You’re not intimidating to message (though you are one of my mutuals that I’m always surprised follows me) I’m just deathly afraid of annoying a mutual I think is cool by dming them
That's good. At the end of the day we're all still on tumblr
Also to be blunt, if you're constantly worried about being annoying and expressing that? You're taking away from focusing on conversations, on connecting genuinely and actually interacting, in a way. I get insecurities, I get being shy, god knows I feel exactly that way but if I finish every interaction I had with people I don't know well with "sorry if I'm annoying you"? Idk are we sharing to be relatable or are we sharing to put ourselves down and put the other one on the spot
It makes me feel like I'm prompting someone to assure me out of obligation and that in itself IS annoying, if I feel like I'm obligated to do the same? It's also uncomfortable and feels insincere; it's not going to truly assure either one of us. Does that make sense? It's a little bit of a line between being openly vulnerable and honest vs. self fulfilling prophesy.
Ending thoughts, fake it till you make it paired with actually being grossly sincere and earnest. "I enjoy xyz interaction" "I thought of you when I saw this" "hey is it okay if I ask or talk about XYZ?" Little things that give the other person space to answer in a positive way? "Me too :D" "omg wait I love that thank you" "yesss tell me everything I'm all ears".
Idk I overthink A LOT so idk if this is at all relatable; at the same time I have a lot of thoughts that are from my point of view with insecurities.
I get very anxious when I'm in an social environment where like.. if I don't respond, I'm not denying it? But if I say something, I don't know what to say. "You're not annoying" feels insufficient and any more than that makes me feel like I HAVE to give energy to reassure someone? But if I don't have the emotional or mental energy to do so I feel like an asshole djdhfhs
There's nuance to strangers, moots, friends as well, because I do have love and reassurance to give, just don't make me feel like it's a social obligation.
Anyway. This is a moment where I'd be like, sorry you didn't ask to hear ANY of this at all. But that's pointless. Someone sends me an ask to my space I'm allowed to respond with as much or as little thoughts as I want y'know? I can't intrude on my own space. 🤷Maybe someone doesn't agree with me, maybe I'm exaggerating or being harsh. But maybe people also get a better picture of me as a person and I'm not making myself small. Baby steps lol
Also last side note. Real big fan of those reassurance life hacks where people are dramatic and kinda go like "clearly I've committed crimes can U forgive me?" "I've spilled a bag of peas all over your carpet AND smushed them in is that okay?" Or some such shit
