[luciinthereal]

source: this character is in a relationship with this character. :-)

me: no they arent

source: bbut they literally are they

me: they are dating me actually

[reanimatedgoblin]

don't know who needs to hear this but you're not to hard for your f/o to love. you are not to hard to love period.

your f/o loves you regardless of anything you got going on. they love you and that love will never stop.

[black-salt-cage]

My redesign of the Fictosexual flag! ♩✧♪●♩○♬☆

The various shades of blue symbolize the peace you feel from your fictional character(s) / f/o(s).

The various shades of purple symbolize the fantasy your love comes from.

The pink symbolizes the pure passion and love you feel for your fictional character(s) / f/o(s).

The white rose symbolizes the innocent love and loyalty you feel for your fictional character(s) / f/o(s).

The black moon symbolizes the dreamworld that creates your fictional character(s) / f/o(s), how you may see them in your dreams and how they come from the mind’s eye; the imagination.

The color palette was meant to project themes of dreaminess and fantasy. ♡ Contains 7 striped full flag and 5 stripe simplified flag, both with and without the white rose + black moon symbol.

Please credit me if you use this flag! I’d love for more people to find this term!

☆⁺˚*♡⁺˚*☆

[mx-cipher]

Writing your Self Ship Universe:

[loveforficts]

Miss this blog, is there anything you guys would like to see here? 🥰

Reminder that I have a personal self ship blog that I post on daily!

[loveforficts]

Hi is there a rule about liking a fictional character that has

An interest in another character in the same movie, is it possible??

How does that work??

Absolutely not! There's no rules against that.

There's lots of different ways to handle that. Some people write out their f/os canonical love interest all together, some use self inserts to replace them, some rewrite their relationship to be something else, you can do whatever you want.

Shane's canonical love interest in my own canon is a close friend of his instead, and a close friend of mine for example! Doesn't get in the way of us being married at all.

Jackson's canonical love interest in my own canon is an ex and they're no longer romantically involved at all, he's all about me!

(Yeah for those who don't follow my other ship blog I uh- havetwonewboyfriends ANYWAAAAY)

Most of us have a "fuck canon" attitude when it comes to in universe romances. Nothing wrong with that!

[loveforficts]

Hi I have a question, I have a crush on a fictional character but the actor who brought him to life died in real life, and I was wondering if that was a little weird or wrong of me to love the character, what should I do??

No, I don't think that's weird at all. I always encourage us to maintain healthy separation between character, and actor. Fiction, and reality. The actor brought your crush to life but ultimately, they were not the same person. Characters are eternal; Unfortunately, we are not. I know several people personally who have f/os who's actors have passed away, and I've never gave it a second thought. If anything it's beautiful that their work continues to touch people long after they're gone <3

[loveforficts]

I am soooo in love with my F/O and stuff and likee its sooo awesome to be this in love, never felt this way before LIKE EVER. Problem is the F/O is popular and I has to share them like, a lot. And some even F/O them too. So like, how do you get comfy sharin your F/Os? Isn't it kinda jealousy indusing?

Okay so I just had a jealousy ask that I referred to this ask right here on how I see our relationships that may help curb jealous feelings, I also suggest you take a look!

I will say, I'm not sure that you can force yourself to be okay with sharing, at least not over night. So for me, I've always been okay with sharing. In fact, I liked talking to people who also loved my partners because we could talk and relate and gush together and that was fun to me. However, recently I had a stint with Frank where I suddenly got weirdly possessive and I didn't want to see or hear other people shipping with him. Which, could have been a bigger issue if it had hit harder because he's really popular to have a thing for in his fandom. Anyway, I sort of got over it and I think it may have been talking to a close friend who also ships with him? I really wish I could explain what about talking to someone I was close to made it easier for me and ultimately got me back to a head space where I was okay sharing, but I guess my advice would be to maybe start off with only engaging that type of conversation with people you feel safe with? Or if you don't already know someone personally who shares f/os with you, start off with small exposures. I HOPE THAT'S HELPFUL? I feel like it isn't, but- HOPEFULLY.

[loveforficts]

Hey there, so I have a question.

My F/O is the One. I love him so much and he loves me too. I'm gonna marry him.

But something that kind off rubs me the wrong way, is the fact that he's rather popular and that some people consider him as their F/O too.

How do I handle feelings of jealousy?

Hello anon, congrats! I answered something about dealing with jealousy right here, it's a bit of an older ask but I think it still holds up. Hope that helps!

[loveforficts]

Quick question...I was thinking, how do you know when it's the right time to marry your F/O I mean don't you have to be with them for a certain amount of time, or does that time equal to how many years you watched the show or movie they were in or does really doesn't matter, I'm confused because I've been in love with my F/0 since 1999, can you help me out.

Okay, so as far as measuring how much time you've been together I it's personal preference. A lot of people I see measure the amount of IRL time they've been in love with them as the time they've been together, others have that and then an internal canon time they've been together. It really doesn't matter, it's completely up to you. Example, I've been with Frank for 4 years but in canon I've known him for almost a decade and I've been with him maybe 2 years give or take.

As far as when you should get married.. that's entirely up to you to! If it feels right, and you've been thinking about doing it, do it! I never saw myself marrying Frank, just because of the type of person he is and the type of lives we live in my canon but recently I just could not stop thinking about it and I really wanted nothing more than to call him my husband instead of my boyfriend so I said screw it, I'm marrying this man!

Have fun with it, build your world the way you want to.

[loveforficts]

Hey! I'm the anon that sent the ask about f/o and jealousy.Just wanted to say thanks for taking the time to reply. It helped me a lot knowing that it's not inherently bad. Also, the fact that I'm not the only one that enjoys a lil bit of angsty moments in the relationship with an f/o makes me feel relieved.

Thanks again

✨

Oh you're so very welcome!

[loveforficts]

Happy Holidays everyone!

[loveforficts]

Hey there!

I have a question that's constantly on my mind 🥺 the thing is I'm a selfshipper that loves the idea of my f/os getting jealous about me, angst included. I love those scenarios (in fiction). Even including some small arguments (nothing really serious). I know it may sound bad but it's just that it makes me feel like I have their attention and honestly it makes me feel good.

Is all of that wrong/unhealthy? Should I feel bad about that? I know every experience is unique in the ficto community but I would really appreciate an opinion 🥺

Also I know if it was irl I wouldn't feel comfortable about all that drama, cause I don't do romantic relationships irl, not my area.

Btw, thanks for existing ✨

Awh, no thank you!

Hm, I mean to be honest I'm sort of an angst queen myself. I'm infamous in my fiction for not letting my babes be happy. (Sorry, Frankie <3) I'm not gonna sit here and say you should feel bad for enjoying that type of dynamic in your own fiction, or that there's something like- inherently wrong with you because of it. A lot of us enjoy things in fiction that we would not be down with IRL.

But what I will say is that maybe it'd be good to consider what about that sort of thing in fiction does it for you, you know? I think we should be doing that with a lot of things in general, you'd be surprised what you learn about yourself. Maybe you find something you don't like and would like to change, and maybe you just get to know yourself a little better. I think there's a lot to be said about why the things we like make us feel the way we do, not just about ourselves but the environment around us as well. Sometimes the media we consume itself leads us to developing associations between things like jealousy and being wanted that applied to reality are unhealthy but seeing it depicted evokes romantic feelings even if we know it shouldn't in the real world. See here everyone that ships Harley Quinn and the Joker. We know the relationship would be horribly abusive and toxic in practice, but there's still legions of people who see them in comics and on screen and love to see them be together. You can be a fan of whomever but I think it's important to deconstruct why that is and make sure we're not applying that anywhere else.

It doesn't hurt to ask yourself the tough questions, but am I going to tell you to feel bad about yourself or that you're not allowed to do construct your own personal canons like that? Absolutely not.

[loveforficts]

I'm not sure if this has been asked before, but: Do you find it unhealthy to be in love with a fictional character only, with no interest in "real" romantic relationships whatsoever? I cherish my real life (platonic and familial) relationships, but I have no desire whatsoever to have a "real" partner. I am fully content and happy just loving him and no one else. I don't believe it affects my life negatively, but I've been told it's wrong if it stops me from having a "real" relationship. Opinion?

I have answered this before! but it's been awhile so I'll go ahead and answer again.

Long and short of it; No, I don't find it unhealthy.

Example, aromantic people exist and are completely valid! Some aromantics do still date, plenty don't! Some experience romantic attraction rarely or under very specific conditions, some never do! I'm not saying that you're aromantic or that you have to be ace to self ship or be fict, but what I'm trying to say is that there are groups of people that for one reason or another have zero interest in being in romantic or sexual relationships with people and it's totally fine. Sometimes it's a lifestyle choice (like, being more into developing their career for example), sometimes it's an orientation, sometimes we really just don't have any interest.

I always have and always will die on this hill. You don't HAVE to have a conventional romantic relationship to be happy or be valid.

[loveforficts]

It bothers me when people say rude things about my self-ship. It's an age gap, but both my f/o and I are adults. I know I shouldn't care what others think, and I love my f/o very much, but it still hurts whenever I get messages like "you're disgusting", or other messages that I shouldn't write out here.

Hey, Sock. I'm so sorry you're getting nasty messages about your relationship. Anyone here who knows you, knows you're an incredibly kind person and in no way shape or form deserves to be torn down like that.

This is what I mean when I say people need to learn to tailor their online experience to their liking. Maybe it does bother someone to see an age gap despite both parties being well into adulthood (aka not 18 or 19, we're talking late 20s), that's fine I'm sure they have their reasons, but in that case PLEASE just block or black list whatever it is that's bothering you. Sending hate to someone like Sock is not the flex or "activism" you think it is. To everyone; Absolutely keep yourselves safe, keep away from people who do things that make you uncomfortable, and just have a good time.

For what it's worth, I really enjoy Alice and Dr.Finkelstein's dynamic and like seeing you two around. <3

[loveforficts]

Hi everyone! Sorry I’m backed up on asks, I’m currently in the middle of selling my house and I was away on a trip earlier this week as well! My apologies <3

[loveforficts]

Hey Hey! I have a question. How do you Interact with your Romantic F/Os? Like what small things do you do to interact and to connect with your F/O?

Hey, anon! I guess it has been quite a long time since I've answered this question and it has changed a bit.

I've started writing fanfics, and that's been really fun. I'd written some years ago but I had a hard time not caring if they were good or not and just writing for fun so I stopped. I've picked it back up and while it's still a personal mission for me to allow myself to write for my own self indulgence and not worry what it reads as to other people, it's been really good for me.

I don't know if this counts as interaction per say? but it helps me feel closer to them to keep some of their stuff around. So, I do have Shane's necklace that I wear but I also have a hat of his that I hang around my space just to have. I know this may not be super possible for everyone since it involves spending money or your f/o may outright not have things of theirs available for purchase. I do suggest maybe crafting something of theirs and keeping that! Think small, like trinkets or accessories rather than super prominent props, that's what really sells the feeling.

This is also not super possible for everyone but I have a small friend group now that I can openly talk about my f/os to without referring to them as f/os. Shane is my husband, and Frank is my boyfriend, no other stipulations needed. We all blab and gossip about our relationships the way anyone else would and that feels pretty cool too.

Now this one is definitely not something someone can choose to do, and initially when I answered this years ago I sort of explained it like it was because I didn't understand that I was describing a symptom LOL but most of my interactions with my f/os are through day dreams. Day dreaming is normal!! but I am a maladaptive day dreamer, sometimes immersive when my mental health is doing good. I would encourage the curious to look it up, but my day dreams are very detailed, intense, have storylines spanning years, and something for the most part I cannot avoid doing as it's my brain's way of protecting me from ick. So, I quite literally live a separate life with those two in my head. I'm giving the most dumbed down explanation of this I can so again, if you're curious, do some research it's pretty fascinating!