When people use their situations to attempt and guilt people about whatever emotions they are feeling. It seriously hurts. Not because you make them feel guilty, but because if you're their friend, you'd understand them. They were there for you when you were down and out. They made you feel better, and if they couldn't then they'd at least sit there and hurt with you. So, just because you think they're being ungrateful for having something you lost, you should attempt to understand their situation. For example, if you're parents and you are arguing and you go to a friend who's parents are divorced for a few years, and they give you advice like... AT LEAST YOU STILL HAVE TWO PARENTS THAT... Or if (and I know this may sound rude but please hear me out...) you are having issues with you're mother and you go to a friend who's mother has passed away about 3 1/2 years ago, and they say... WELL YOU SHOULD BE GLAD YOURE MOM YELLS AT LEAST SHE CARES... Please do not use your situation to gain sympathy or pity or whatever else... WE ALL STRUGGLE. WE ALL GO THROUGH HARDSHIPS. STFU!