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hello! do you have any tips on becoming friends with your friend crush?
Hey! I would just be yourself. Try to talk to them and see what you have in common. If you’re uncomfortable talking to them by yourself, maybe have a group with you for support? *Shrugs* I’d try not to overthink it, just go with it.
Best of luck!-Hedgie
Hello! I think I fall somewhere into aro but I'm not sure? I get feelings like I want to do it, like just random pangs of "that would be nice" but even just thinking of myself being in a romantic relationship or anything kinda revolts me. And I know I'm not asexual, so could that just be me wanting that kind of relationship? Idk I'm just confused with myself
Hey! So, you may be interested in autochorisromantic, which is where you can’t/get uncomfortable imagining yourself in a romantic relationship. The only thing that really affects your orientation is how/if you experience attraction. You can want a relationship and still be aromantic!
Hope this helps!-Hedgie
I'm an aro ace female and someone has a bet with me that i'll get 100 $ if i won't be married and have kids until i'm 60. She asked if i rly want to die alone, like this is a sad thing. And that the right person would change this. I told her that i won the bet at the day i was born. I want to come out to her. What i fear is that she invalid me and won't stop the bet until i'm 60 to prove to her that i'm not straight and no romeo on a horse could change that. She is my bro, i don't want change :/
Hey! I'm sorry that you're in this situation. I would recommend talking to her and letting her know that what she's saying is making you uncomfortable. Maybe show her some other aromantic posts or something, to try to show her that you can be happy and aromantic at the same time. Just remember that you are valid no matter what anyone says and you can always message us here if you need to talk!Best of luck!-Hedgie
it's normal to be 18 and not have experienced any romantic attraction? (or at least i think i haven't, cause idk how a crush feels like)
Hey! So, I don't think that there's really a set "normal". What's normal for you could be completely different from someone else! If you're trying to figure out your orientation, I would ask yourself what you feel instead of what others feel or what's "normal" to feel. If you haven't experienced attraction, you could definitely go with aromantic! Orientations are really all about how you feel now. Nobody can predict how they'll feel in the future, so I would worry about if how you feel changed to much. I hope this answers your question!-Hedgie
I want so very badly to fall in love. To be in love. Why is life so unfair that I'm not able to?
Hey! I totally get how you feel. It can really suck sometimes that you don’t, but I’d just try to remember that love isn’t the be-all and end-all. There are other types of love that are just as important! I’d see if you could find another aro person to talk to, as I’ve found that it really helps when there’s someone that can relate to what you’re going through. Maybe look through the positivity tag? If you need someone to talk to, I’m always here!
Best of luck!-Hedgie
So i live far away from my bff and whenever i visit them they are also hanging w their bf. my bff is super tactile and pda w their bf, and it can get really obnoxious and frustrating a) it excludes me b) i feel awkward c) it stings a little as i wont ever get their sugar sweet grossness. any tips for coping?
Hey! So this can be a kinda uncomfortable situation. If your friend know that you’re aromantic, you could just sit down with them and tell them “hey, I’m happy for you and all, but I’d appreciate it if you could tone it down just a bit because it makes me uncomfortable” (not those exact words, but you get what I mean xD). I would really just try to tell them in a gentle way how you feel, and see if that helps. If you’re sad about the romance, I’d just remember that romantic love and stuff isn’t all there is. For instance, I know a couple people in a QPR that act so much like a romantic couple that they get mistaken for one all the time! You can still have the sugar sweet grossness without all the romance, if that makes sense.
Best of luck!-Hedgie
Am I aromantic or am I just scared to be in a relationship cause I don't think I'm worthy of love?
It could be either one. If you send in some more detail about how you feel, I can maybe help you a little more, yeah?
Best of luck!-Hedgie
Hi! I've recently discovered that I am arospec (cupioromantic to be exact). Before, I had always assumed I would find 'the one' eventually. Now, after discovering my aromanticism I have a hard time dealing with it. Do you have any tips for accepting and becoming happy with who I am? Thank you!
Hey! So congrats on finding out that you’re cupioromantic! I found that one thing that really helped me was talking to other arospec people and learning that I wasn’t alone in this, that other people went through the same thing I did and it turned out fine for them. You can join the penpal project if you want to talk to some other arospec people, or you can just message us here! It might also help to look through the positivity tag. Overall, I would just try to remember that you’re not broken or a freak, and that there are other people like you who went through the same thing.
Best of luck!-Hedgie
