Hi there. I have a kind of random question. One of the worst arguments out there against Felicity and olicity is that Felicity is abusive. Every time I see this I get so mad. I value your opinion greatly and I was wondering what your response to this argument would be.
Well, thank you very much first of all.
Second, I would tell these people right off the bat, that just because you don’t like a ship doesn’t mean you can claim it’s abusive.
extremely offensive and insulting.
engaging in or characterized by habitual violence and cruelty.
This word, by it’s very definition, doesn’t relate to Oliver and Felicity.
From the beginning they have done nothing but care for each other. They make each other happy whether they are dating or not. Oliver has said himself on multiple occasions that being with Felicity gave him a sense of peace. He was finally content after so many years of abuse from other people around him.
People want to say that Felicity is abusive because she doesn’t cater to Oliver’s ever whim. She wasn’t a welcome mat that allowed anyone to step all over her. That’s normal. That’s healthy. She walked away from the relationship when she knew she needed to. The things she said could be considered harsh, but she was hurting. A lot of people say mean things when they’re in pain. But you know what? She apologized. She made it clear to Oliver that she didn’t truly think those things.
Break up aside, they are good for each other. They both have these great qualities that were hiding deep within, but were pulled from each other by the other person.
Felicity has always been strong, but Oliver helped her see that she’s even stronger than she ever could have imagined.
Oliver has always had that caring and sweet nature inside of him. He felt as if he were nothing but darkness. A monster that didn’t deserve love, but she helped him harness his own light and start to become the person he wants to be. The person he truly is.
Do they argue? Do they have their struggles? Do they push and pull? Yes, but that’s normal and healthy too. There is not a single relationship that is so flawless the couple never argues. It’s not realistic.
At the end of the day they still love each other. Even when Felicity is angry and makes snide comments about exes and killing (she was hurting again, it’s not an excuse by any means, but it’s what she does) we saw her talking to Oliver after everything and reassuring her that he was a good man.
They still need to grow and learn, but that’s apart of relationships too. They’ll get there and it will be amazing to watch.
So, Felicity and Oliver are not an abusive or toxic relationship. They are one of the healthiest relationships that I’ve seen on television. They play off of each other, they take care of each other, and help make the other better people. Oliver and Felicity both see the other as equals and treat each other with love and respect.
And I say again, just because you don’t like a ship doesn’t mean you can call it toxic or abusive.