wdym by your tags on the post about lesbians appreciating bi women more
i think many lesbians still harbor biphobic views whether consciously or unconsciously, and need to stop behaving in ways that imply bi women are less queer, inherently worse at talking to women (LESBIANS SUCK AT THIS TOO!!!!), destined to end up with a man, incapable of possessing a complex understanding of their gender and sexual identities, going through a phase/using lesbians for 'experimentation', never visibly targeted by homophobia, and so on.
also, bi women are isolated from "wlw"/queer woman communities over and over again bc peoples' rightful disdain for shitty men migrates to their girlfriends, many of whom are stuck in abusive situations without a support system. the only way to make this better is to be that support system! if you hate her shitty boyfriend, help her get away from him!! if you want to encourage her to date other genders, you need to stop acting like she's a "second choice"!!!
ALSO also, the stereotype that all bi women haven't dated women/will only have boyfriends is reinforced by lesbians viewing them as less serious in their queerness. it's cyclical - bi women are disbelieved and delegitimized, they don't get involved in communities that hate them, and then the claims that they're less serious come back. if someone comes out as bi and has only ever had boyfriends and is nervous about moving through 'queer spaces' (as it were) you need to actually help them. introduce them to people. affirm that they belong. invite them to things. understand that they might make mistakes.
bi women are seriously so awesome and have so much to offer as partners and friends and community members and comrades and lesbians shoot ourselves in the foot - not to mention act like total assholes - when we don't acknowledge the myriad ways that bi women are fundamental to our communities.
