Jun 9
Being aroace is probably what aliens with really bad human disguises that have to say "I am human btw" to everyone feel like
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Being aroace is probably what aliens with really bad human disguises that have to say "I am human btw" to everyone feel like
favorite non-edible snack?
NON EDILBE??!? ITSN EVERYTHING EDIBLE IF YOU TRY!!!!
FRODO for the aro thing
What arospec identities do they have? (Can be as specific or vague as desired)
Frodo’s greyromantic, but on the more aro side of things. He’s also very ace, and while he’s only ever really liked one person (Sam), he feels comfortable calling himself gay too.
How proud of being arospec are they?
He doesn’t feel particularly strong about being arospec, it’s definitely something he feels is his own private business. He’ll talk about being aro with his close friends, but that’s about it.
Do they prioritize their arospec identity over any others?
No, not particularly
Are they out? If so, how did they come out, and to whom?
Sam knows, of course. And Merry and Pippin, though he didn’t feel comfortable coming out to them until the Quest. Bilbo knows- Bilbo is lithromantic, and he’s the one who helped Frodo figure things out. And Gandalf, but Frodo’s not sure if he ever actually came out to Gandalf or if Gandalf just knew.
How do they feel about romance? Romance-favorable? Romance-neutral? Romance-repulsed? Or does it fluctuate?
Frodo’s pretty romance-repulsed, which is difficult for him on the rare occasions he’s feeling something like romantic attraction to someone. (It’s Sam, of course. But even then the feeling comes and goes, sometimes it’s not romantic at all, and when it is he’ll isolate himself. Which isn’t a great coping strategy, but it’s what he does)
Have they ever experienced arophobia? If so, how?
Hobbit norms around sexuality can be kind of rigid, especially in Hobbiton (Buckland is way more chill), and while there are definite Bachelors (gay + aspec hobbits) they do get looked upon oddly. When everyone in the Shire is talking about how queer Frodo & Bilbo are they’re not just talking about the whole adventure and magic thing. Lobelia is a typical culprit, she likes to be nasty about Frodo and Bilbo just on principle. She’s actually afraid that either one of them will settle down and get married and have some kids, but she doesn’t understand why they aren’t and is suspicious of them either way!
How do they show their arospec pride?
Frodo’s favorite color is green! Sam plants flowers around Bag End that are all the colors of the rainbow, which he loves, but Frodo will make little bouquets of just green leaves to leave in his windowsill (Lobelia despises this)
Do they actively try to combat amatonormativity in their daily lives or elsewhere? If so, how?
Not really - Frodo likes his comfortable life and he can deal with the pressures of hobbit society, he doesn’t want to go to the trouble of changing anything. And after the Quest he’s already saved the world and he’s too tired to do anything else. He and Sam are in a relationship but it’s very private and only Rosie really knows or cares.
Was it easy for them to label themselves arospec, or was there a long period of questioning? How many labels did they have to try before landing on the one they use now?
With Bilbo also being arospec, it was pretty easy for him to realize he was aromantic. During the Quest he realized that he had feelings for Sam, and while that was a surprise he pretty quickly decided he was actually greyro, “oh and gay too I guess.”
Would they be interested in a QPR? Why or why not?
Yes, and he and Sam are in one! They figured that out on the way home to the Shire after the Quest, though that was mostly just having actual Conversations and putting Labels on it- they’d been in a QPR for most of the Quest, after they got to Rivendell pretty much. Sam is bi and he loves Frodo in a romantic way as well as a queerplatonic way, and he’s married to Rosie whom he also loves in a romo way, but he prioritizes his relationship with Frodo. Rosie knows all about this and she’s totally fine with it, she and Sam fulfill each other’s needs and love each other, and she is fond of Frodo even if she doesn’t feel the same way toward him as her husband.
Final thoughts?
im love him
it'll be hard at first, but... your friends and family won't hold it against you. after the shock has worn off, i hope things will be okay. the fact that you're still here means they love you and know you aren't defined by the past.
Thanks, that means a lot...
were you reset to default settings?
Not necessarily
what's up gir!! whatcha doing rn?
WAITIG!!!!
2 and 10 for the aro ask meme!
2. Are you interested in having a QPR?i am sitting across from my qpp right now so….yes :)
10. any opinions on symbols (ie. like ace dragons) aros should claim?i mean, arrows, obviously. and birbs, because i love them. also daisies just cuz!!
do u have any [fav] loz ships other than zelink? :0
fi & link’s friendship completely trumps every other ship in the series including zelink sfcghsfghs. they’re my brotp forever
and god so many??? i... ship link with basically every person in his age range lmao zelink is just the otp. i think sidlink probably comes close because it’s just so sweet but other than that lmao... i want him to smooch everyone.