#aro asks

[aro-but-not-ace]

Anyone have any questions or anything they want to know about being aroallo or just aro in general? I want to revitalize this blog and also I love answering questions in general. Send anything into my ask box! Even if you just want to say hi!! :)

[gwen-cheers-me-up]

What is your dream aromantic themed fanfic?

Tysm for this ask!

Okay this is super niche, but my dream aro fanfic is a BBC merlin cyborg/android AU where the Pendragons run a company that build AI robots. Uther has put all sorts of laws in place that limit the production of robots by anyone outside of the Pendragons' company (allowing for uncertified robots to be dismantled if uncovered), and the robots are known to be different from humans in certain ways in order to prevent them from having certain rights. Most relevant to the plot: they are not capable of feeling love.

Emrys is the latest model, and Morgana is tasked with determining whether or not Emrys can feel love. As she interacts with Emrys Ex-Machina-style, however, anxiety builds inside her as she realizes she doesn't feel love. And in her world, that means she's barely human.

Interspersed between these scenes, we have an Arthur/Gwen plotline unfolding. Gwen works at the Pendragon's company building AI robots, and she and Arthur fall in love, but when she holds him close, she notices something: there's a...ticking in his chest rather than a heartbeat.

As it turns out, when Nimueh worked at the company, she helped Uther and Ygraine build a son, but it was essential to their business model that the truth about AI robots (that they are no less human than people born from a womb) stay secret, so Arthur's true origin had to likewise be kept from both Arthur and the rest of the world.

While Gwen deals with this new information, Morgana continues her tests on Emrys. Morgana's dread builds as Emrys reveals signs that perhaps he does feel love. She starts listening to her heartbeat regularly, afraid that one day she'll hear a ticking. After all, even this robot is more human than she is.

Emrys, however, cannot feel love. He is simply adapting to the information he is given, and the only way he can see himself becoming free is by proving to them he is human enough to feel love. So he pretends to fall in love with Morgana, using the love stories that have been fed into his algorithm as a guide.

I think this fic would be a fun way to explore the whole "love is what makes us human" myth, and it could go in so many fun directions, like Gwen and Emrys teaming up to fight for the rights of robotic folks or Arthur going public about his mechanical heart, forcing Uther to choose between his son and his business interests.

[toribookworm22]

53 for the arospec asks!

Hello, lovely!

Hell yeah! Coming in strong!

53. What is the best part about being aro? 

For me, I think the absolutely best part about being aro is just the sense of belonging that comes with the term. I've always been aro, but knowing it let's me enjoy all the good.

Being aro has let me dismantle all the lies amanormativity built up in my head and discover what it is that I truly want out of my life. Which is amazing! The freedom detaching myself from romance has granted me is honestly breathtaking. I'm kind of ranting now, but the sense of community is wonderful, too. I've always felt a little bit on the outside. But I'm not anymore. I have a place and a people that belong to me just as much as I belong to them.

Thank you for the ask!! 🥰

[apocalypsewriters]

9, 23, & 50 for the aro ask game! 🙃

hey tori! (i didn't realise we had this in common until today so 💚)

9. What made you realise you were aspec / arospec?

hh okay kinda complicated and cringy answer. i found the term asexual in fanfic, looked it up, sat on it, before deciding it fit. along the way I found aro and adopted that too. one of the deciding factors was magnus bane from the shadowhunters chronicles. i realised that most anyone else with such strong feelings about someone (fictional or not) would consider it a crush and i. didn't. definitely an oh moment

23. Most underrated form of intimacy?

i don't know if these are underrated, but they're definitely the ones I enjoy the most: head scratches and familial kisses on whatever bit of skin is closest. i love lying in my friends laps with their hand on my head giving slow scratches. and I often restrain myself from pulling up a hand I'm holding to press my lips against it. i feel like I'm making this seem way more sensual and charged than it is; id do the same thing with my younger sisters. if anything this is an underrated platonic intimacy

50. Any arospec headcanons?

(is this revenge or curiosity, tori) some of these are gonna be pretty obscure so props to anyone that gets these.

Sawyeh Noor from the venture maidens fate campaign. she's pretty heavily ace/aro coded and I think it was accidental in the beginning but I think naseem leaned into it by the end, which i appreciate

slake from legendlark. they are just so clueless i don't think they have a complete grasp on what romance even is. they haven't had to roll to fall in love, so frankly, I don't think they can in the way that's implied

peridot from steven universe is a popular one I support. for one, she's green, and also she has the vibes

there are more that i can't think of rn and there's also the category in my brain of "too cool for romance" but that's something different

[mtg-player1]

5, 17, 19 for aro asks (if havent already answered those)

How did you figure out you are aro?

That's a difficult one. Honestly I barely remember most of the questioning process. I remember trying to talk to an allo about attraction, and she kinda made it clear that attraction wasn't a choice, which had been my understanding for a while. (clueless aro here lol). Also just, learning just how many attractions there are. I don't know if I feel any at this moment, but mainly knowing there are so many ways to feel about people made me lower my guard to aromanticsm.

Do you have any aro related labels that don’t fit into the other groups (like loveless / lovequeer / amatopunk / etc)?

I'm a bit confused by the phrasing, but I'm assuming the question is what aro subcultures/labels I best align with. Maybe lovequeer. Maybe more like microlabels, but I do vibe with non-amorous, romance averse/repulsed (varies). (feel free to send again if I misunderstood, no stress)

Is there a song that is very aromantic to you?

A couple:

Perfume by lovejoy (well, one of the characters)

Tell me this is not an aroace being excluded because of either no crushes or no partner and pretending to have crushes/gets a partner who she pretends to like to be included.

Cute thing by Car seat headrest (the live version is best)

This is one of my comfort songs when I trigger my romance repulsion. It reads like aroallo (alloallo4aroallo kinda) or sex favorable romance repulsed aro to me. It also kinda works as lovelustic.

How do you love? by the regrettes

This is about romantic (+ sexual?) love (or possibly pda) btw (it references a couple before). This sounds like something I would've said before lol. Kinda loveless-core.

[arospec-zine]

What do you like, or not like, about Valentine’s Day?

Submit in the ask box or reblog!

[thesevenumbrellas]

Hi! My younger sibling came out as asexual recently and they're not sure whether they are aro or not. I'm an allosexual lesbian so I'm not sure if my experiences with attraction are the most helpful there. (Not sure if comparing to what compulsory heterosexuality feels like would help?)Do you have any things that could help someone figure out whether They're aro or not? If not, please feel free to ignore this as well, don't want to put any unnecessary work on you

I am so sorry I didn’t answer this sooner.

Picking up on the lack of something is hard. Its not like aro’s know how to detect whats missing because they don’t know what should be there.

But I think the simplest solution is the best one: have they ever had a crush on someone? Have they ever felt romantic attraction? If they had to pick someone to date right now, could they?

If the answer is no, they might be aro.

And if that answer changes later then the label can change.

[arosonist]

More Arospec asks!!💚🖤

What's your sexuality?

Where are you on the aromantic spectrum?

Are you physically affectionate?

Is being aro majorly sexy?

Would you ever buy/make clothes with the aro flag? If so, what would you get?

Have you ever wanted a penpal?

Do you like makeup?

What type of tea do you like the least?

Frogs or snakes? Why?

Have you told your family you're arospec? If so, how did it go?

Do you have many arospec friends?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how big are you onenergy drinks?

What's your style? How do you dress?

What's your fave type of treat?

Would you ever wear the white ring?

Fave song?

Do you have any hobbies you're passionate about? If so, please give us a random and specific fact about it, we love listening to you talk about stuff you're passionate about

Fave aro headcanon?