact and to connect with your F/O?

Hey, anon! I guess it has been quite a long time since I've answered this question and it has changed a bit.

I've started writing fanfics, and that's been really fun. I'd written some years ago but I had a hard time not caring if they were good or not and just writing for fun so I stopped. I've picked it back up and while it's still a personal mission for me to allow myself to write for my own self indulgence and not worry what it reads as to other people, it's been really good for me.

I don't know if this counts as interaction per say? but it helps me feel closer to them to keep some of their stuff around. So, I do have Shane's necklace that I wear but I also have a hat of his that I hang around my space just to have. I know this may not be super possible for everyone since it involves spending money or your f/o may outright not have things of theirs available for purchase. I do suggest maybe crafting something of theirs and keeping that! Think small, like trinkets or accessories rather than super prominent props, that's what really sells the feeling.

This is also not super possible for everyone but I have a small friend group now that I can openly talk about my f/os to without referring to them as f/os. Shane is my husband, and Frank is my boyfriend, no other stipulations needed. We all blab and gossip about our relationships the way anyone else would and that feels pretty cool too.

Now this one is definitely not something someone can choose to do, and initially when I answered this years ago I sort of explained it like it was because I didn't understand that I was describing a symptom LOL but most of my interactions with my f/os are through day dreams. Day dreaming is normal!! but I am a maladaptive day dreamer, sometimes immersive when my mental health is doing good. I would encourage the curious to look it up, but my day dreams are very detailed, intense, have storylines spanning years, and something for the most part I cannot avoid doing as it's my brain's way of protecting me from ick. So, I quite literally live a separate life with those two in my head. I'm giving the most dumbed down explanation of this I can so again, if you're curious, do some research it's pretty fascinating!

[loveforficts]

Hi! I’m sorry to ask for advice, but I feel safe enough here as I’m pretty sure I’m ficto, is it normal to feel the love from your f/o’s? I genuinely do love him with all of my heart and, I see myself spending a very long time with him, and relationship-wise, i’m committed to him and he’s all I want. I worry about being ‘crazy’ cause I just am happy in my relationship with him. It feels real, I feel super strongly, and I seriously feel like he does too, that it’s not just me. Am I, insane for that? I’m sorry to bother or ask such a loaded question, even if I can’t hold him (I still wish I could) But, I’m happy with not being able to because I care so much about him, I just really do love him and want to banish the bad thoughts away for good so I can just spend forever with him and be happy but, I also don’t want to be making it all up, I guess?.

Don't apologize, I just hope I can help!

I don't feel like it's bad or insane at all. Are you happy? Is the first question. If yes, Is this hurting you or anyone else around you? Has this impeded on your life in any way? If you can say no to both those things, I don't see the problem. I will always stress this, conventional relationships aren't a requirement and are not the only ways to feel emotionally fulfilled in life. If this is your fulfillment, then who cares!? There's people who get companionship from life like dolls, other types of inanimate objects, fiction, pets (NOT ROMANTIC SDRRGF), and it's rewarding. We really feel we get something from it. The brain is a complex thing, don't feel ashamed that this is how yours work! Screw the bad thoughts. They suck.

[loveforficts]

I’m two seconds way from just saying fuck it and confessing to being fict to another friend oh fucking no send help lmfao

[loveforficts]

Hi how are you doing

I have a question, there is a character from Wild Wild West that I like and hold close to my heart, he is Will Smith character from Wild Wild West, he said that that movie was his worst movie ever and it was just a thorn in his side and he said that he doesn't like the character just because he had to wear chaps, now I would like your opinion and advice on this if you heard the Actor or actor say anything bad about the character that the play? Would you continue to love the character and ignore what they said. This has left me confused about my feelings towards the movie and character What would you do??

Oh boy, okay.

So, I think in general for me personally, I do get why it's difficult to get past something the actor that portrays a character you like/love has said or done in real life. I just had a crisis recently adjacent to this, lol. Although, if it just comes down to his own opinion of the character, I don't think that should impact the way you feel about him at all; No. I know he brought the character to life but that's... that's about it. He gets to have an opinion just like everyone else but he doesn't have authority over the character at all or you or anyone else. I'd probably feel very sad granted, if the actor who portrays both my husband AND boyfriend said anything negative about his time with them or the works they appear in, but that wouldn't stop me from loving them at all.

Even writers, like- they can dislike their own characters or trash them but that doesn't have to dictate how we feel. If you love 'em, you love 'em.

[loveforficts]

hi!!! i just wanted to say, i adore your blog and i just came across it but, it’s already helped me a ton. going through the advice you’ve given, and the kind people’s stories in the community has really helped me feel less alone. i recently realized how much my f/o means to me, meaning i solely am in a relationship with him and i’m truly happy like that. i went through a super rough patch where i got hard on myself cause i wasn’t looking for anyone irl (even if that wasn’t what i wanted) or i felt like i was crazy, or that it was just in my head. but, reading these have helped a lot. i truly feel the love from him, and i know how strongly i feel for him. we’re both happy and, thank you for helping me realize that was okay, and that, i’m not just insane for being in love with him, or feeling like he actually loves me too.

Awh, anon! You're so sweet, and I'm glad we could all help. I do remember being in that same rough patch 6 years ago. Feeling like there was something inherently broken with me because, I mean- who else could POSSIBLY feel the same way I do? I remember crying at my desk at work because I couldn't stop thinking how wrong something must be with me that I sit around in love with a person for years that isn't "real". I was repulsed by any flirting from anyone IRL (asexuality be like) and was genuinely content on my own in my own head with my own feelings for this person. The only thing that hurt me was feeling like I was alone and somehow wrong. Maybe to outsiders it sound silly, but I feel like any outcast can relate to feeling so wrong by simply existing the way we do and how hard it is to deal with.

If we could help at least one person out of that and offer a welcoming space, it's more than I could ever ask for. <3

I love you all, and you too anon.