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As ace, I usually don’t have a problem with sex scenes in movies etc or when people talk about sexual topics, as long as it makes sense in the situation.
But when things get overly sexualized, often without a valid context, it can actually really disturb me.
hey. ive never been interested in sex and basically have no sex drive or libido to speak of. ive never masturbated (never felt the need to) and the idea of someone (or even myself) touching me sexually fills me with disgust. i just feel like theres a giant mental block of 'no' where me + sex are concerned. i guess id classify as asexual but i just feel shitty and unlovable that im like this and dont know why and no one will want to date me. im 19 so idk if this could change.
You’re fine, I promise. If you wish to ID as asexual, go ahead, you’re not “too young” to do so. And you may later find this to change, but you also may not, and that’s okay too. You are not shitty and you are not unlovable. If you’re interested in pursuing romantic relationships without sex, that’s fine, too - hence the use of the split-attraction model that works for some people. It’s quite possible to find romantic partners that will respect your sexual boundaries (those that don’t are probably huge red flags!) And if you don’t want romantic relationships either, that’s fine, aroaces are awesome.
I’m not saying it won’t have its difficulties, but you absolutely can find lovable partner(s) throughout your life and still be ace. You may even find it beneficial to date another ace, though you shouldn’t feel the need to stick strictly to that if you don’t want to.
-Mod Sera
So, there’s something I’ve been struggling with for a long time...but I’ve never been able to talk to anyone about it. I’ve been laying here
This is SO relatable!
"I do get aroused. I do masturbate. I do NOT want to have sex. With anyone. Any sort of arousal that I experience immediately withers the moment someone touches me, or I think about me, personally, having sex with anyone.
I want to be loved, and I want to love someone. I want someone to find me beautiful. I love the connection I feel with people through hugs and holding each other and simple kisses....but my skin fucking CRAWLS when someone tries to touch me in a sexual way. It always has. I want a ROMANTIC love, without physical expression....and I feel so fucking weird and vulnerable for actually putting it into words."
That's 100% me !
Reblog if you're asexual but when people ask you say you're straight because the majority of people is still so uninformed about what asexuality means that you'd have to explain the whole ace spectrum definitions for anyone to understand
Also, I am heteroromantic so, like, if I said I'm asexual most men would think I'm not interested in anything at all which isn't entirely true
data isn’t ace and i’m beyond not okay because i’ve been hoping for him to be since i first saw him
John thinks Sherlock is in mourning over Irene Adler. Lestrade learns there’s more to it than that.
I told my fiance I’m asexual.
He had a mixed reaction.
On the one hand, he kept saying that he still loves me, he’s not going anywhere, and he appreciates my honesty. He assured me he doesn’t think any less of me and that I’m not “broken” or anything.
However, I can tell he’s really confused. I printed off a bunch of information for him from AVEN, but he barely touched it. He kept saying “I don’t know what to do.” I don’t expect him to understand right away or even be 100% all right with it, I’m just worried he’s going to change his mind and decide this is all too much for him. We’re seeing my therapist in two weeks, so hopefully she’ll be able to help us out.
I thought I’d be relieved to tell my fiance, but I still feel afraid and completely worn out. He assures me that he’s not going anywhere and that he still loves me, but...I can’t help but feel completely terrified.
I told my therapist I might be asexual...
And she was amazing. She said that, given our discussions over the past few weeks, that she agrees with me. She admitted that she was still learning about it, but she said she would do more research to enrich our sessions and provide me more feedback. I even told her what AVEN was!
You guys have no idea what a relief this was. I was so SO nervous going into my session. I started to cry immediately, but she was very patient and let me take my time. The best part is that she recognized that there was nothing “wrong” with me, and therefore there was nothing to try and “solve” in our sessions. She reassured me I wasn’t broken. She said everything I was thinking and feeling was completely valid.
On the one had, I’m so incredibly relieved that she was so supportive. On the other hand, now I know I have to tell my fiance. One boulder off my shoulder and another one takes its place. I’ve asked him to join me in one of my sessions with my therapist so she can help me explain it to him.
He’s the love of my life. He’s so understanding and patient--and he’s actually the one who suggested we hold off on sex while I’m seeing my therapist. But I’m still terrified he’ll leave me over this. What if he asks a question that I don’t have the answer to? What if he thinks I’m making it up or just confused or that I’m trying “get out of” having sex with him? He’s been my first and only for 4 years--there’s no possible way he won’t take this personally. I mean, wouldn’t ANYONE?
How can I even begin to do this?
