#and bitter

[nice-bright-colors]

And the bunnies upstairs just got home.

I’m either drunk enough to fight them, angry enough to yell at them…or pissed off enough for both.

I swear to god, they have to move furniture around and wear heavy boots while doing it. Maybe I should buy an air horn, that might do the trick.

I miss the college days (the first time around) when somebody in the house party pissed you off…you threw them off the balcony. Always party on the side of the rugby team, those guys are fucking nuts.

[crowbjection]

"Write it yourself" has become the automatic response in fandom spaces to any comment about wanting to read something that doesn't exist. Of course, writing IS a solution to this problem, and there is nothing wrong with encouraging someone who has shown interest in trying to write a fic but is feeling insecure/uncertain for whatever reason. Maybe they're a beginner, or maybe the idea is something out of their comfort zone, or it's just a long/complex project that feels intimidating. But they still seem interested enough, so a "hey, I think you should do it" works as a gentle push.

That being said, any kind of writing requires time, effort, and actually wanting to dedicate yourself to a project, even if it's a smaller one. So, when people just keep throwing this response around like a magic solution, it comes to a point where it sounds nothing but dismissive. Any mention of wishing you could read something is immediately cut off by someone telling you to write it instead, as if they're not different wants.

Yes, maybe I could write it myself, but it doesn't mean I want to. What I want to read and what I want to write about are often different things, and sometimes I just want to read something that wasn't made by me. It's the same feeling of knowing that countless fics about a certain pair or theme exist, and still wanting to write your own version of it. I want to write about the things I want to write, and read about the things I want to read, and these things are usually not the same.

This makes me think that it's a problem similar to how often people use "write for yourself" to silence people who complain about the way interactions are becoming rarer, while hate comments (and scam bots) only become more common. Many writers write for themselves, I know I do. But when someone shares their story, it's often because they hope people will read it, and that they will receive some kind of response for their work and feel like part of a community. It's horrible to feel like you're screaming into the void, and even worse to be judged for not being content with the feeling of isolation that comes from it. Sure, we often have to get used to the loneliness so it won't consume us, but having your feelings dismissed again and again doesn't help--now I'm feeling lonely and guilty.

Anyway, "write it yourself" and "write for yourself" are two automatic responses I see thrown around a lot, and while both can be valid responses in certain cases, they're often used to silence any sign of frustration from people in fandom. Either for not finding the fic they want to read, or for feeling isolated in their own fandom when they want to feel like part of a community. Sometimes a "that's rough buddy" sounds much kinder than just telling the person to be quiet and deal with it themselves.

[frownyalfred]

Any particular reason you love Batfleck so much? Or is it just a "blorbo I found on the ground and now I'm attached to it" kinda thing?

I think it’s the shared love we both have for alcohol, poor coping mechanisms, and strength training.

[mollywog]

Talk about failing up

[heavydirtyscul]

idk what to do with my life 😫

[klaasjanbaby]

April 2nd is the actual april fools day for autistics. And sadly we are the punchline

[aamusedly]

"Complain louder."

"Just makes me stink better."