#african problems

[ifriqiyyah]

dark-skinned angst©️

i'm really enjoying university so far (even though i'm nervous abt an upcoming physics exam), i'm glad i decided to come to europe to study for a number of reasons

but,,, there is one thing kinda sorta eating at me a little.

it's frivolous, i know it is, but like,,, people always tell you about the kind of stuff that's supposed to happen in college, including social stuff. and while i'm glad to say i've already made friends, this will sound stupid but i kinda thought maybe men would, like,,, talk to me?

i mean to be fair one guy has asked me out, but within that same span of time, so many guys have asked my housemate out or at least shown interest in her? and i mean, i totally see why, she's cute and gives off really nice vibes because she is nice. my other housemate gets less attention but i think it's just because she's serious and kinda cold (on purpose) with people she doesn't know well. but she still has guys try to message her on IG.

now look i'm not saying i deserve attention or whatever. i just find it a little,,, confusing. i'm far from a 10/10 but honestly i'm not totally clapped either? i get compliments from random ladies in public sometimes, actually. i'm pretty introverted but i don't think i give off a cold vibe or have rbf.

so when my housemates, who are both WOC but not black, tell me about how someone tried to ask them out or message them online or whatever, i can't help but feel like i live on another planet. because honestly men don't even notice my existence unless they work at a store and i am asking them where to find something.

i'm starting to wonder,,,

is it because i'm dark?

i dread to ask, but i really can't figure out another reason? i like being dark-skinned regardless, but is it possible that that's why men don't talk to me?? because they're not conditioned to be interested in dark women?

i'm posting this here because idk where else to talk about this. i don't have any black female friends here yet (i'm in a small STEM class). i just want to know if other dark-skinned african women living in western europe have this experience? and is there some stock in my extremely tentative and reluctant speculation, or is it some other reason?

[skittlesandlemonade]

Ok, can we talk about this? Because this has been a thing my entire life and to this day I never understood it.

Why the FUCK do me and my sister, as daughters, HAVE to serve my dad food like we’re his step-in wife when mom isn’t around? Why do we have to set the table for him like he’s a fucking guest? Why do we specifically need to know how to make these African dishes for HIM when I guarantee you neither I nor my husband will be eating this? For this alone I WILL find a husband that knows how to fucking take care of himself, cook for himself (and even me!!!!) and wipe his own ass when I’m not around.

But y’all want us to be independent women right? But y’all want me to go to school and get a second degree right? But y’all don’t want me to be a stay at home mom right??

Is this just me or is this an African thing? I wanna discuss this.

[babygirlkidd0]

It’s 1am and I’m just realizing now that I am probably the first “mixed” person of my mother’s family in the last 100 years. “Mixed” as I am from 3 different “tribes”/ethnic groups. That’s why when my mom told my grandpa that she was pregnant and that the father was not manjak, not even from Guinea-Bissau, not even from West Africa, he was really really angry and disappointed.

My grandpa came back to his senses though, he probably remembered how his family rejected my grandma because… they don’t come from the same villages. 😅

[africanmemes]

[ifriqiyyah]

grrr

my aunt brought me the two pairs of denim shorts i asked for from england (since i can’t find quality denim shorts where i live in kenya), but they don’t fit.

i thought they were just too wide at the waist but even after i got a local seamstress to narrow the waistbands, they still don’t fit right.

the waistbands are the same width as the legs (the shorts are literally square-shaped), so although they fit my waist better now, there’s too little room at the sides & there’s nowhere near enough material in the back. so my hips & backside can’t breathe :X

that’s what i get for getting clothes made for europeans i guess lmao

[africanmemes]

[ifriqiyyah]

day 46 of quarantine: my relaxed hair has begun stage 3 of trying to grow out into an afro

[daronenock]

Africa A Big Joke, Xi Jinping Translated To A Shithole.

Africa A Big Joke, Xi Jinping Translated To A Shithole.

Did you read the news on how the president of China’s name, Xi Jinping was translated to ‘Mr Shithole‘ by Facebook? Why do I think this was on purpose – who even has a dictionary that says ‘Shithole’ to mean a name?

If this had happened in Africa, I would understand because we have so many languages and some really have words that mean some really weird things that I cannot type.

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