#algorithmic anxiety

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🔥 MOST OF WHAT YOU WANT IS JUST A SIDE EFFECT OF WANTING TO BE SEEN

(And that’s okay — until you trade your whole life for it.)

You think you’re chasing success. You think you’re chasing beauty. You think you’re chasing freedom, status, validation, purpose.

But what if I told you this:

You’re not chasing the thing. You’re chasing the feeling of being seen having it.

And the second that truth lands in your gut, something inside you shifts.

Because deep down… you’ve always known.

🧠 STAGE ONE: YOU’RE NOT CRAVING THE THING — YOU’RE CRAVING THE ECHO 🧠

You didn’t want the luxury car. You wanted to pull up somewhere and watch necks turn. You wanted your enemies to spiral. You wanted your ex to see that reel.

You didn’t want to write a book. You wanted people to say, “Wow, they actually did it.”

You didn’t want to get fit. You wanted your mirror to turn into a weapon. You wanted to feel untouchable. You wanted the thirst comments.

You didn’t want love. You wanted to look like someone who’s finally lovable.

💡 That’s not desire. That’s defense. It’s not motivation. It’s survival instinct — sharpened by years of being overlooked.

You don’t want the thing. You want what the thing says about you to other people.

And that’s where it all goes sideways.

⚠️ STAGE TWO: YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM WAS BUILT ON MIRRORS ⚠️

You don’t need to be a psychologist to understand this:

From birth, you were trained to equate visibility with safety.

A parent’s eye contact? = love. Smiles from strangers? = good child. Praise from teachers? = value.

So by the time you hit 18? Your worth was outsourced.

You didn’t feel real until someone reacted. You didn’t feel valuable unless someone noticed.

Now the algorithm knows that. So does your boss. So do the marketers feeding you $89 moisturizers and digital diets for your self-esteem.

And you — the real you — is stuck under layers of performance.

Layers of “look at me.” Layers of “am I enough yet?” Layers of “please, someone tell me I’m okay.”

📱 Every scroll is a mirror. 🩻 Every post is an X-ray. 💀 And every like is a life raft in the ocean of am I even real without this?

💣 STAGE THREE: YOU’VE BEEN TRAINED TO PERFORM YOUR OWN LIFE 💣

They don’t need to enslave you anymore. They just need you to enslave yourself… to the audience.

👏 Want a relationship? Cool. But will it look good on Instagram? 👏 Want a passion project? Great. But is it monetizable? 👏 Want peace and quiet? LOL. Will it get engagement?

Even rest is performative now.

You’re burning out from pretending to be calm. You’re tired from trying to “look” healed. You’re over it — but still refreshing the views.

📸 You’re not in your life. You’re in the trailer for it.

And that trailer has a budget. A brand. A broken human beneath it who’s screaming for something real.

🔍 STAGE FOUR: IF YOU GOT EVERYTHING YOU ENVY, YOU’D STILL BE HUNGRY 🔍

Let’s say you win.

You get the body. The partner. The followers. The TED Talk. The book deal. The million-dollar apartment.

Now what?

If the entire chase was based on being seen, Then who are you when no one’s watching?

🫥 You’ve been so busy rehearsing your dream life, You forgot to ask if you even want it.

And if your dream is powered by envy? You’ll inherit the misery of the people you envied, too.

Because what you didn’t see… Were the anxiety meds. The broken marriage. The sleepless nights. The “why am I still empty” sobbing on 1000-thread-count sheets.

🥀 STAGE FIVE: WHAT TO WANT INSTEAD 🥀

Want peace. It doesn’t post well, but it feels like heaven.

Want truth. Even if it means burning your aesthetic.

Want depth. Even if it means fewer followers.

Want intimacy. Even if it means turning off notifications.

Want purpose. Even if no one ever applauds it.

💬 Ask yourself: “Would I still want this… if no one ever knew I had it?”

And if the answer is no? Then congratulations — you just spotted your programming.

🧨 FINAL WARNING: YOU ARE NOT A BRAND. STOP LIVING LIKE ONE. 🧨

You are not your feed. You are not your fit check. You are not your views, your reach, your followers, or your likes.

You are a human being — Not a product trying to go viral.

✨ Most of what you want… was installed in you by a world that profits off your emptiness.

But you can uninstall it.

You can opt out.

You can trade the performance for the person.

You can want less — and live so much more.

🌀 This was A Humble Tumble. You didn’t fall apart. You fell inward.

And that’s where the truth lives.

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Where All the Glitter Goes to Die: The Lament of a Modern Creator

Part of the Amplified Poetry Playlist Have you ever scrolled through your feed, only to be served an ad for the very thing you’re already trying to do? That moment of eerie, capitalist clairvoyance is the jumping-off point for Armando Heredia’s piercing poem, “LVN THE DRM,” a modern lament for the creative soul in the age of algorithmic anxiety. This piece, part of a larger duo titled The…

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002 Social Media's Silent, Yet Loud, Gaze

The previous discussion doesn’t necessarily account for people experiencing these effects on platforms where their connections are more personal. However, the surveillance dynamics within personal relationships are equally worthy of exploration. Social groups—family, friends, and others—are often forced to share a singular digital space, leading to context collapse. This collapse heightens anxiety as users navigate how they are perceived by multiple groups simultaneously, which can breed mistrust even within the closest of relationships. Particularly, users will analyse interactions on platforms like Instagram, where personal connections are more pronounced than on free-for-all platforms like Twitter. They may approach each interaction with excessive detail, falling into the trap of over-interpretation. For example, someone not responding to a comment or viewing a story without engaging might be perceived as a deliberate act. These ambiguous actions can easily manifest into darker thoughts if not counteracted. What users may not understand is that these actions might simply be a case of social overload or simply nothing. Such behaviours are so inconsequential to others that the outcome as stated is not even considered in the realm possibility. Yet, for the person overanalysing, these perceived slights can feel significant and deeply personal.

This tendency to overanalyse digital interactions is symptomatic of the broader challenges from social media. Platforms amplify even the most minor behaviours, making them feel significant in ways they aren't. This heightened sensitivity can distort our understanding of social dynamics, turning neutral or benign things into something larger. These interpretations then spiral, creating unnecessary tension in both digital and offline spaces. In a world mediated by digital platforms, the lines between connection, observation, and judgment have become marred. Social media has created a unique space where users must navigate an interplay of visibility, validation, and vulnerability. The resulting anxiety, paranoia, and mistrust can deeply impact how we view ourselves and our relationships. Recognising these dynamics so we can reclaim a healthier relationship with these platforms is key. Ultimately, the question we must ask is: How much of our digital anxiety is self-imposed, and how much is engineered by the platforms we use?

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001 Social Media's Silent, Yet Loud, Gaze

"I lied, y'all—delete your Instagram. Everybody on there is plotting, watching, and doesn’t like you. Start over."

Over the past few years, I’ve seen several iterations of this same tweet or sentiment. It got me thinking about whether there are any studies or phenomena that explore how social media contributes to anxiety and hyperawareness due to its borderline surveillance nature. This particular tweet might seem like a throwaway comment, but I think it speaks to larger issues that don’t yet have precise language to describe them. It captures a perfect intersection of social media anxiety, paranoia, and hyper-surveillance. Our digital platforms today almost act as courtyards, and by nature, environments where users feel constantly observed. Likes, comments, and views quantify this, making it feel all the more real and measurable. Whether these metrics tell the full story is a different matter entirely. Nonetheless, users exist in a heightened state of awareness regarding their audience. That audience watches, and a quiet part of our minds tells us that watching is inevitably followed by judgment. This dynamic fosters self-censorship, hyper-vigilance, and anxiety. For some, the mere idea of an audience that closely monitors behaviour can be a source of great stress.

If we want to circle back to theory, this phenomenon could loosely tie into the panopticon effect. In the panopticon model, prisoners in a courtyard are under constant observation from a central watchtower, whether or not guards are actively watching. Similarly, social media creates the feeling of being perpetually observed by an invisible audience, even if no one is engaging with you. Unlike the prisoner-guard relationship, however, this surveillance is two-way; users are both watchers and watched. They are an actor in the very same structure they repel. These dynamics seem to go unnoticed, or the self-absorption takes precedence, making the dots difficult to connect. The new age of Elon Musk’s Twitter (post-2022) exacerbates this phenomenon. The loss of a personal timeline, and by extension, the loss of key interactions one may have had previously, the introduction of a "For You" page filled with content antithetical to you (said to be intentional to boost engagement through discord), and the emergence of tiered experiences via premium features have fundamentally altered the platform’s social dynamics. What once felt like a communal courtyard now feels distant and fragmented, amplifying feelings of disconnection. This shift feeds into what can be termed algorithmic anxiety. Unaware to many who may be experiencing such, social media algorithms prioritise specific interactions, such as engagement driven by controversy or outrage. However, when more seemingly normal content is given centre stage, it can amplify feelings of exclusion for users. For instance, when users post content that receives fewer likes or interactions, they might interpret this as evidence of being disliked or ignored. Unlike the physical panopticon, where observation is implied, visibility on social media is explicit through notifications and engagement metrics. These tangible markers often lead users to draw conclusions—accurate or not—about their social standing. Furthermore, there isn't particularly a clear-cut way to drive content engagement or visibility, this unpredictability can intensify that feeling of being scrutinised. This can further stress users and erode trust in their digital relationships. This paranoia often spills into offline relationships that also occupy a digital space, such as friendships on social media. Research has shown that heightened social media use can lead to negative comparisons and damage to self-esteem. By comparing themselves to the curated, idealised lives of others, individuals may feel alienated for failing to fit predefined molds or expectations. This alienation can harm perceptions of their social relationships. Everyone yearns for connection, even in digital spaces, and the fear of exclusion can make users particularly sensitive. Some have reported sensing hostility or judgment from their online mutuals, even without concrete evidence to support these feelings. This ties into rumination and confirmation bias, where even ambiguous behaviours can become a point of contention. A 2020 study published in Psychiatry Research found a connection between social media use and paranoia. Increased usage, especially during periods of isolation, was associated with heightened feelings of persecution. This suggests that the surveillance-like nature of social media platforms, combined with their tendency to amplify insecurities, may play a significant role in these psychological effects.