#askingramos2013

[kingramos]

I went to get food with my crush in a cafeteria and I saw his whole gang of friends so I expected him to sit with them when we got our food, but he stayed with me so we sat together. He had his back to their table, so I could see them and his friends kept looking back and smiling and whispering to each other. My friend told me that was good because that means "bro approval." What do you think?

Yes, it might be gestures of their approval but then, do not ignore the possibility that it can also be their way of telling that “Look, he’s doing it to her.”, meaning that a connivance between the guy and his friends is going on, and you are the reason behind it, if you know what I mean. I am not saying that he’s not seriously into you, though. But I guess, asking him straight up is the only way for you be at ease and know what really is the meaning of his actions towards you. :)

[kingramos]

...I also had some 'end-of-course' dance-prom-thingy and he came to, I don't even know why. But we didn't talk, not for once. I realized this evening (and a few times earlier) it's pointless liking him. But then I saw pictures of the evening & you can see how he looks at me... I don't want to be one of his girls. I don't want to like him. But he does these things and I just don't know what to think about it - you're a guy, any advice? btw, great music taste, haha :) <3

What goes around, comes around. That's the problem with being too flirty (sorry for the word; I just have to be frank.), you know very well how this game runs and ends that is why you become too afraid to be a victim of your own kind. The result: when the time comes that someone's into you or vice versa, whether it is already real or not, you tend to be doubtful and unsure with it. And I think, that really goes with it. ;\ The fact that you have liked him before, faded out and it is getting back again, it does only mean the you are the one who should define your true feelings. It is only you, I guess, who can really tell whether that guy is serious or just playing around and recognize if he distinctively does those things only for and to you and not to the other girls who he flirts with. But, the fact that you have liked him before, faded out and it is getting back again, it does only mean the you are the one who should define your true feelings afterwards, learn to trust your got-feel. Uhm, that is all I have to say. I hope I made a point, somehow. And, thanks for the compliment! :) ♥

[kingramos]

Hey:) This guy & I flirt around, he flirts around with other girls, so do I with boys. We're similar. I kinda started liking him & I want to get over him, but I catch him looking at me often in class & awkwardly looking away & how he looks at me whenever I'm talking to other boys or just how he came up after holidays, hugging me & today, he was off the lessons cause of some sports game, I came to watch & I recognized him smiling at me, often the day & we actually talked a lot this day (cont)

[kingramos]

I read your advice on how to know if a guy likes you and this guy keeps grooming his hair and makes sure he looks good whenever he's around me. He often also makes a kiss noise with his lips when he sees me or when i'm next to him. My friend said to try and make him jealous and flirt with another guy to see if he reacts, but I've heard that never really works out because he'll probably just not go for a girl like that. So, my question really is, do you personally think he might be into me?

Then, there might be a big possibility that he likes you, especially, if you've noticed that he's doing those gestures, flirty gestures (to be exact), ONLY when you're near/around him but not with the other girls. But, you should also have to reconsider that there are gestures that goes under the so-called "mannerisms" (but, I think, that doesn't fall into it, so yeah). ;) And, the kind of scheming that your friend has suggested for you to try, has never been and will never be the best way to know and prove something when it comes to this matter. I personally think that it doesn't look appealing for a girl when she does those stuff and you were right, you might turn the guy off of you for he may seriously think that you are into some other guy, which I guess, you wouldn't want to happen. So, it'll be better if you'll just go with the flow and you may not know, eventually, he'll confess his feeling for you. :)

[kingramos]

How do I tell this guy i like him without ruining our friendship? Like, i think he might like me back. But he's the type of guy who thinks he's too good for everyone, but when he's with me, he's funny and goofy and tries to make a laugh and we flirt a lot. So like, I still want to tell him even if he does like me or not. I wanna get it out, I'm tired to being quiet with nothing happening.

This isn't a very easy situation to handle for a girl, I think. You are definitely taking a big risk by telling your guy friend that you like him to which you can't depend the outcome with pure luck. In my own opinion, I guess you shouldn't tell him about it yet unless you're really certain on what his response might be (which is very hard to know without it coming directly from him) because if you are to do so and disclaim, "I hope this won't change anything between the two of us...", eventually, it is you, even if the guy doesn't change, who will feel awkward and paranoid with your actions when you're around him and unseemly knowing that you are the one who ended up being avoidant. But, having said that you are tired of just waiting, I guess, you are ready and willing to take whatever his response might be. I really wish that it will be in your favor and that he's just too shy to tell you straight up that he like you too then. :)

[kingramos]

Well, I could really use an advice right now. It's like this, I have been seeing a guy for about a month. All this time, he has been absolutely sure of his feelings. But I've always been uncertain. And he has known about that. We spent New Year's together. But all the time I felt that I did not really want to be there. So the day after, when we woke up, he asked how I felt. I felt that i had to be honest so I said how it was. He just broke down and doesn't want to talk to me anymore. What to do?

Since you've very been honest and vocal with what you feel for the guy from the beginning yet he insisted and, at least, tried to, let's say, make you love him back by still sticking with you, I think, what happened isn't totally your fault. Well, it might have helped him to let all his feeling hang out if you voluntarily distanced yourself from him subtly; which you, for me, should've done then. But, I guess, it should've already came up to the both of you that if one is uncertain with his/her feelings to the other, a relationship will most prolly not work because it will be very unfair to the other person. All you have to do now is to let him cool off then wait for the right time on when the two of you are ready for a talk and/or ready to bring the romantic part of your relationship to an end yet preserving the friendship.