How did you start playing? I’ve always loved being on skates. As a kid, I used to figure skate, but especially loved tooling around the neighborhood on quads or in-line skates, making up stories as I went. I can’t remember how I meandered into Derby Lite, but I skated with DL for 2.5 years, and absolutely loved it. Then my best friend from grade school came to town. On a years-overdue coffee date, she raved about her derby experience with the Santa Cruz Derby Girls. She and I had always been “academics,” not “athletes.” (We both now realize this is a false dichotomy, but middle school gym class really traumatized us.) We laughed about how, thousands of miles away and without ever talking about it, we had found the same unlikely activity.
As my wedding approached, my stress levels skyrocketed and I needed an outlet, something intense and all-consuming. I did a random search to see if any local leagues were recruiting and my DuPage Derby Dames were having a boot camp the following week! It was insta-love, and I now realize how serendipitous the timing was. I feel incredibly lucky to have found this team.
How has it changed you? Derby has made me stronger in every dimension of my life. I was incredibly ill during boot camp; I was five weeks away from getting married, and wedding stress threw my immune system into chaos. I pushed through it, though, and was totally shocked that I was capable of that level of effort. I saw a new side of myself—one that saw what she wanted and just went and took it. There are things in life that have come easily to me, but athleticism has never been one, and I am proud of myself every day for achieving something so far outside of my natural talents.
As an only child and an introvert, I’ve always seen myself as a lone wolf, someone who does better one-on-one or in small groups. Big social groups used to give me major anxiety. Being part of a large league has made me comfortable with big groups, and I’ve come to love the easy camaraderie of gearing up and chatting with whoever’s there, or getting to know other skaters and officials better when we meet up for volunteer events or parties. I’ve never been a “team player” before, and it feels really good!
Sometimes when I have to do something really hard—like get a spinal injection, or discipline an employee, or stand up for myself—I remind myself that I’m Arya Stark Ravin’, and like my namesake from the A Song of Ice and Fire series, I am capable of doing and enduring anything. If I can push through a wall over and over, dance around the outside, hold an amazing jammer back by acting in perfect concert with my teammates, or do jumping jacks on my toe-stops (the single most terrifying thing I’ve had to do in practice), I can do anything.
Why do you love it? I love the presence of mind. When I’m doing derby, I can’t think about anything else—the bills, work drama, the news, the bad day I had, etc. It all just falls away. Lining up to scrimmage, or practicing a tough drill, I feel both the greatest adrenaline rush and the greatest peace I’ve ever felt. I have never been able to meditate, but I think derby is my meditation.
I also love the afterglow. When I get home from practice I’m all atwitter, even if it’s midnight. I suddenly want to chat about anything and everything, and feel so appreciative of my friends and my family and life, and feel excited about the future and ready to take on the world.
I love the community. I love that I have found all of these new friends, and that we are so diverse in our jobs, hobbies, and lives, but understand each other through this passion we share. I love feeling like part of something bigger than me. I love how empowering derby is, and how, as a teammate of mine pointed out, you can literally see the effect of derby in pictures of people before and after they began playing—not a body change, but an edginess, a confidence.
And I love my new derby butt! I mean, I love it. I’ve never admired my own body so much in my life!
Arya, #5M, DuPage Derby Dames