#ace spectrum

[neo--queen--serenity]

a real go-getter, if you will

[thepinkpestilence]

more people could identify as asexual/aromantic if they not only knew what that label is but also knew about how wide the spectrum could be. because not every ace/aro person feels the same way and even people who DO have a general idea on what it means, could still be like "yeah no i cant be possibly ace/aro because i feel/do this and that"

[ihavenoconsistentinterests]

genuinely SO sick of that thing in media where a character doesn't want to have sex and it's treated like some kind of barrier to be overcome or problem to be fixed. Reading a book that treats it somewhat like that right now, and it genuinely made me question myself for a second, what the fuck. This is truly the first time I have ever had a thought along the lines of "what if my asexuality means I'm broken", and that was awful. Horrid. Fuck this.

[proship-shuujuu]

this probably isn't a can of worms i want to open, but shipping aro/ace characters is not indicative of arophobia/acephobia/queerphobia.

the "excuse" that aro/ace people can have romantic and/or sexual relationships is valid, of course, but a more important point — these characters are not real. there is no orientation of theirs to disrespect, because they do not exist. they're not harmed or offended by people shipping them. if someone writes an asexual character having sex, that doesn't mean they're acephobic. these characters literally do not exist, the situations and relationships they're in do not exist. it is truly not this massive injustice, or this massive act of bigotry against the community. people can write whatever they like with whatever characters they like.

would accurate representations of aro/ace people being in relationships be nice? yeah. should more people explore these relationships in fiction? in my opinion, yeah. but sometimes people just want to write or draw porn with a character they like, and that's completely fine, too. fandom isn't activism, and fanfiction especially isn't.

disclaimer: op is on both the aromatic and asexual spectrum. op is also extremely sex-repulsed, and in a relationship.

Edit: I was right, people are getting very annoyed that I dared open this can of worms. Just block me if you don't like my opinion, guys! You don't have to be insufferable in the comments!

[vintricles]

hi, hi, hello! hi fandom space! i’m a sex favorable asexual! yeah, i exist! yes, i’m the one you keep pointing out when you want to ship canonically aro/ace characters! hi! guess what, i hate you. stop it. stop using me to erase my friends who aren’t sex favorable, because you know what? it’s actually really awful of you to only believe i exist when you want to erase a different part of my community. stop using me to encourage allonormativity. you as an allo person do not get to use ace-/aro-spec people to encourage our erasure and dismissal. no. i hate it and i hate you. stop.

[gamezcatt]

[queeraroace]

let's play: are you on the ace spectrum! An introduction to microlabels