#ash advice

[ashetodust]

Remember that no matter how skilled you are or how long you've studied, it's okay to go back to the basics. You're not a bad witch or lesser than you were by doing this.

[ashetodust]

9. (🦄) - what's something that's talked about too much in the witchcraft community?

Something that's talked about too much, especially in the mix of divination and deity work, is that you can be fooled by trickster spirits and fey into thinking they're deities. And, there are some cases of it happening; I'm not saying it doesn't.

But this where the belief of deities and truly knowing their lore comes into play. By believing in their existence, you understand their status and power. Their presence, even without speaking, can be so overwhelming that it'd be difficult to not recognize them as such. If there's still any room for doubt of who the entity claims to be, ask them questions on their lore and relationships.

[figjelly]

additional advice: get a timer cap bottle for your meds, especially if you're prone to forgetting if you've taken them. I just put one of my meds in the timer bottle and take all of them at the same time at night. lifesaver fr

Yanno, I've heard about these and never looked into them (mostly because my med-taking is pretty good, it's a habit now) but they're not as expensive as I thought they'd be. However I can see these being REALLY useful for me when I'm away from my medicine drawer, like out of town. I'm prone to forgetting to take my meds when my schedule is thrown off!

[figjelly]

romanticise your life as it is now. you're going to be nostalgic one day for where you are right at this moment, so why not get a head start and and appreciate it now?

I am 36, beautiful, have a great body, financially stable, in love and in a relationship with probably the most perfect person ever. Not only do I have that going for me but my emotional stability is the best it's ever been. All of my friends are alive and everyone I know really likes me. So many people would kill for my life and to be me.

No romanticized version there. It's just facts. But it was really helpful to type it out because today is a shitty day but yeah all those things are true and it's good to have the reminder

[ashetodust]

17. (🧜🏿‍♀️) - how often do you meditate? Do you mainly do guided meditations or just listen to music/nature?

I actually don't meditate very often. At least, not in the way most people learn.

The biggest thing about meditation, for me, is the repetition. Anything could be utilized in a meditative sense or put someone in that headspace. It doesn't even have to last a long time for it to be worth it.

I used to file papers at work as a form of meditation. Mark, staple, file, mark, staple, file. It helped as something to focus on when I was overwhelmed by all of the noise of my workplace. Doing chores comes with a variety of repetitive motions that can be mindfully observed.

And sometimes, I simply like to be on the floor, listening to instrumentals.

[nebulash]

I was wondering what kind of advice you would give to a student who is having doubts about their career choice? I'm worried of putting my money and hard work into a decision I'll end up regretting.

Ahh well I personally went through that quite a lot myself! I did not graduate from university with the same degree I started with. It's totally okay! It's always best to try new things. I personally wasted about a year of classes to pursue something different and I'm happier with my choice.

It is however something you probably want to put a bit of thought into since our situations are surely far from identical!

The one thing I can say for sure, is that it's reasonably rare to come out of college and find a job in the area in which you studied - unless perhaps you graduated with a degree for in-demand careers. (engineering, doctor, accounting etc) I for one am not technically doing something I studied for in college. But I landed the job through a good GPA and knowing how to use photoshop/Indesign (two programs I already knew how to use well before college).

So what I'm trying to say is (bear with me) What matters is you get a goddamned piece of paper with your name on it at the end of the day. I hope that helps answer your question some?

[nebulash]

okay, I have a question, and I know I'm not necessarily asking the right person but I don't know who to ask at this point.I'm a Christa Lenz cosplayer, and in a couple months, I'll be doing a yumikuri photoshoot (not smutt, but probably kissing) with a friend's friend. They're a bit older than me (probably3-5 yrs). She's a lesbian and I'm straight, and we're both taken. Is this at all strange/risky? I don't know how to approach this with my boyfriend. Do you think this is a bad idea?

Ah that’s a tough one (and I’m actually the perfect person to ask about this lol), as I don’t really know how comfortable you and your Ymir are with your significant others in terms of physical contact and affection with outside people for the sake of cosplay.  

I feel like it all sort of depends on her gf and your bf as to whether or not it’s a bad idea. If they understand that the kissing and physical contact is just for the sake of the photoshoot and to accurately portray your character/give fanservice etc. then I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it at all. But it’s super important that you ask your boyfriend. 

Now I know you said you weren’t sure how to approach it with your boyfriend, so maybe just sort of bring it up like it’s a passing thought next time you guys are together. Just sort of start asking random questions and pretend like you’re being cute and playing a game then slip the actual question in there. (tis what I do when I have to ask someone something I’m nervous about and it actually works pretty well)

 It really is soo super important that you ask him first (and for Ymir to also talk to her gf because it goes both ways) He might be totally cool with it and you have nothing to worry about at all :) 

[nebulash]

This morning I woke up to an ask from an anon telling me that my friend committed suicide. I was devastated I was so sad I couldn't move, I couldn't leave my room, I couldn't eat.. And then I found out she's actually alive and I message her and she said that she's never had a friend with the name Ashton, that I had the wrong person, and to leave her alone because I was making her uncomfortable. I didn't want to upset her so I stopped messaging her.. I'm very hurt and confused..

Oh dear :C That’s truly awful. I’m so sorry for your loss, even though you didn’t lose anyone to death. It sounds like your friend has decided to isolate herself and that’s no fault of your own. Sometimes even the people we think we know extremely well show us that we really don’t know them at all :/  

I think the best thing to do is to give it a little bit of time and see if she comes around. Faking your own death to get away from people is pretty extreme and could possibly be caused by an onset of mental illness. 

Just always remember that it wasn’t you who pushed her away. She made that decision herself, and if that’s actually what she truly wants and she’s severed all connection to you, she wasn’t a good friend to begin with :( That’s really sad though friend. I hope she comes around. You really never know what other people are dealing with deep down.