#agender?

[runasulienadanika]

being a girl is fun until your parents start yapping about "the sacred union of man and a woman" or "the miracle of birth" or some other shit and you suddenly wish you didn't had a body

[briarmae]

What's agender like? Or non binary? Like, I'm fairly indifferent about my gender. I would prefer not to have a uterus, honestly. I'm not a fan of anyone seeing me in a sexual way, but I like to look traditionally aesthetically attractive. I like my boobs, and I like my hourglass figure. But at the same time, sometimes I'd like to look like a dorito. I figure I identify as female since I pretty much like my body the way it looks. 🤷‍♀️

What does it mean to identify as a gender, anyway?

I should probably just google it.

[confused-reading-ink-rat]

Happy month of Pride!

Also uh, I'm bi or pan, idk which, doesn't matter

They/them? Gender's a social construct and I don"t know how to jump in it

Also i like violet and purple and indigo

[donniehaspronouns]

idk maybe I’m agender I just don’t want to have a gender at all I want to express myself certain ways but I don’t want it to be gendered I don’t want to be gendered I want top surgery I want short hair and I don’t want to be gendered I think

[ao3cubi]

I am a he/him in the same way Aziraphale is

[violet-yimlat]

If I drinked your gender, would you miss it?

Too late i have already drinked your gender.

…

I actually don’t care.

I don’t care.

My gender is gone and I don’t care.

Huh.

[muffinlance]

(Baby screen-smashed delete on the original ask, excuse the janky posting)

Anonymous asked a question

Hey i get that you're trying to be a good cis writer and it IS good thst you're doing research but how you're reacting to the info is really off putting and to me insulting. Like essentially going squeeeee. It's infantilizing. We're real people not attributes you can add to fictional canonically cis cartoon characters to make them cuter. Sokka would not be "caught" doing that. (that one especially insulted me because it's not naughty. You are caught doing bad things. Euphoria is beautiful)

So let me start by saying your feelings are totally valid, so please no hate for this anon in the comments.

Let me continue by saying that people are sharing their life experiences. LOTS of people are. Which is inherently exciting because look at this beautiful community, look at these amazing people, look at these lived experiences that hurt and heal.

EXTREME EXCITEMENT is how I react to amazing things, and all y'all's input on this is indeed amazing. I'm sorry if it comes off as infantilizing, but I'm also unsure that pretending to be another dead-inside adult who doesn't find other people's experiences Astounding, Beautiful, Very Good is a thing that the world needs.

I would definitely not turn this enthusiasm on unsuspecting people, but everyone replying here has voluntarily stepped forward to do so. My general feelings on that subject is to validate the hell out of that act by showering credits into whatever novel comes of this + giving previews of how the character is shaping up based on responders' feedback. This is my version of "You have been heard and it shall be done."

And the Sokka who lives in my head, if caught doing fun and self-validating but rather private-for-him things in front of a mirror, would absolutely scream. If it had been the Suki, Toph, Jun, etc who live in my head, they would have grinned and OWNED it. That was meant as a personality-reflecting post, not a summation of the experience as had by all.

Which is sort of the problem in media, and I can absolutely see where that post could be taken wrong: there are so few queer characters of any persuasion that anything risks becoming associated with the queerness rather than the individual character. We needs more rep and more diversity of personality within that rep. We needs it muchly.

Which is very much what I'd like to do in my writing, but I can freely admit that a day-and-a-half of research does not make me any kind of expert on any kind of topic, and I apologise preemptively for any missteps I make along the way.

Also, uh. Between the fact that someone said "agender" in their comments and my brain went "wait that's an OPTION?" and the fact that I stared at the "cis" in this ask for far too long before realizing you meant me, I think it is possibly bold of either of us to assume I'm cis.

I can assure you I am absolutely Sokka-screaming right now, brain why.