#advicegivers

[mytinylittlebudda]

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-is-2020/201712/why-people-give-unsolicited-advice-though-no-one-listens%3famp

How many people really take unsolicited advice?

[mytinylittlebudda]

keep in mind that most often they don’t require that you agree with them—just that you let them know that, despite its not quite fitting your circumstances, what they’re saying makes good sense to you.

Namely, that it might be fairly easy to exploit the advice-giver’s hidden agenda to “dominate” you, or assume superiority over you. That is, if you specifically ask them for advice, help, or guidance on something, they may be happy to actually “take on” the background research necessary for you to make the most informed decision. Or if you ask them to recommend how best to complete a task, they might even offer to do it for you. For that would enable them to demonstrate—both to you and themselves—their admiral ability to handle the job.

the advice-giver is granted a position of higher authority and, in this privileged role of “consultant,” experiences substantial ego gratification. As I mentioned earlier, the driving, largely unconscious impetus behind the advice-giver’s at times problematic habit is for them to assuage deep, never-resolved feelings of gnawing self-doubt. So in any given situation, the challenge is to find healthy ways of reassuring them of their essential competence ... but without actually taking advantage of them—or feeling that they’re somehow taking advantage of you.

[mytinylittlebudda]

If you don’t particularly like their advice (and haven’t requested it anyway), you may still need to respond to them with considerable care. Below the surface, they’re much less self-confident than you might imagine, and could easily become upset or offended if they feel you haven’t taken them seriously (as perhaps their parents didn’t when they were growing up

[colorful-mistake]

Hello (: Our names are Emilie and Natalie, and we run an advice blog together. We were wondering if you wouldn't mind letting your followers know that we are here for them at any time? We give all advice, and we give the best advice we can. Thank you (:

[stolenfootprints]

Hello! Our names are Emilie and Natalie, and we're an advice blog. We were wondering if you could let your followers know that we are here for them at any time? We give all advice(: Thank you!