#ant activated

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I really hate any and all rhetoric about how trans men are not meaningfully impacted by the vitriolic hatred towards men and masculinity within queer and non queer communities alike. I swore off medical transition until very recently because I was told over and over and over that it would make me unlovable and evil. I was suicidal as a young teen because I felt I was betraying everything I had gone through as a girl by being more comfortable with masculinity. I hesitated for years to truly identify and feel joy even as a tomboy, much less as a young man, because I felt that transitioning would mean losing my queerness.

Because the world does not need another straight white boy.

But what I’ve learned through blood and tears and time and genuine love, is quite the opposite: the world needs a miserable young woman even less. What the world wants or needs is irrelevant to your transition. What the world needs now more than ever is joy, including (but obviously not limited to) the joy of trans men.

I have lived and survived and unlearned the cruelties that dumbfucks on tumblr debate the existence of. And for every man like me, yelling at you to step the fuck and protect all trans people, how may more young boys didn’t hesitate quite so long to kill themselves?

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I deserve to be happy. All disabled people deserve to be happy.

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By the way if you do not put flash warnings even after repeatedly being told to do so, I hate you. You are callous, cruel, and blatantly do not care about the happiness and health of disabled people. If you do not help raise up disabled voices, especially those of your own fucking friends, I hate you. And if you want to call me evil and mean and whatever, do it, but know that I am the one advocating for keeping people safe while you are putting your own aesthetics and convenience over the safety of other human beings.

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“Masculinity is never punished” you’ve never talked to a trans man, butch, or any vaguely masculine woman before. Slurs and catcalls don’t count btw.

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I am kind of sick of when someone pulls the “if I was whining about cis men it wouldn’t be a big deal, I was just annoyed” thing. Like.

1. Trans men are oppressed. Because our transness and manhood are interdependent, we are, in fact, oppressed for being men. So shut up.

2. Do you have any idea how EXHAUSTING it is to see OTHER TRANS PEOPLE constantly being annoyed about [checks notes] your existence? For making minor human mistakes that everyone else is forgiven for?

3. Not to get radical on tumblr but like I think it’s bad to say anyone is bad because of their gender and yes this includes men. Cis men (and men in general) are not inherently evil, they are taught to be that way.

3.b. Trans men are not taught to be evil in the same way that cis ones are.

4. Everything has nuance and complexity

5. We are all faggots in the eyes of the state

6. The erasure that trans men face is not privilege (we went over this with asexuals. Right)

7. WHY IS IT THAT WHEN YOU ARE ANNOYED AT US YOU START USING SLURS AND SAYING WE ARE EVIL. WHAT.

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trans men are oppressed by the way. Like. It’s kinda transphobic to say we aren’t.

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rent lowering gunshot: I am multigender and consider myself both a gay trans man and a cis-ish lesbian woman. And some stuff in between that. I have a complicated relationship with my womanhood as a result of significant childhood trauma and have a slightly less complicated relationship with my manhood as a result of that same trauma. Fuck off.

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Absolutely insane to me how a fifty something welder with a daughter whose probably close to twice my age has been a thousand times kinder and more understanding of my photosensitivity than a lot of the self proclaimed punks fags and freaks on this site. I’ve been blocked, mocked, ignored, and harassed for asking for simple accommodations and calling ableism. And then I mention it casually at work because my eyes were kinda itchy and I had my sunglasses on again, and I was met with genuine concern and compassion.