#ask kei

[ask-my-guys]

(I’m on the wrong blog but hiii this is Mel&)

What’s everyone’s deepest fears?

-K🪦

[misanthropic-angel]

What's your favorite way to spend a day off? Do you have any art pieces that you're particularly proud of that you wouldn't mind sharing? If someone random were to tell you one thing to illicit happy feelings within you, what would it be?

• Probably shopping at thrift stores / yard sales / flea markets, and calling with my boyfriend the whole way through- I love showing him the things I find and end up buying

• Definitely! Really proud of these few:

https://twitter.com/crescendoart/status/1196110692388134913?s=21

https://twitter.com/crescendoart/status/1195867559473680386?s=21

https://twitter.com/crescendoart/status/1195476708792709120?s=21

🗝 Memento.Crescendo 🗝 on Twitter

“Did some background practice #art pieces of my #fursona and was told I should post them. What do y’all think?”

🗝 Memento.Crescendo 🗝 on Twitter

“A piece for an #arttrade with my pal @spacememekodi”

🗝 Memento.Crescendo 🗝 on Twitter

“Trying to draw and post every day, so we’ll see how long this lasts. Drew my #oc Blake as an #eboy today”

• “I can tell that you’re trying, and it’s making a difference.” Probably! Thanks for the ask, anon ^^

(For those curious, this was an ask meme I reblogged on my main: anonymously ask me three questions you’d like for me to answer)

[mentalillnessmouse]

hi idrk what to do atm i've ended up w very few friends bc all of my school friends left for uni and i was left behind to resit a year and like idk most of us haven't spoken in months so like i was left w a very small number of (mostly online) friends but when stuff got worse bc i was lonely i was always having to turn to this small group for help and eventually they got too busy/ too overwhelmed by me to be supporting me every day which is fair enough so they started to ignore my messages and ~

~ tweets which made me feel worse so eventually i deleted my twitter and now i only allow myself to message them once a week and i don’t want to change that bc it was a v difficult decision to make and its taken a lot to get myself to a level where i don’t impulsively message them every day but now i feel like we’re barely friends, we used to be so close and while it’s probably best for them it just keeps making my mental health worse and worse, i had to quit school and i can barely tell whats ~

~ real these days, and at night i get so low and i get horrible thoughts and i have nobody to turn to. I have a therapist and i tell her most of this but there’s not much she can do, friends don’t just materialise out of thin air and since i no longer go anywhere im not exactly meeting anyone, plus my severe anxiety means that even if i do meet anyone i can’t talk to them. My current/past friends are the first i’ve had in my life, i’ve only made friends the once and i honestly can’t make myself~

~ believe that i’ll ever make any again but i don’t think i can last much longer without them, i need people to talk to every day but nobody should have to deal with that, i just don’t know what to do, i guess im messaging you bc ive nobody else left to ask idk sorry i hope you are having a nice day

CW: Suicide mention

hey anon, 

the problem here to me is one of communication. 

a relationship be it platonic, familial, or romantic, can only work if all people involved in the relationship communicate their needs, desires, and expectations of the relationship to one another. 

you need a support system and asking for attention is NEVER wrong. human beings need attention from other human beings. we are social creatures after all, that’s just how we function. social isolation cannot be helping you imo. 

you are NOT a burden, and your message to us makes it sound like these friends made you feel like you were. 

here’s some of my tips for how to have a health relationship with others: 

1) remember that communication is a two way street. conversations should not be solely centered just on one person’s issues and concerns and problems 100% of the time. other people have problems too and a relationship no matter what the type is all about helping support each other. 

2) be open to criticism. however, make sure to know the difference between criticism and emotional/verbal abuse. someone saying ‘you tend to make everything about you’ is a valid concern and you should reconsider how and why you’re approaching people. are you ONLY messaging people when YOU’RE having a crisis? do you message them just to ask how they’ve been? just to check in? just to see how their lives are going? 

3) most importantly remember to be respectful of each other’s needs and wants and space. practice self care and know when to disengage. 

it sounds like you and your friends need to work on establishing boundaries on what is and isn’t appropriate. 

personally, i think...you should be able to have a twitter account however you shouldn’t expect your friends to like/respond to every single tweet you post or to have the emotional strength to deal if you’re the type of person to post up suicidal statements or self harm announcements (i used to follow a few people like this on twitter). people are allowed to care yet stay silent which isn’t the same as ignoring because they aren’t always sure what to say OR if it warrants a response. 

like for me...for example if someone i follow were to post “i want to die” i would be concerned but i wouldn’t rush to their DMs or reply to each tweet like “oh no! please talk to me!!!” because to some people that can be seen as harassing when that person just wants to vent. however in the past i have called services on someone i follow for posting that they were going to kill themselves at a specific time and stating that they had a plan. that’s because i have experience with how to handle crisis situations like that--but not everyone does? i’ve had plenty of people DM ME instead of someone who was posting suicidal statements because they did not know how to respond to the person and wanted me to intervene....iunno, just keep that in mind. 

i’m going to link to some things on creating boundaries: 

10 ways to build emotional boundaries

Creating emotional freedom

Healthy personal boundaries

Emotional boundaries

tl;dr

you and your friends need to sit and talk honestly about what you’re all getting out of your relationship with one another. you need to be able to go back to feeling like you can talk to them more than once a day, and they need to be able to tell you when they’re not able to handle your episodes and you should respect that. 

i hope this helps. 

stay safe, 

kei

[ask-my-guys]

hello guys! what are your favorite deserts?

[ask-my-guys]

A few questions for Keo (answer as you please/desire):

- Do you play an instrument, if yes, what? If no/regardless; would you like to play one or another one? What is it?

- Favorite book/song quote? (You don’t have to explain why, but if you want to, go ahead!)

- Do you like birds, or do you have a preferred animal?

- Favorite go-to flavor? (Vanilla, chocolate, strawberry, orange, etc)

Dankeschön for answering.

-🍷 Ei Kosame

(each question closeup under cut, please let me know if you can’t read any of it!)

[ask-my-guys]

i haven't gotten a notif on this one piece i made in forever, does this remind you of anyone /silly

[misanthropic-angel]

Playlist: love jutsu

1. RUDE - Eternal Youth

2. SLIPFUNC - Lost in translation

3. FRAD - The girl I have a crush on

4. SLIPFUNC - Her Scent

5. FRAD - First Date

6. EERY - Her

message me a made up title of a mixtape/playlist and i have to pick 5 to 10 songs i think would go on it — say “playlist: (title)” so that I know what you’re referring to.

[mentalillnessmouse]

would sucking my arm without realising till it bruises count as self harm because sometimes I latch on and suck my arm without thought of what it could do

CW Self Harm/Self Injury

hey anon,

self harm/self injury is a deliberate, intentional method of harming yourself. if you feel that your arm sucking falls underneath this definition, i would welcome you to consider looking at our resources on this topic.

Self Injury

Feeling the need to self injure? Please take a look at these posts: 24 ways to avoid self injury & Alternatives to self harm. More alternatives to self harm.

Check out this support community for individuals who self harm recover your life.

Help Guide A site containing articles to help understand, help numbers,  “tool kits”, and self help.

Understanding self injury is a text post that explains that self injury is an addiction and the different forms of self injury.

Mental Support Community is a forum to talk about self harm and how it affects your life.

StudentsAgainstDepression has great coping skills and support

WikiHow on coping with self-injury

Self-harm coping tips and distractions

hope this helps!

kei