#askstudy

[anonyask]

Hey guys please help! I procastinate too much during my study time period and it greatly affects my grades. I don't really know what to do to stop my procastinating habits. Any advice would be really helpful. Thank you.

what helped me the most, was having a plan.  

i always had a planner in which i wrote all of my courses, activities, and social engagements. looking over my planner gave me a better sense of how my week, month, or even semester will look like, and helped me see when i was having a really busy week, or a lot of free time.i always tried to study around the same time of day. some like to study course material right after the class is over while the material is fresh in their minds, while others need a break from the material to be able to study. you have to figure this out for your own.i never planned to study the hour before an exam. and i never forgot to include being healthy in my game plan as well. make sure you catch at least 6-8 hours of sleep a night and to exercise for 30 minutes a day or 1 hour a few times a week, even in the middle of a grueling study period.

but most important, have the right attitude. the right attitude will put you in a positive frame of mind, which will make you more open to and excited about studying. the wrong attitude can make you feel defeated before you even start and will keep you from being focused and absorbing the material. i guess there you’ll have to kick yourself in the ass :)remember that you’re not just studying to get an A, but to gain knowledge. that’s why you’re in school, isn’t it? and that’s pretty cool. you are doing this for yourself.

– all the love, daniela

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 Just to add: I’m also a huge procrastinator but what I’ve been doing for the past couple years is summarizing all of my course notes. I use a coloured pen for titles/key words and I write out all of the important stuff. And I do this while watching tv or a movie or listening to music. Generally a week or two before a big test, I put on a movie that I like and I start summarizing. 

 I find that I retain information a lot better when I write it out. And sometimes the amount of course notes you get can be overwhelming, so condensing everything into a few pages will make it easier for you to review later on. Plus, writing notes doesn’t require 100% of your attention, so you can listen to something while doing it. It’s like.. productive procrastination! 

 Anyways this method has helped me get straight As for my last two years of university so I figured I’d share :) 

 - xo Juliana

[anonyask]

Dear anonyask, how to deal with mean girls at school? Thank you in advance guys you're awesome! XOXO

dear anon,

here are a few tips on how to handle mean girls:

understanding mean girls:take a minute to think about, why they treat you mean. some typical reasons could be:- they are jeaulous of you- they see you as a threat because you are different- you have true friends- you get positive attention from boys- you are the new kid and getting a lot of attentionof course none of them has to be the reason in your case, but you will figure it out or get an idea by thinking about it for a second.

empowering yourself:remember, you are not alone! a lot of people went through similar situations. on youtube for example you’ll find a lot of songs about bullying:- Mean Girls by Rachel Crow- Who You Are by Jessie J- Who’s Laughing Now By Jessie J- Brave by Sara Bareilles- Wings by Little Mix - Mean by Taylor Swift - Work What You Got by Mary J Bligelisten to them, when you are feeling down and alone. on the internet you may also find a lot people with similar stories or forums about that topic. maybe you can log in to one and share your expierence with likeminded people. talk with your parents, you may believe it or not, but they were your age once and probably had to deal with such stuff, too. ask how they handled it. then, one of the hardest things to do, ignore the jibes. when they are whispering while you’re nearby pretend you don’t hear it. if it’s in class, keep your eyes on the task at hand. whatever you do, don’t respond to their rude remarks. in fact, don’t even look in their direction. and also really hard to do so, but very important: be nice to the mean girls. this will throw them. instead of getting hurt, they will be forced to face the fact that you only say pleasant things back to them. this sets an example for them and others, but it also makes it very hard for them to respond nastily without looking really petty and cruel, which will then be noticed by everyone around.do things for yourself to make yourself feel confident. go shopping, take a day for yourself: pedicure, manicure, watch a good movie, bake a cake. doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it makes you feel good. 

make friends:look for people who have personalities like you. you will feel much better if you have friends to take your side. talk to them about how you feel. you could even get a counselor, just someone you feel comfortable with.

act like they mean nothing to you– in other words, simply ignore them! they don’t have any power if you pretend they’re not there.

mean girls (or boys) look for signs after they say something mean to you. if you are upset or crying after they say something mean to you, they know that they are succeeding in making you upset. have confidence and build it up, because any girl who insists on picking on a confident person will end up looking stupid.

everything i’ve written above won’t be easy to do. in fact, it requires a lot of strenghth and endurence. they won’t leave you be within seconds, they will try over and over again.

i wish you all this strength, dear anon. keep your head up high!

– all the love, daniela

[anonyask]

Hey Anonyask, I have a problem; my best friend for almost 4 years ignores me when I'm talking to her, I'm afraid that our friendship will end. I also don't know what I've done, but I think that it's because I'm on the top of the class while she's 2nd place in a rank of our class; maybe she got jealous or something? Please Anonyask, help me!

Hi there anon! Thank you for trusting our advice group for your problem and I think that the best thing to do is to approach your friend and ask what’s going on. I’m pretty sure that she’ll not just going to let go your friendship for almost 4 years only because of your ranking (If it is the problem).

Good luck and have a nice day ahead anon!

- JRein