How does poly work for you and your primary? Do you date together/separate? Sexytimes but not dating? Etc?
At the moment, we generally date together (read: we haven’t had dedicated datemates for… too long). Not on purpose really, though Boything prefers it. We’ve never dated separately; I’m really interested in trying it (there’s a couple of people I would LOVE to date…), but Boything isn’t quite there yet. His happiness comes first for me, so I don’t press it too often, as it isn’t a necessity to keep me happy. We’ve had conversations about it, and he knows I’m curious. Sexytimes is a conversation haver. I’ve got permission (as does he) to have sex with a handful of individuals without having to have conversation about it beforehand. Theoretically, if we wanted to have sex separately with someone(s) not on “the list” as it were, we’d have a conversation about it and see what happens.