#askmary

[ask-johanna-deacon]

hi jo!!!! -Mary.A

Hey Mary! Good to see you here. 🤭

-Jo

[coloroutsidethelines]

Not asking you to manage my case. But maybe you have an idea that can help. Tldr is my fiancee has essentially frozen me out of any kind of physical relationship. Trying to talk goes nowhere. I've been waiting for half a year and periodically bring it up. The other night she basically said we should wait another three months before we even try to address it. But it's not solving itself. I worry it won't get better.

Hey there Anon.

I’m gonna answer this the best way I can, knowing that I do not have all the information to give a fully faceted opinion. I can imagine how frustrating this situation is for you. Did this happen out of the blue? Were there signs that led up to it? Has this been an issue before?I understand talking has not helped in the past, however I am curious if the reason behind the lack of a physical relationship has been spoken about. I think that if there is an understanding of why, it may make it easier to work through and perhaps wait. What is the response when you do bring it up? Is it anger or defensiveness, is there pain or hurt there? You are doing the right thing respecting her boundaries/space, and there still needs to communication on her end. It may be something that is hard for her to talk about. If she is committed to this relationship (as it seems since you referred to her as fiancee) I would hope she is willing to discuss this. I’m sure you have tried this, but try to broach the subject using “I” statements, “I understand that you want to wait and I respect that. I also feel shut out and hurt when we don’t share or communicate about this matter. I want to support you as much as I can, and I need to feel like we are in this together.” I would also want to know if there is a reason for the 3 months wait. It seems as though there is something specific to give a specified time frame. Again, this is all somewhat speculative, as I do not know your full story.I can understand your concern in regards to this issue. Without communication around it, it can be hard to imagine the situation changing much. I would try to get to the root cause. Maybe she is not interested in a physical relationship. And you also have to ask yourself, if this does not change are you okay with that?If you want to talk this out, feel free to message me. You can continue via anon, or you may message me off anon if you would like to keep it more private. I hope this helped somewhat. I also recommend seeing a couples counselor if this persists and you need a neutral third party to work through it. 

[brok3n-bones]

Hey, what are you looking forward to most this summer? :)

Hi! Well out of everything this summer, what I was most looking forward to has already happened and that was my parent’s wedding in Russia that was a few weeks ago now (can’t believe that). 

Apart from that, I now can’t wait to finally post everything that I’ve been journalling to my blog. Might seem very mediocre, but I’m a keen procrastinator when it comes to writing, so actually getting to it will be amazing.

[lilmissmacdonalda-blog]

Hercules: Favourite instrument?Gemini: Favourite song?Pegasus: Favourite place to be?

Hercules: Favorite instrument?

“The piano. When I was little I used to always pretend that I could play, and though I have never taken lessons I have taught myself some songs.”

Gemini: Favorite song?

“Baba O’Riley - The Who”

Pegasus: Favorite place to be?

“The Hufflepuff Common room at about 3 in the morning.”

[askevchan]

Вот начеркала тебе. :з askmary16

[cuzimshort]

ONCE YOU GET THIS YOU HAVE TO SAY 5 NICE THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF PUBLICLY AND THEN SEND IT TO 10 OF YOUR FAVOURITE FOLLOWERS. THINKING GOOD THOUGHTS ABOUT YOURSELF IS HARD BUT IT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER SO GIVE IT A GO, & SPREAD SOME POSITIVITY! :D

1. I'm extremely determined when it comes to my goals.

2. Even when I have my sad moments, I don't let them discourage me for too long. I have my moments, but for the most part, I always bring myself outta it.

3. My make up skills are awesome and I make myself look gooooood.

4. I know when to let go of problematic people. I don't stand for bullshit.

5. I look great in red lipstick. Like, sooooo good.

[cuzimshort]

signed taeyang stuff

Yes... yes... and YES.

40+ romantic points

[cuzimshort]

January, April, July, December

January:sexuality/preferences~ This is hard, cuz I kinda question myself. I'm mainly straight and have a preference for men. But, I'm starting to think I might be bi-romantic as well???

April:favourite hair colour & favourite eye colour~ I like black hair. Like really really jet black hair. As for eye color, I don't have a strong preference either way.

July:favourite song/band~ Song: Glitter in the Air by P!nk~ Band: BIGBANG

December:random fact about me~ The first thing I look at a menu is anything with BBQ. lol BBQ chicken being my main weakness.