IM SO HAPPY YOU FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT OCTAVIA!!!! It's so hard because everyone is so against her because of what she did, but people don't realise WHAT HAPPENED TO HER!
The characters and the entire situation are gray, but Octavia has been chalked up to a big joke, i.e. all her nicknames. I understand memes. And I understand people who are angry at her. I definitely am too, sometimes.But Octavia and Bellamy were forced into a bad situation from the moment she was born. Neither of them could help what happened after that until they went down to Earth. Bellamy did his best to raise her and protect her at all costs for years and years. But it gave them an unhealthy parent-child mentality that has caused tons of strain on their relationship. As much as they love each other, and they do, we often hurt the ones we love the most.No one can say that Bellamy did not have a hand in the spiral of events that led to Lincoln’s death. He never wanted it, his heart is gold, and he would never want the people closest to him to be hurt, but it happened… and as much as we all were yelling at our screens for Octavia to trust Bellamy and let him help her, Octavia shouldn’t have been expected the way that she was by some sides of fandom to trust him after he’d been on the other side, actively working against his friends during this time.It sucks that she is lashing out at Bellamy. I hate to hear his voice crack in despair and be upset over their broken relationship, and I don’t necessarily think he deserves it at this point. But it’s not about whether he deserves it. Everything about Octavia’s grief has to do with her. Octavia’s reaction to grief is a result of her learned behavior since Pike first beat up Murphy on the Ark to teach the kids a lesson for the ground, since they first landed on the ground and Jasper was speared for no reason, since the delinquents were attacked several times over, since she basically joined Trikru and learned to fight, and learned to hold off mourning the dead until the war is over. And she has channeled all her anger into continuing on in this war, holding back anything but anger and relinquishing it on her perceived enemies.Octavia knows Bellamy loves her. But I must be a demon for telling my parents I hated them when I was younger, for coming close to running away, for being aggressive when I shouldn’t have been, for throwing things, and for worse. I’ve had issues with anger all my life. But I’ve grown emotionally. And my family never played any part in the death of someone else I loved.In the world of The 100, characters are often losing people very close to them in terrible ways. Y'all rage at the way that Lincoln died, but get angry when Octavia is upset. She’s not justified for blaming Bellamy so harshly because it certainly wasn’t all his fault, or for beating him, because again, he never meant for Lincoln’s death to happen, but she’s grieving. Instead of facing it, she’s channeled it into being destructive. After fear, rage and death is all she’s known. Maybe we should wish for her to learn understanding and gentleness instead of wishing that she’d die as if she isn’t young, as if she can’t grow, as if she can’t learn that what she did was wrong and apologize. But idk that’s just me.Edit: Because I'm worried people will perceive me to be someone who excuses abuse, I just wanna say more explicitly that I don't condone Octavia beating Bellamy. I know it's important to talk about the emotional impact on Bellamy and how awful it was for her to physically beat someone who loves her and how that affects their bond, and Bellamy as a victim of abuse, but that's still rooted in what I discussed above, the behavior Octavia has learned from all those she looks up to. But she channeled it wrong, clearly. Actually, that makes me think about how Octavia should perceive Bellamy, who displayed dominance over the delinquents with "chaos" when they landed and who shot people who she knew were sent to protect them. I know Bellamys intentions were good and they potentially could have turned on them, like at Mount Weather, but this is gray. End point: Octavia isn't a cupcake who should be coddled, but she can learn to be better. And hopefully she'll apologize.
