#ask coby

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Hey! My ask-box is open, so feel free to send in some questions :D

((unfortunately I’m in the middle of finals, so I probably won’t be too active until after the 10th of May))

[cobyblue]

I noticed your responses to some asks about the bold type and agree with the other anon. It's not 100% realistic, bc what show is? But it is totally relatable and covers important topics without being heavy handed, shows women supporting women, and the main romantic pairing is comprised of two women. I'd love it if you checked it out :)

It’s growing likelier that I will. 💙

[cobyblue]

to be fair- i don’t think anyone is watching the bold type for realism like of course not many people can relate to working in a fashion magazine in new york but rather the general concept of how 3 20 something’s navigate their general life between common accepts many young women face like exploring your sexuality, how to move on in your career, the politics of workplace romance and so on. most tv shows aren’t watched for realism but rather how easy it is to connect with and enjoy

Absolutely.

Again, I’m sure the creators aren’t going for realism but—as the last response noted—the simple message of female empowerment is getting lost in a swirl of poorly reasoned praise that suggests otherwise; likely written by critics who are detached from the reality of the situation themselves.

What I find disheartening is that Freeform has chosen to fill their advertisements with blurbs heralding that alleged realism INSTEAD of the positive things the show actually offers (including—as I was glad to read from the previous anonymous response—a healthy LGBT relationship).

My disdain should be more likely pointed at Freeform’s marketing department for what they chose to focus on in their advertising.

Thank you for another mature and well-spoken response. 💙

[cobyblue]

The bold type is a great show it has a very healthy lgbt relationship and great female empowerment (sorry for my english)

No need to apologize. I very much appreciate your thoughtful response.

My frustration stems from seeing so many blurbs about the show touting its alleged realism and accuracy to the experiences of young adults in America, which I don’t even think the people behind the show are actually aiming for.

I’m glad to hear from someone pointing out some truly positive aspects in an eloquent and respectful manner. I’ll admit that one of the tags I used in particular was a bit crass and will probably remove it after I’m done here.

Again, thank you for your reasonable and genial defense. Feel free to stop by my Tumblr anytime. 💙💙💙

[cobyblue]

1, 2, 49, 50

I know this might seem kind of narrow or self-centered, but I would travel back to the day in eighth grade on which [name redacted for privacy] came up behind me in her boyfriend’s oversized, super puffy First Down jacket and hugged me. It was arguably the most seminal moment in the development of my style as a girl and my affection for softness and–at the risk of redundancy–affection. If I could relive it (even as a mere observer) and put an image to the sense memory, I think it would provide a lot of insight into how I got here.***One of the key aspects of my transition has always been picturing myself as the women who inspire me; and while it’s quite clear that Ariana has my heart in a big way right now, if I could be anyone’s doppelganger today it would be Bebe Rexha.***Honestly, the only unsolved crime that has ever really kept my interest is the murders of Biggie and Tupac (and yes, I’ve been watching “Unsolved”; but I’m, like, six episodes behind). Hip-hop and rap were a big part of my life as a youth and I came up right around the time of their deaths. Was it Suge Knight? Was it an LAPD conspiracy? Or did they really hate each other that much?–I could honestly believe any of these scenarios. I just think the truth would be fascinating.***I learned long ago that imagining traveling back in time to change things is not only futile (because, you know, that’s not a thing that can happen) but emotionally damaging.I may have a cavalcade of issues in my life, but I wouldn’t change the journey even if I could.

[cobyblue]

18,25

Most of my obsessions are temporary, but the ones that have stayed with me for years now are puffy coats (my life is essentially a pursuit of soft and snuggly) and WWE (SEE: my blog’s description).

I’m also currently (and obviously) madly in love with Ariana Grande and hope to hold onto that one indefinitely. 💙

***

As for the worst thing that’s happened to me…I’ve had a…storied life. I’ll say that. And every trauma I’ve experienced has seemingly been topped by the next. I try not to dwell on them anymore.

That being said, I was in an abusive relationship for the better part of a decade and the vast majority of issues I’ve had these past few years have been part of my ongoing recovery from that.

[cobyblue]

34

For some reason, the only talent that’s coming to mind right now is a pretty spot-on Rip Torn impression.

I *was* an actor at one point, and I miss it deeply.

[cobyblue]

every day i'm thankful for the fact that you and your adorable internet siblings have this echo chamber hug box that is tumblr to whine and complain and throw tantrums and espouse all your precious frustrations with. if you actually knew how to handle relationships, how to conduct yourselves in public, how to reserve judgment of other people, and most importantly how to act like reasonable, level-head adults, i'd support and encourage your dialogues. but you don't. you're children. fuck you.

Right back at you, pal.