#advice from jess

[ilikeyouxactually]

I am going to my first real therapy session tomorrow and I am so terrified. I know it'll be fine and it's good that I'm going to have names for the things going on in my head but simultaneosly I am so scared to let everything out. I've done such a good job building walls around my problem that I don't even know what they look like anymore. In 11 hours I have to be there and I can't even sleep right now help

First of all, I am REALLY glad to hear that you are making the effort and taking the steps needed to get help, it’s a huge sign of strength that you recognize the issue, and recognize it’s enough of an issue that you need extra help to deal with it. And there is NOTHING wrong with that.

I’ve suffered with depression for a long time and have just ignored it most of my life. During a semester at college it got so bad I couldn’t stand it and I went to go see a counselor. I was terrified just like you are. I was like “wow this is pathetic” “why am I even doing this” “this is so dumb”. But it was incredibly eye opening. Being able to freely speak your feelings is very freeing and allows you to just et everything off your chest.

It is very scary, I know. The idea of confiding such big, personal things in a stranger is a very scary concept. We don’t know them, and they don’t know us. But honestly, I find it’s easier opening up to a stranger than someone you’re close with. Try to relax. Listen to calming music, have a soothing cup of tea, and just breathe. Everything will be alright, I promise you that.

You’ll be able to face the core issues head on, learn what causes them, and how to deal with them. I won’t lie, it’s a very emotional experience, especially when things start making sense to you. It just sort of hits you like a ton of bricks like “oh okay, that’s why I feel this way” (or act this way). I honestly wish you the best of luck and I will be thinking of you. As always, I am here and would love to hear how it goes tomorrow.

[littlesistersammy]

Any tips for cosplaying Sam?

Watch this videoMake sure to have lots of plaid and comfortable shoes and anything you think Sam or Fem!Sam would wear. and there you have it!

[littlesistersammy]

Just with rping like do you just kinda just in someones ask and hope for the best?

That's what I did when I started out with the indie rping crowd. I actually started  with being in a disney rp group and stuff... but honestly best way to start out is to follow as many rp blogs you know in the fandom you rp in and then branch out to the other RPers those rp blogs rp with.... um... and yeah... all you can do is put yourself out there and hope for the best. I also have three similar asks  to this type of question and I'll link them to ya"

here

here

and here

[littlesistersammy]

Tips for first time tumblr role players?

"Woah! Someone’s looking to me for advice! I’m… I have no words… but I’ll give the best advice I can."

"I wish I had someone to ask about these things when I first started out RPing back in my junior year of highschool…"

Tips on RPing (things I think are important):

    1. Tag most everything. Even if you’re mobile. It helps you and your RP partner to find your threads if you or they miss a reply. It also helps you organize your blog in case you want to link a certain tag on your blog. (finding a tag and linking on your page is easy when you are on you blog you just add /tagged/[insert tag here] {without the brackets} and there you have it.

    2. If you’re starting a new blog which I assume you are. You may want to start out making a few starter/welcoming posts that they can reply to. And most people track their url in the tags. For example: I track sammiwinchesterlittlesis and then when someone wants to have me see a post it lets me know in my tag.

    3. Install xkit 7 it helps you with little hacks such as putting a tagging option already in your ask so it alerts the person in their tracked tag so they know you replied. And other things… If you want to know more check out exit-extention or ask me about things your curious about it.

    4. Always make an info page even if you’re a canon character you may have different headcanons, or thoeries about your character that make your canon character a little different than others. You should also make other pages pertaining to your character. Such as a relationships page (where you add characters and rpers that are very close to your muse), a headcanon page, a bio page, and anything else you see fit to add. (As I keep saying in asks like these feel free to ask specific questions on your RPing concerns or just curious about other things in the RPing realm.)

    5. It’s always nice to make a page about yourself. Nothing too specific if talking about yourself makes you uncomfortable… just something your followers and fellow RPers can read to get to know you a little better and feel a little more comfortable about talking to you.

   6. If there is anything you’d rather not RP or if there are things you want to RP make a rules page that your followers can read so they know what they can and can’t RP with you. And if they don’t respect your rules, feel free to block them. This is your blog and you do what you want to do with it.

   7. Maybe set a certain tag and way you type to let others know you are talking out of character. For example: I write in italics and tag my out of character posts with outofsass.

   8. And never be afraid to ask for an RP or remind someone about their reply. Most RPers are very kind and even if they decline they’ll usually be very nice about it because we’re all here to have fun and if you’re not having fun what’s the point of doing it, ya know?

"I can’t think of anything else… so feel free if I didn’t address any concerns about starting out RPing for the first time."

[littlesistersammy]

whats the best way to start an open rp?

Hmmm… Well, I usually make a story line I would like to RP and then right it with a paragraph or two and tag it with the fandom I want people to see it in and then tag it with Open RP then link that tag on my blog. Does that make sense? or did I make no sense+more confusion = you got nothing out of this, eh?Other times I make a sentence or two of dialog and/or a description of what my character is doing and then put a gif/icon/icon gif beneath it.

[littlesistersammy]

doo you have tips for first time role players and cosplayers ? love you by the way!!!!

"Asdfghjkl; Thank you. I’m not the best out there."

"But Here I go to give you the best advice I can."

Role playing tips:

Be yourself

Remember no one can tell you if you’re playing your character correctly or not. You chose your character because you identify with them and feel like you are them. (or that’s how I do it)

You are your own person.

Remember it’s your blog and you can do whatever the heck you want with it.

Choose a few people you think are amazing RPers and writers and notice what they do. They can give you tips on how to write for your character better.

(Something I still need to work on) Don’t be afraid to jump into an open RP or ask someone to RP with you. Maybe even make new openers for new followers?

Be brave this is your time to shine, and even if you have 10 followers they love you and  want to RP with you that means you’re awesome!

Cosplay tips:

Make sure you look through your house for things you need before having to spend money. (as it turns out I already hat Plaid Shirts that looked like Sam’s and jeans don’t really need to look like his, (: )

Make sure you have a job where you can make money for the things you want/need for the cosplay of your choosing. Well… maybe not a job… but make sure you have LOADS of money for your cosplay needs/wants. (please don’t resort to stealing. Sell things you don’t want or need anymore, babysit, etc.

I suggest making your weapons (if you need them for your cosplay needs) instead of buying replicas… you can’t take those to cons…

If you’re trying to be frugal with your spending always check thrift stores, D.I.s, garaged sales, ect. first. That’s where I found my beige jacket.

Remember to have fun and who cares if your cosplay is a variant on a canon character. (Genderbent, animal, etc) It’s your cosplay and no one else’s. Even if it’s just one person who likes your cosplay it’s nice to know someone out there likes it, just make sure you’re comfortable with it and you love the way you portray your character.

"I hope that helped. I’m still a beginner cosplayer myself."

[young-wildandrestless]

My friend's advice on how to spice up your sex life

Start getting him to pop your pimples and then he'll man up and stop this old husband sex out of fear of you farting.