#aidens-come-lately

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truscum to cishaming: I've never seen truscum behave abusively or tell trans people they're not trans.

truscum to genderfag: Cis men know more about being trans than actual trans people.

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Like seriously if you're cis and your interests lead you to enthusiastically declaring who is really trans and who is not, then stfu and stop doing that.

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So this one time I accidentally a truscum

I decided to write a post about what it was like for me to grow up a trans girl (well, somewhere between "girl" and "no gender at all"), and I threw in some comments that basically said "all trans people are like this" and referred to specific experiences.

Several good friends said "No, it was not like that for me." Two friends were actually upset and invalidated by what I had written. So I took it down and apologized.

This was in 2008, and a lot of the stuff in that post I developed further (and others have developed similar or more often better ideas than what was usable from that post). 

It was my mistake, though. I said something about all trans people that was not true about all trans people. Faced with a reality that did not match my theory, I simply abandoned the theory that was demonstrably false.

People are more important to me than ideas that turn out to be wrong, no matter how much I liked the idea.

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Basically, truscum pander to cis people, and they do so abusively toward other trans people. There is no way to pander to cis people without abusing other trans people and throwing other trans people under the bus. But, that is the full extent of truscum ideology: Pandering to cis people, abusing trans people, and throwing trans people under the bus.

They can dress it up in all kinds of ridiculous excuses like "You are required to have dysphoria to be trans" or calling themselves trans medicalists (which is a toxic and false approach to transness all by itself). 

Also, they have ties with TWEFs and MRAS. What is up with that? What kind of trans person makes common cause with people who want to eliminate trans people?

Anyway, there's no such thing as transtrenders, and there's no way trans people are causing transphobia to exist. However, truscum most definitely support and act as apologists for the systems that do produce transphobia and tend to serve as a vocal source of transmisogyny.

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Truscum think I actually want to talk to them about their fucked up abusive, transmisogynist movement.

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Stop bullying. Being trans gives you no right to bully people who aren't, it's wrong, immoral and just plain bullying.

I am not bullying anyone. I didn't go into anyone's inbox and tell them that their gender is wrong. I didn't go into anyone's inbox and tell them they're not trans. I didn't do any of the things truscum routinely do when they decide to harass people.

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no, i didn't say you're not a trans woman. i am saying that if you have sex dysphoria and want to be female or have already transitioned you are a trans woman. but having a vagina and being comfortable with that is not in any way agender. agender is sexless. kanekiself, agender-offender, fabledfrowningfox, demons-in-the-void, tre-scum, agendergod, everyone would be yelling at you for saying agender is somehow an ~identity~ and not a serious issue. because they cannot find a way to transition

I did not say that agender is an identity. I said it is an important part of my sense of self. 

Agender is not sexless (unless the agender person wants to be). Neutrois is sexless.

agender-offender is one of the worst, most abusive and aggressive truscum. I could care less what mari thinks about my gender.

This is my last response to you, since you are trying to say that truscum don't do the things I said y'all do while doing several of them to me in your asks. 

The information on my blog page sets a boundary. It is my statement of who I am. It is not an invitation to a bunch of overinvolved assholes who have self-appointed themselves as gender police to try to debate who I am or what my gender is.

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are you fucking kidding me? there are no other nonbinary genders. and gender is not an identity, you make it sound like it's a choice. if for me to want both is somehow part of my ~identity~ then i must be a terribly boring person. anyway, there are only two nonbinary genders: agender and bigender. anything else doesn't make any sense.

Look at this motherfucker doing exactly what I said truscum do. Saying there are only two nonbinary genders (and conflating one of them with neutrois). How is this not hostile to non-binary trans people?

Like this person came into my inbox telling me that they know my sex and gender better than I do and that I was wrong about everything I put in my about while trying to insist truscum aren't abusive or hostile.

"#aidens-come-lately" what's up with your tag? are you calling every truscum aiden now because that's one of the popular names trans men use? really.

I did pick it because it is a popular name trans men use. I also picked that phrase because most of you hadn't even been born before I started taking estrogen, and your understanding of trans people and trans history is laughably lacking while your insistence on having the last word about who qualifies to be trans leads to toxic behavior.