#aro asks

[aro-but-not-ace]

Anyone have any questions or anything they want to know about being aroallo or just aro in general? I want to revitalize this blog and also I love answering questions in general. Send anything into my ask box! Even if you just want to say hi!! :)

[gwen-cheers-me-up]

What is your dream aromantic themed fanfic?

Tysm for this ask!

Okay this is super niche, but my dream aro fanfic is a BBC merlin cyborg/android AU where the Pendragons run a company that build AI robots. Uther has put all sorts of laws in place that limit the production of robots by anyone outside of the Pendragons' company (allowing for uncertified robots to be dismantled if uncovered), and the robots are known to be different from humans in certain ways in order to prevent them from having certain rights. Most relevant to the plot: they are not capable of feeling love.

Emrys is the latest model, and Morgana is tasked with determining whether or not Emrys can feel love. As she interacts with Emrys Ex-Machina-style, however, anxiety builds inside her as she realizes she doesn't feel love. And in her world, that means she's barely human.

Interspersed between these scenes, we have an Arthur/Gwen plotline unfolding. Gwen works at the Pendragon's company building AI robots, and she and Arthur fall in love, but when she holds him close, she notices something: there's a...ticking in his chest rather than a heartbeat.

As it turns out, when Nimueh worked at the company, she helped Uther and Ygraine build a son, but it was essential to their business model that the truth about AI robots (that they are no less human than people born from a womb) stay secret, so Arthur's true origin had to likewise be kept from both Arthur and the rest of the world.

While Gwen deals with this new information, Morgana continues her tests on Emrys. Morgana's dread builds as Emrys reveals signs that perhaps he does feel love. She starts listening to her heartbeat regularly, afraid that one day she'll hear a ticking. After all, even this robot is more human than she is.

Emrys, however, cannot feel love. He is simply adapting to the information he is given, and the only way he can see himself becoming free is by proving to them he is human enough to feel love. So he pretends to fall in love with Morgana, using the love stories that have been fed into his algorithm as a guide.

I think this fic would be a fun way to explore the whole "love is what makes us human" myth, and it could go in so many fun directions, like Gwen and Emrys teaming up to fight for the rights of robotic folks or Arthur going public about his mechanical heart, forcing Uther to choose between his son and his business interests.

[toribookworm22]

53 for the arospec asks!

Hello, lovely!

Hell yeah! Coming in strong!

53. What is the best part about being aro? 

For me, I think the absolutely best part about being aro is just the sense of belonging that comes with the term. I've always been aro, but knowing it let's me enjoy all the good.

Being aro has let me dismantle all the lies amanormativity built up in my head and discover what it is that I truly want out of my life. Which is amazing! The freedom detaching myself from romance has granted me is honestly breathtaking. I'm kind of ranting now, but the sense of community is wonderful, too. I've always felt a little bit on the outside. But I'm not anymore. I have a place and a people that belong to me just as much as I belong to them.

Thank you for the ask!! 🥰

[apocalypsewriters]

9, 23, & 50 for the aro ask game! 🙃

hey tori! (i didn't realise we had this in common until today so 💚)

9. What made you realise you were aspec / arospec?

hh okay kinda complicated and cringy answer. i found the term asexual in fanfic, looked it up, sat on it, before deciding it fit. along the way I found aro and adopted that too. one of the deciding factors was magnus bane from the shadowhunters chronicles. i realised that most anyone else with such strong feelings about someone (fictional or not) would consider it a crush and i. didn't. definitely an oh moment

23. Most underrated form of intimacy?

i don't know if these are underrated, but they're definitely the ones I enjoy the most: head scratches and familial kisses on whatever bit of skin is closest. i love lying in my friends laps with their hand on my head giving slow scratches. and I often restrain myself from pulling up a hand I'm holding to press my lips against it. i feel like I'm making this seem way more sensual and charged than it is; id do the same thing with my younger sisters. if anything this is an underrated platonic intimacy

50. Any arospec headcanons?

(is this revenge or curiosity, tori) some of these are gonna be pretty obscure so props to anyone that gets these.

Sawyeh Noor from the venture maidens fate campaign. she's pretty heavily ace/aro coded and I think it was accidental in the beginning but I think naseem leaned into it by the end, which i appreciate

slake from legendlark. they are just so clueless i don't think they have a complete grasp on what romance even is. they haven't had to roll to fall in love, so frankly, I don't think they can in the way that's implied

peridot from steven universe is a popular one I support. for one, she's green, and also she has the vibes

there are more that i can't think of rn and there's also the category in my brain of "too cool for romance" but that's something different

[arospec-zine]

What do you like, or not like, about Valentine’s Day?

Submit in the ask box or reblog!

[thesevenumbrellas]

Hi! My younger sibling came out as asexual recently and they're not sure whether they are aro or not. I'm an allosexual lesbian so I'm not sure if my experiences with attraction are the most helpful there. (Not sure if comparing to what compulsory heterosexuality feels like would help?)Do you have any things that could help someone figure out whether They're aro or not? If not, please feel free to ignore this as well, don't want to put any unnecessary work on you

I am so sorry I didn’t answer this sooner.

Picking up on the lack of something is hard. Its not like aro’s know how to detect whats missing because they don’t know what should be there.

But I think the simplest solution is the best one: have they ever had a crush on someone? Have they ever felt romantic attraction? If they had to pick someone to date right now, could they?

If the answer is no, they might be aro.

And if that answer changes later then the label can change.

[arosonist]

More Arospec asks!!💚🖤

What's your sexuality?

Where are you on the aromantic spectrum?

Are you physically affectionate?

Is being aro majorly sexy?

Would you ever buy/make clothes with the aro flag? If so, what would you get?

Have you ever wanted a penpal?

Do you like makeup?

What type of tea do you like the least?

Frogs or snakes? Why?

Have you told your family you're arospec? If so, how did it go?

Do you have many arospec friends?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how big are you onenergy drinks?

What's your style? How do you dress?

What's your fave type of treat?

Would you ever wear the white ring?

Fave song?

Do you have any hobbies you're passionate about? If so, please give us a random and specific fact about it, we love listening to you talk about stuff you're passionate about

Fave aro headcanon?

[wilds-ponytail]

Oh wait your questioning if you are aro ? Let me tell you how I find out I was aro because it had be filled with misunderstandings.

So for a while I firmly believed that I was alloromantic because I had a crush on a boy once, at a time when I already knew that I was ace. Turns out it was not a crush but rather a squish (a crush but with platonic feelings instead of romantics ones). And the things is, all the signs that pointed towards me being aro were discarded because I believed they were due to my asexuality (I discovered aromantism at the same time that asexuality).

(I was going to site some example of said signs but then my brain said no sorry)

So what made me realize that I was aro ? Well I find a book with a black alloromantic ace s the protagonist and the passage that I read was describing her seeing someone and immediately being attracted to him and I was like "??? Wait I do not experience this at all ???". And then I started searching more deeply into aromantics community and terms and I found out about squish and qpp and other thing and was like "oh this is what I felt ! So it wasn't a crush uh".

Where I'm going with this is that alloallo do not differentiate their romantic and sexual attraction which made it very hard for acel to tell if they are aro by comparing with their experience, or the experience society tell you should have. It'll be much simpler and more reliable to try and compare with alloaces experience with romantic attraction ! If you can't find those (and/or don't know who to ask) you can go ask @celepom. She drew informative comics on asexuality and I'm sure she'll see no problem in helping you discover yourself ! :)

Thank you so much for this ask, I've been thinking about it all day and I've only just got a chance to sit down and sort myself out

I started on celepom's blog looking at her ace comics (which I loved) and went through various other blogs looking at various different comics about asexuality and aromanticism and I was kinda surprised by how much some of them resonated with me

I kinda started venting here I'm sorry

i'm asexual and i've known it for years, but i've never really thought about the possiblity of being aromantic because the idea of a relationship is something i've always liked and wanted? which is a problem bc it kinda requires romantic feelings

from what i've seen/read, and talking to other people i'd say that i haven't felt anything romantically for anyone, ever, even though i've pretty much tried to force myself to feel it because i wanted a relationship so much but all i ever did was make myself unhappy

so reading about queer platonic relationships has caused a total lightbulb moment for me

this [possibly being aromantic] is something i've been thinking about privately for a while, and honestly? i'm comfortable enough now to say i'm definitely somewhere on the spectrum 💚