Dear anonyask, how to deal with mean girls at school? Thank you in advance guys you're awesome! XOXO
here are a few tips on how to handle mean girls:
understanding mean girls:take a minute to think about, why they treat you mean. some typical reasons could be:- they are jeaulous of you- they see you as a threat because you are different- you have true friends- you get positive attention from boys- you are the new kid and getting a lot of attentionof course none of them has to be the reason in your case, but you will figure it out or get an idea by thinking about it for a second.
empowering yourself:remember, you are not alone! a lot of people went through similar situations. on youtube for example you’ll find a lot of songs about bullying:- Mean Girls by Rachel Crow- Who You Are by Jessie J- Who’s Laughing Now By Jessie J- Brave by Sara Bareilles- Wings by Little Mix - Mean by Taylor Swift - Work What You Got by Mary J Bligelisten to them, when you are feeling down and alone. on the internet you may also find a lot people with similar stories or forums about that topic. maybe you can log in to one and share your expierence with likeminded people. talk with your parents, you may believe it or not, but they were your age once and probably had to deal with such stuff, too. ask how they handled it. then, one of the hardest things to do, ignore the jibes. when they are whispering while you’re nearby pretend you don’t hear it. if it’s in class, keep your eyes on the task at hand. whatever you do, don’t respond to their rude remarks. in fact, don’t even look in their direction. and also really hard to do so, but very important: be nice to the mean girls. this will throw them. instead of getting hurt, they will be forced to face the fact that you only say pleasant things back to them. this sets an example for them and others, but it also makes it very hard for them to respond nastily without looking really petty and cruel, which will then be noticed by everyone around.do things for yourself to make yourself feel confident. go shopping, take a day for yourself: pedicure, manicure, watch a good movie, bake a cake. doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it makes you feel good.
make friends:look for people who have personalities like you. you will feel much better if you have friends to take your side. talk to them about how you feel. you could even get a counselor, just someone you feel comfortable with.
act like they mean nothing to you– in other words, simply ignore them! they don’t have any power if you pretend they’re not there.
mean girls (or boys) look for signs after they say something mean to you. if you are upset or crying after they say something mean to you, they know that they are succeeding in making you upset. have confidence and build it up, because any girl who insists on picking on a confident person will end up looking stupid.
everything i’ve written above won’t be easy to do. in fact, it requires a lot of strenghth and endurence. they won’t leave you be within seconds, they will try over and over again.
i wish you all this strength, dear anon. keep your head up high!
