#alpha type

[angelbabby]

Angel messaging David at work

[taylorteffyswift]

This. The Patriarchy is dead. This fearless leader alpha type queen is taking over... deal with it Scoot cuz the world is SO over you.

[banditlikemeeyesfullofstars]

‪Not to be THAT person buuuuut, guess who not only made a 100% in the hardest Data Science course in their doctoral program but also still has straight A’s in said doctoral program? 👀 Oh yeah, that’s me 💁🏼‍♀️ Alexa, play The Man by @taylorswift 🙌🏻‬

[swiftbutterflies]

i’d be the man

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[caticornsrreal]

As a divorced mother I think it's a HUGE fucking double standard that society totally dismisses the Disney Dad. As mothers we spend every waking moment prioritizing our kids, sacrificing for those priorities and embellishing as much as we can so they can look back with fond memories of their childhood years. Let me unpack that.

We run on 4hours of sleep so we can have those 15 minutes in the car to connect with them on the way to school. We multitask like wizards so they can get to their voice lesson, martial arts, dance and clubs. We manage the bills, the home, the Dr appointments, the sleepovers and the breakups. And many of us work a 40hr work week. I can't tell you when the last time I soaked in a bathtub with a glass of wine was.

Why the fuck does society praise men for showing up to work, and taking their kids on vacation once a year or to a park one day a week with none of the every day magic tricks that women pull from their metaphoric asses to actually get the daily life demands done?

I have to thank @taylorswift for this one. Hands down one of my favorite parts of The Man mv.

[taylorswifterino]

Today I got a job offer for a new job, I sent back a counteroffer with a higher salary. After some deliberation they gave me the higher salary I asked for.

On the SAME DAY The Man video came out.... just saying...

Coincidence or the power of TS?? 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼

[elaizzzzzswift]

"I'd be THE MAN..."

-Taylor Swift, 2019

[capechuffita]

How ‘The Man’ changed my life

I’m sure it has happened to everyone before, that somehow, in some way - most likely through one of her songs rather than a speech or discourse - Taylor Swift has managed to change the way you live your life beyond just being a really big fan of hers. For some it could have been ‘Begin Again’, a song that takes us to reflect on how toxic some relationships we partook in were. For others it could have been ‘Call It What You Want’, a song about not giving a crap about anyone or anything else but enjoying your loved one as they come.

But ‘The Man’ is a song so significant - much like Kesha’s ‘My Own Dance’ - that it must have touched so many women like myself and geared us into action. I owe a lot of the recent changes in my life to that one sole song. I ain’t no baller and I ain’t no alpha type, but I am, like many, a woman working in a male-dominated field.

I got my architecture degree and immediately was offered a job in construction - a luxury that not many women get. Immediately I understood how it was a lucky coincidence that I had gotten in, and not my own prowess, and how much effort it was going to take to keep it for the sole reason of me being female. I heard my own employers disregard other women architects just because of their sex, and workers on site preferring to receive orders from my male coworkers rather than myself. I withstood this for more than a year and a half, cursing patriarchy but allowing it, many times, to defeat me.

I eventually got the respect I deserved from people at my company, but architecture leads you to constantly work from people on the outside. After all the effort it took to show everyone that I deserved my job, I came across a big group of people - that I would have to work with for over a year - who not only disregarded my voice, but blatantly insulted me. I got empty empathy from my employers - it’s more profitable for me to just suck it up than actually do anything about it - and I had no other job to run to. Also, I loved my job. It was not uncommon for me to come home in tears.

And then Lover came out. I stayed up until wee hours of the morning blasting The Man on repeat and decided that we do NOT need to have the cultural impact Taylor has to do something about sexism. THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. We ALL can change the world, little by little. I started fighting back at work - calling out sexism, calling out my boss, not waiting to discuss reprimanding workers with my employer but directly taking a stand as to who I was inside the site (the mf boss). I got a few ‘you can’t get into fights’ from them, but mostly, because I handled everything professionally and because I was actually good at my job, nothing major happened. They - nor anyone else - were going to stand up for me so I had to do me. I changed my own situation (even changing my hair color, which I had been afraid to do because of how much less respect I would gather. I didn’t allow them to talk back - so I now sport beautiful pink hair.)

Taylor can fight louder - but we can fight with her. She pushed us with ‘The Man’, but we need to keep pushing. We all deserve to be the fearless leader.