#asexual challenge

[canwealldietogether-blog]

Asexual Challenge: Day 3

3. How old were you when you realized you were asexual? What made you realize it?

I think it was last year sadly lol. Well last school year. Beggining of Junior year, so I was 16?

[commanderace2224]

Asexual Challenge: Day 6

As you can tell, I fail at actually doing this on a day to day basis. Sorry about that. But I will get through all of them!

 Have you faced oppression because of your asexuality, whether institutional or societal? I’m a college student. Sex is everywhere. I know that if I tried to even talk about not having sex here, I would be shunned at the least. I don’t tell my coworkers or relatives a lot if anything, so nothing on that level. I think the biggest challenges I’ve faced is in relationships. I have a hard time really believing anyone actually wants to be with me after I tell them I don’t do sex. Like how can you, a person who craves sex, honestly give that up. I can’t let someone give up a part of themselves for a part of me that is nonexistent to the majority of the people who know me. I’ve lost significant others because of this. 

[commanderace2224]

Asexual Challenge: Day 4

Do you identify as a part of the queer community? What communities do you identify with? I identify with the ace and aro communities I guess. I’m not aro but I know people who are. 

[commanderace2224]

Asexual Challenge: Day 3

How old were you when you realized you were asexual? What made you realize it? I was actually was about 20 when I realized I was aseuxal. I had spent a lot of time leading up to the realization thinking something was seriously wrong with me. I went through a really dark time from high school through my first few years of college. I actually had switched schools because my first college was very toxic for me. I had really great friends there and that’s probably what kept me from doing something really drastic, but I just couldn’t be there anymore. I had a professor out to get me removed from my program for no reason other than that he didn’t think I was good enough, I had to deal with seeing someone I had really cared for who had never really cared for me I guess and I was just really beating myself up. Switching schools and kinda living on my own for about 5 months helped me come to terms with myself. I was actually up late one night and just scrolling through tumblr because I couldn’t sleep and I found a post that was shared by someone I really trusted on here. They had reblogged a post about sexualities and I just really connected with asexual. I went to the op’s blog and I ended up crying a lot because it all made sense. It was something that suddenly made me feel better about myself. I still have a lot of selfconfidence issues when it comes to dating but I’m trusting more people with who I am. 

[commanderace2224]

Asexual Challenge: Day 2

Are you out? To whom? Not too many people. Two of my siblings know; my bestest friend, the ever lovely @cupids-aro, my roommates, my ex, my friend from high school and some random friends in the city I live in (they only know because they came highly recommended by my roomies). I want to tell more but I’m really afraid that if I tell them, they’ll out me to the wrong people. I don’t want to just anyone to know, so if I’ve told you I trusting you to keep my secret for me. I’m not ready to just come out and say I’m ace. I’ve been hurt in the past and I don’t want to repeat it. 

[commanderace2224]

Asexual Challenge: Day One

What is your romantic/sexual orientation? 

I am a sex-repulsed biromantic asexual. I’ve decided to do this challenge to hopefully become more accepting of myself. 

[megafaunaknight]

Asexual Challenge Day 10.

10. What have other people said to you about your asexuality? Nothing personal but I was browsing Netflix with my sister and we saw the (A)sexual documentary. She asked me what asexual meant and I gave a basic definition. She said, "That's sad."

[megafaunaknight]

Asexual Challenge Day 9.

9. What does being asexual mean to you?

It means I’m part of a great and (mostly) accepting community. It also means that I’m terrified of never finding someone who will love me bc of my orientation. I love who I am but I worry that I’m missing out on something integral to many peoples lives.